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To feel like this about ex's lottery win?

220 replies

SpeedbirdSquawker · 19/11/2023 12:26

My ex has always been lucky with wins on the lottery. A few hundred here, a thousand there.

I have been blocked for a long time but a few days back he unblocked me, we've exchanged pleasantries and he told me he's won the lottery. We're talking a life changing amount here. He can give up work and live off this money with lots to spare for a very luxury lifestyle. I have asked why he unblocked me to get back in contact and he avoids the question entirely. The thing is, I feel utterly bitter about his win. The things I could only dream about with that amount!

AIBU to feel this way and how do I get over it?

OP posts:
VanityDiesHard · 20/11/2023 09:07

SpeedbirdSquawker · 20/11/2023 07:45

Actually after he said he was going to give me some of his win but there's no way now because of the 'shit I've said' , he blocked me. Manipulative and he's the very reason that I stay single. Dickhead.

He has no money, he did not win big. He is full of shit. Your description of him reminds me a lot of a man I used to know. He claimed to earn over two hundred grand a year (a lie) that he had an IQ of 180 (another absurd lie) that he used to work for M16 (are you getting the picture now?) Your ex is clever enough to choose a lie that is slightly plausible because he did play the lottery a lot, but he is still lying. I would bet my latest euromillions win on it 😉

BlueGrey1 · 20/11/2023 09:22

As you know, he was never going to give you money

Dont let him put you off meeting other men, that would only be letting him affect your life further, there are good men out there.

He sounds like a hideous creature

Original poster
SpeedbirdSquawker · 20/11/2023 10:10

I've sent a final message to him which is emotionless but I told him about his manipulative bullshit. I won't contact him again now.

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BlueGrey1 · 20/11/2023 10:32

Good, I would have had to say something to him as-well……what an asshole

Wonder if he will reply back

Phoenix1Arisen · 20/11/2023 10:51

What's that saying about 'if you lend someone £20 and never see them again, it was worth it'?

If this man had any genuine feelings that he hadn't always played fair with you, he would have sent you a gift whatever your response.

In your shoes, I would pay good hard cash to have my understanding of his character so amply vindicated.

Your self consoling line could perhaps be 'I hope you get everything you so richly deserve'! :-)

Ann444 · 20/11/2023 13:07

Apart from being tired from your job, message him back with that. Sounds like your life is going well apart from not being a millionaire? There's more to life than money. My ex and her ex won about 3.5 million on lotto a few years back and blew it all, and then some. I agree with the others here, he's just bragging, and that is a low class act. Block him.

AM1972 · 20/11/2023 13:12

He may feel the freedom coming his way, but he still feels lonely and perhaps he wants someone special to share is good fortune..🤔

I suggest texting him to discover his genuine intentions.

Crafthead · 20/11/2023 13:16

He's just gloating and he's an ex for a reason.

weirdoboelady · 20/11/2023 13:26

Crafthead · 20/11/2023 13:16

He's just gloating and he's an ex for a reason.

He's just gloating lying and he's an ex for a reason.

Corrected it for you. NO WAY has he had a big win!

stainesmassif · 20/11/2023 14:17

if he won the lottery he has definitely contacted everyone he feels ever slighted him with the same message. what a knob. plus, God luck with the gambling addiction after a big win.

Lavenderblue11 · 20/11/2023 15:51

Has he moved on with another relationship since you broke up, or has he been holding out to get you back OP?

ManateeFair · 20/11/2023 15:57

SpeedbirdSquawker · 19/11/2023 21:18

He's spent a fortune on different lotteries over the years. Used to be about £15 a day when we were together. That's not just on the national lottery but the Irish lottery too.

I do play the national lottery but I pay £4 a week.

In that case, I guarantee you that he will very soon have nothing left from his latest win, because he's definitely got a gambling addiction.

He's going to keeping throwing money at lotteries until the day he dies and he'll never really be any better off overall. If he'd put that £15 a day into a savings account he'd probably have more money now that the amount he's just won, the idiot.

So he's just been in touch to say he was going to give me some money but after all the shit I texted him, now there's no chance

Oh, what bollocks. You are SO better off without this dickhead in your life. He's a stupid prick.

Delphina17 · 20/11/2023 16:07

I'm pretty sure he lied. The chances of winning a life changing amount on the lottery are so ridiculously small, 1 in millions.

Ignore and focus on your life. Also consider if you stopped throwing money away on the lottery you'd have an extra £208 a year to treat yourself to something nice (and think that if he spends £15 a day as you said, that's £5475 a year so any wins aren't real wins)

Lotus3 · 20/11/2023 17:27

Mature Answer: Wish him well and end the conversation. No need to block.

Immature Answer: If you really want to take the wind out of his sails, use generative AI to fake a major life event photo- a gorgeous partner, a pregnancy, an engagement, heck, even your own lottery win... And wait for him to block you. 🤣😇

Chattygirl123 · 20/11/2023 17:48

My ex husband won 16 k on the lottery about 6 months after we divorced. But he spent the whole lot on rubbish and got back into debt. He was always rubbish with money!

Anetaaa · 20/11/2023 17:50

even the most amount of money will not compensate that he’s an asshole that just wants to rub it in 🤷‍♀️ sounds like you dodged a bullet !

Thatcrazymama · 20/11/2023 18:00

If u dont have a clean break n both of u havent been married since the divorce then u can have a claim on his win 😂😂😂😂id take that avenue to make sure he keeps his trap shut next time

VanityDiesHard · 20/11/2023 18:08

Chattygirl123 · 20/11/2023 17:48

My ex husband won 16 k on the lottery about 6 months after we divorced. But he spent the whole lot on rubbish and got back into debt. He was always rubbish with money!

I can believe it. 16k is really not that much, but it is enough that a foolish, spendthrift person would think it would last forever.

Ohmylovejune · 20/11/2023 18:31

It's interesting he's won quite a few times.over the years. One wonders how much he has spent achieving this? Chances are he spends.quite a bit and it's unlikely he will.lose that habit. And he's unlikely to know who his real friends are anymore..especially if he treats them like.he treated you.

Mememe9898 · 20/11/2023 20:20

How much did he claim to have won?

B32 · 21/11/2023 07:44

Unless you have children together I'd blocked him and be done with. He's rubbing it in your face, if he's won big soon problems will start with people showing up asking for this and that, yes money helps (and believe me I'd love a few hundred pounds right now) but it won't always be happy just cos he got money.

SaponificationQueen · 21/11/2023 08:01

Did he really win? Maybe he’s just being a jerk. Block him and move on.

Keeper11 · 21/11/2023 08:24

Sounds as if you are both playing with each other - blocking and unblocking, seeing and not seeing. You have no children together so no reason for any contact. Move on, you are not entitled to a share of his win, he is not going to give you any, it’s hard, but it’s a risk we all take when we split up.
He could be bankrupt or in prison and you would be gloating over your lucky escape. His win may not actually bring him much happiness, but why do you care?

Greenshed · 21/11/2023 08:25

The advice of others to block him and move on is the thing to do. Don’t let envy eat you up, try to let it go. He really isn’t worth you making yourself upset over it, he’s cruelly bragging to you and it would be better to block him from your life altogether.

buey · 21/11/2023 08:25

Are you divorced and did you formalise your financial settlement? You might have a claim
on some of those winnings if not.. see the case of Vince v Wyatt..

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