Waking boyfriend up on holiday ,aibu?

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We have saved all year for this holiday and got here yesterday.
Just to the Canary Islands but spent £3,000 for a nice suite.
The night before we came away we stayed in a nice hotel and he went to sleep at 7pm
Got up the next morning at 7am
We got here yesterday afternoon
We went to bed last night at 8pm and probably asleep for 10pm
I woke up this morning at 6am but couldn't get back to sleep as 8 hours was more than enough.
7am I got a drink from the beside cabinet and woke him up.
Apologised and after 5 mins I got up and went into living room to make a cup of tea.
He comes in moaning waking me up at 7am on holiday making tea
Anyway turned into a argument
Because I don't want to spend all holiday In bed.
He's so lazy
Honestly 8 -10 hours should be enough
Maybe I'm a little excited but I've planned this for ages now
I'm sat on balcony making no noise while he is still in bed.
He's told me I can't unpack my case till he gets up
Aibu to not want to spend all holiday in bed?
He says it's his holiday too -which it is
But surely me getting up and going in next room isn't really bad ?
I crept out

Sorry to get up at 7am is ridiculous to me. Some people are morning people, some people aren't. Even with a baby on holiday we were getting up to feed him at 7 & then going back to sleep for another few hours. I don't think we've ever been on holiday and made it to the breakfast buffet more than twice lol

I wouldn't want to go to be at 8pm on holiday and even if we'd had sex and were awake until 10pm I'd still wake up at 7am or earlier.

That's a good 9 hours.

Honestly I'd set your clothes out the night before, get up and have a leisurely breakfast and if he isn't up by the time you've finished all bets are off. Leave and do what you want and let him catch you up.

I don't think you're being unreasonable. It's 7am not 4am. You're doing normal morning things and trying to be quiet. He can wear ear plugs.

So is she supposed to lie in bed awake bursting for the loo and wanting a drink so her princess of a boyfriend sleeps?!

I can see why so many women end up in shit relationships if they tolerate this crap from men. If you get woken up go to sleep again or get up.

Getting up at 8 or 8.30, for example, hardly constitutes ‘spending the whole holiday in bed’

I would be more miffed about a tea time dinner and in bed to watch tv when on my holiday!

And… sharing an apartment is hard with people with different timings because most people don’t really do things like make cups of tea quietly enough not to wake someone.

I think you need a calm talk about how the holiday will go once you are having a lovely drink somewhere.

This is why its a good idea to go on holiday with a boyfriend, as its a great way to find out if you are compatible. You are not. Try and enjoy the rest of your holiday, but ultimately the chances are your relationship is doomed.

You haven’t even been there 24 hours your deciding he’s had enough sleep

sorry you sound a nightmare isn’t the idea of holidays relaxing and pleasing yourself

I like a couple of lazy days at the being then do stuff on following days

I’d be well pissed off nobody needs to unpack a suitcase at 7 in the morning

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How much sleep does he get in his day to day life?

It’s a holiday for both of you. Take a chill pill and relax. He doesn’t have to get up early just because you want to.

I dont think you are being unreasonable at all. Is this your first holiday together? How long have you been together? Do you live together?
I would not be going to bed that early on holiday and agree that 8 hours sleep is plenty. Once I'm awake I'm awake and want to get up and make the most of my holiday.

So you’ve paid a few grand for a different bed and to watch what’s on at home. Mind blowing. Are you so mismatched at home?

I also love lazy days at the beginning of the holiday
Lazing at the pool
Not sleeping in bed all day long
Last holiday he didn't get up till nearly 11 then got drunk and was in bed for 5pm and no dinner
I'm not a nightmare I just get bored of going on holiday with him and spending most of the time alone.
I don't expect him up at the crack of dawn but 10/12 hours sleep every night is too much for me so I want a cup of tea

He is winding down. It's not unusual at the start of a holiday when one is exhausted from work and ordinary routine.

I am surprised he doesn't appear to want to go out in the evening, the Canaries have a lot to offer, however I wouldn't want to be woken at 7am.

At home on the weekend he doesn't get up at all
He's home from Friday night and doesn't leave the house till Monday morning
Been together 4 years and live together

I don't think you can expect him to follow how you want to be. We're all different. Neither of you are wrong. Just not compatible!

I think the only time I’ve spent hours and hours in bed on holiday we were shagging tbh.

@Ballsbaill I didn't say anything about not going to the loo, or getting some water- I said making tea is noisy which it is even in another room - it's about showing basic consideration for your partner

I agree that 7am is a tad early for holiday without context, but I think people are missing that he went to bed at 8pm!!

OP I'd be pretty at my partner wanting to spend 50% of every 24 hour period in bed / asleep too, unless he had some kind of illness that justified it.

You should have unpacked when you arrived though; you could be having breakfast or out for a walk by now.

He sounds lazy and boring. What do you do at the weekends while he's loafing around?

This is very unusual. How do you have a life 'together ' ?

Go and get your case, take it into the room he's not in. Get what you need to go out for a walk/to the beach or pool for a couple of hours, and let him sleep.

You're not wrong to be awake at 7, he's not wrong to want a lie-in.

(But yes I would find dinner at 6.30 then going back to the room to watch TV a strange way to spend a holiday)

7am is a bit early but I wouldn’t mind. I like to snooze in the sun later!

This however, this is ridiculous. He might as well have stayed at home!! tV in bed is not the evenings I have planned for holidays!! 6.30 dinner? Is he actually 10 years old?? Madness??

And this relationship works for you?

If he's like that at home he's not going to miraculously change on holiday.
You don't sound compatible at all TBH. If you're sticking together then you'll have to get used to doing stuff on your own as it sounds a bit miserable to do as he wants to all the time.

So being in bed asleep at 7/8am constitutes as being in bed all day long?!
Dh and I can both be early risers, not always but I’m often up at 5:30 at home. I’ll lie in bed quietly until i’m ready to get up and either go downstairs or to the gym (always have a gym bag packed downstairs for this very reason, so I don’t wake him).
Just have some clothes left next door and get up and go out somewhere until mid morning (10am ish?), walk along the beach, breakfast, a swim… that’s my dream actually!
It’s the first day of holiday, you’re causing a lot of fuss.
As a side note, going out for dinner at 6 and watching master chef in bed at 8 sounds like a really boring holiday, check he’s not actually in a coma 😂

Early bird special dinner for a youngish man would give me the ick tbh.