Waking boyfriend up on holiday ,aibu?

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We have saved all year for this holiday and got here yesterday.
Just to the Canary Islands but spent £3,000 for a nice suite.
The night before we came away we stayed in a nice hotel and he went to sleep at 7pm
Got up the next morning at 7am
We got here yesterday afternoon
We went to bed last night at 8pm and probably asleep for 10pm
I woke up this morning at 6am but couldn't get back to sleep as 8 hours was more than enough.
7am I got a drink from the beside cabinet and woke him up.
Apologised and after 5 mins I got up and went into living room to make a cup of tea.
He comes in moaning waking me up at 7am on holiday making tea
Anyway turned into a argument
Because I don't want to spend all holiday In bed.
He's so lazy
Honestly 8 -10 hours should be enough
Maybe I'm a little excited but I've planned this for ages now
I'm sat on balcony making no noise while he is still in bed.
He's told me I can't unpack my case till he gets up
Aibu to not want to spend all holiday in bed?
He says it's his holiday too -which it is
But surely me getting up and going in next room isn't really bad ?
I crept out

I think 7am is early to wake up on holiday - let him sleep! But no problem for you to get up earlier and leave the room quietly.

Well I didn't wake him up I just left him in bed to make a cup of tea and came on balcony
He expects me to go back to sleep till he wakes up
I just can't sleep for 10/12 hours like he wants

I wake up earlier than dh but I would have just taken my phone and snuck off into the lounge or sat in bed with it to not disturb him

Yeah I’d be annoyed at being woken up at 7am on holiday too.

7am is way too early to wake up when you’re on holiday!

Making tea is going to wake someone up tbh

We were asleep by 9.30 /10 so that's like 9-10 hours sleep
I like to wake up early on holiday
I don't expect him to wake up also but I don't want to be told off for going on the balcony with a cuppa

It's a first day of holidays. Let the man sleep. I do first day lazy sleep in and wouldn't be impressed by being woken up at 7 unless we were just in one room so it would be inevitable (like toilet).
Just let him rest.
Though moaning about you being in other room was U from him too

This would drive me mad but then I’m a “doer” on holiday not a sleeper/lounger. Get up & go out and enjoy the sun!!

@Shoxfordian the kettle is in a different room
From bedroom you walk along the hall into living area etc

And this is why we book accommodation which isn't just one room. If you're in a suite you should be able to do your own thing whilst he's in bed without disturbing him? Why did you not unpack when you got there?

Yanbu. He's a lazy weirdo. And v unreasonable. You are allowed to get out of bed once you wake up!

I would not be happy with dh waking me at 7am on hols & him moving about the place would def wake me as I'm a light sleeper.
However...why on earth are you both going to bed at 7pm & 8pm? That seems incredibly weird to me.
Don't you go out for dinner or drinks or a walk etc
Unless I was ill I couldn't be in bed for the night at 7pm.
Whats that all about ?

Totally unreasonable let the man sleep I assume he paid for the holiday too?

If you want to get up be quiet.

6am on a holiday with no jet lag. Ridiculous

Did you not know about his likes re sleep before you went away. I can see his point of view re 7am... although we are always up early on holiday so as not to waist time.

Have a chat with him when he does get up. Tell him you will get up early, get sorted and go out. Arrange a time to meet when he is ready.

Obviously if he thinks it's 11am he can do one. One of the saddest sights I've seen abroad is the couple in the room below on one holiday. He never left the sofa and lay there watching TV. You couldn't help but look as the TV was on 24/7 she was sat sadly in a chair on the small balcony the whole 2weeks

I can still sleep jn even if I’ve gone to sleep as early as 10pm, DH can’t. No way would I expect him to lie in bed for hours waiting for me to wake up. Perfectly reasonable to sneak out to the lounge and make a cuppa etc

I'm a very early riser but I'll creep around so I don't wake DH!

It's his holiday too and I don't think wanting to sleep for that long and relax on holiday should be a huge problem, you might just have to figure out a middle ground where you don't waste the day and you pop off and do something early morning solo?

She wasn't crashing around and didn't wake him on purpose. They went to bed early and already had 8 + hours sleep. Is she supposed to lie silently in bed for 2 more hours so she doesn't disturb his 10 hours? Not everyone can go back to sleep especially after a full night. OP you did nothing wrong.

I'm with you OP. 8 hours is enough for me. What adult needs 12 hours of sleep?!

@RedCoatSearch he likes to go for dInner at 6.30pm,have a drink then goes to bed and watches tele
Last night we spent the night watching master chef

She's posted they went to bed then and were probably asleep from 10 so perhaps having sex?

I would dress as quietly as I could and leave the room for a morning walk before I made kitchen noises.
Discuss what is happening the evening before and what time you will expect to head out for the day and eat breakfast.

After 8:00 am I would make noise.

Wow. And you spent £3k on a holiday to have dinner and 6.30 and watch masterchef in bed??

You guys are weirdly mismatched.
I wouldn't go on holidays with either of you😶

YABU to call him "so lazy" for simply sleeping. He's on holiday, you're meant to have a chance to rest and relax.