To feel like this about ex's lottery win?

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My ex has always been lucky with wins on the lottery. A few hundred here, a thousand there.

I have been blocked for a long time but a few days back he unblocked me, we've exchanged pleasantries and he told me he's won the lottery. We're talking a life changing amount here. He can give up work and live off this money with lots to spare for a very luxury lifestyle. I have asked why he unblocked me to get back in contact and he avoids the question entirely. The thing is, I feel utterly bitter about his win. The things I could only dream about with that amount!

AIBU to feel this way and how do I get over it?

I wouldn’t block him because that’s a sign that you’re bothered about him. I’d just mute him and that way he’ll just think you can’t be arsed to read and respond.

Gloating to your ex about your good luck is unpleasant behaviour. Bitterness & envy about your ex’s good luck is equally unpleasant. It sounds like you & him are well matched.

Even if you was still with him, you wouldn’t have a dream life now he has some money. In fact now he has the money, he’s probably even more of a prick now than he was before. No money is worth being with a man like that. He’s an ex for a reason, and money doesn’t change that fact.

He contacted you because he wants to gloat. Just shows you’re well rid.

Walter Mitty springs to mind...

This 100%. It will bother him that you’re not giving him a reaction, and blocking is a reaction imo.

When he used to win he didn't give me a penny. We paid half each to the bills despite me earning around £12,000 at the time and him earning around £30,000. He won so regularly too.

He can give up work and live off this money with lots to spare for a very luxury lifestyle.

Would have to be euromillions. A couple of million doesn’t enable you to live a very luxury lifestyle for long these days.

My ex had a big win, enough to buy a very large house outright so not anywhere near as much as your ex. My Mum said bet you wish you were still with him and I replied no because he is still a wanker regardless.

Message him back “Congratulations! Couldn’t happen to a nicer bloke! “ and hope he understands the irony.
It’s ok to be jealous especially as you were together for so long. He was an arse without money so now he’ll just be another arse with money.

money has a tendency to flow towards those who don’t need it. I’ve no idea why. The more you crave it the further it goes in the opposite direction.

His life is so empty that even though he won the lottery, the thing that made him happy is letting you know. Winning wasn't enough for him.
He's toxic and bitter. Mute him and walk away.

You know what would be more of a shame than blocking him? If you accidentally told everyone he won if he’s opted to stay anonymous, the begging letters alone would drive him mad 😏

I reckon it's a lie. Wish him well and block.

I'd be properly bitter too OP. You gave him ten years of your life. Although if you weren't married you wouldn't have shared his wealth anyway, unless he chose to be generous.

Block him. It’s irrelevant to your life. It’s someone who you were once connected to…this really changes nothing and is not worth brooding on. You don’t even know if it’s true.

Is he even telling the truth? It all sounds a bit tragic (on his part) OP - you and he aren't anything to one another so I'd try to view it the same as any of the other many people that win money on the lottery or get it by any other means every day/week/month. Even if you were still together - which sounds like would be a punishment in itself, it also sounds like you'd not see a penny of it whether you were affiliated with him or not so what's the difference either way?

I'd just have ignored him entirely or would have messaged something like "Clearly hasn't made you any happier, has it, if you're messaging me - best of luck!" - and block.

He unblocked you to gloat. Block him and don’t give him another thought. Life-changing wins are a poisoned chalice.

The kind of person who unblocks their ex to rub in a major win is, I suspect, also the kind of person that you read about whose life falls apart after a big lottery win. It won’t make him happier and it won’t make him a good person. Block him and don’t give him another thought.

To win as much and as often as he did before the so-called "big one", he must be buying a lot of tickets. So he would have also squandered a fair few pennies up to now

You have kids together? May have missed that.

Not the kind of man I need. Arrogant fucker.

Meh, if he's a twat then now he will just be a richer twat than he was before.

Whether he won or is lying has no bearing on your life or future happiness. He’s your ex. If he was your current partner and won this huge amount of money and led you to believe you were going to embark on an amazing life together and then dumped you for someone else I could understand your feelings but he’s irrelevant in your present life.

I live in a very modest two bed house and my daughter was invited to a 6th birthday party, I arrived at this huge gated house with an outdoor swimming pool and a home I could only dream of! I had a few hours or wondering how some people are so fortunate and then carried on with my own life.
Let it go.

He is probably lying.

He unblocked you just to show off?

What a loser.

I think it's quite likely that he's bullshitting or exaggerating.

But either way, you're better off without him!

why would you care? He's sorted and you're not (like the rest of us), not big deal.

And how could he contact you? You didn't block him? Maybe this is an opportunity to review your relatioships. If he wasn't good to you, why you keep thinking of him?