To feel like this about ex's lottery win?

[SpeedbirdSquawker]

My ex has always been lucky with wins on the lottery. A few hundred here, a thousand there.

I have been blocked for a long time but a few days back he unblocked me, we've exchanged pleasantries and he told me he's won the lottery. We're talking a life changing amount here. He can give up work and live off this money with lots to spare for a very luxury lifestyle. I have asked why he unblocked me to get back in contact and he avoids the question entirely. The thing is, I feel utterly bitter about his win. The things I could only dream about with that amount!

AIBU to feel this way and how do I get over it?

He messaged you for a reason - to gloat and upset you. And he's achieved it - you're now bitter and regretful. He's your ex for a reason and many would pay a lot of money to be free of a man like this.

There are a couple of wise comments above about a brief "that's nice dear, now off you trot" response and then block.

Just get on and enjoy your own life. If you want to go to Spain, what's actually stopping you? It sounds like a bit of a pipe dream to me. I'm sure that the reality of living there being self sufficient would be a different experience to that envisaged. You will never realise your dream unless you actually work hard towards it. Have you even applied for a visa, looked at working remotely etc? Have you considered changing jobs to maybe live and work in the UK in the countryside to start off with?

Life changing amount? 100s, 100s of thousands, millions? An expensive lifestyle, expensive gfs soon eat into it. You got rid of him. Money won't make him better, will just be the same. Congratulate, assume it's true and move on.

You'll never read stories of people who haven't messed up and are back to square one, makes boring reading.

The parents of an old friend of mine from school won a life changing amount on the lottery, they wouldn't say how much, but judging by their house, cars they have, their boat and the fact they haven't had to work for years, they've had a cracking outcome.

You just sound unreasonable and bitter.
People win stuff, you chose not to re-visit the relationship and this is a consequence of that.

Actually, you sound unreasonable and bitter

I would tell him that I don’t actually believe him and tell him to prove it by putting £10k into my bank account. With a laughing face emoji.

Smug bastard is just rubbing your nose in it.

Block him. He's an arsehole

Yep, this

You need to block him and move on, but you know that. I'd be suspicious he actually has that many wins or the amounts he says. Perhaps he is just trying to make you regret the breakup or wants you to be jealous so he has "enhanced" winnings a bit!

The nicest possible reason he contacted you is that you’ve been a big part of his life and he wanted to share his news with people. That said, it’s a bit mean to unblock you to give this news, knowing that it’s of no benefit to you to hear it.

I'd be absolutely furious if this happened given my ex sponged off me for 17 years. He wouldn't give me a penny either.

She's the bitterest girl in the living room.
The bitterest girl in the living room.

I'd take a lottery win over losing my ex any day!

and I doubt you'd be thinking enough about them to block and unblock and then let them know about your life - unless of course you still had a thing for them - which I bet OPs ex still has a thing for them, thus the ridiculous blocking, unblocking and telling them about their life

Best to block him. He’s deliberately bragging to make you feel bad.

His having won doesn’t really make a difference to you - you wouldn’t be any better off if he hadn’t and it doesn’t make any difference to your chances of winning this or anything else in future.

You won the lottery when he disappeared from your life. Getting rid of this bellend was truly priceless.

This ⬆

Tell him so.

Say "Congratulations - how wonderful for you. I always think that I won life's lottery when we split up and I wasn't answerable to you any more."

THEN block.

He got the money.

But he lost you. And clearly is still hung up about it.

...and he may just be lying

Ooooh yes! I would definitely do this.
Have often hoped one of the many Knobheads I have known would get famous, just so I could do this!
The Sun are always after a story 🤑
Obviously, sell to The Star if you are a Scouser though 😇

lol.

He is an ex for a reason and all the money in the world would not make up for that!

And if It turns out he's lying, they still have a story.

(Headline). "SAD LOSER TRIES TO MAKE EX BITTER BY PRETENDING HE'S WON THE LOTTERY"

"I don't know why he's still so obsessed with me" says ex-wife, Squawker (35) of Anytown, Someplace. "I wish he could just move on and get himself a life. He'd be so much happier if he could let go of the past."

Some of these answers have made me laugh, so thank you!

I really think he unblocked me to brag about being away somewhere nice and also about the lottery win.

Give him something inexplicable in response like "lol" and have him be the one wondering why you said that and writing forum posts wondering what it means.

What a cf.

He only unblocked you to tell you and wind you up. Go live your best life with the confirmation that he's a dick!