Waking boyfriend up on holiday ,aibu?

[ifitfeelslikeparadise]

We have saved all year for this holiday and got here yesterday.
Just to the Canary Islands but spent £3,000 for a nice suite.
The night before we came away we stayed in a nice hotel and he went to sleep at 7pm
Got up the next morning at 7am
We got here yesterday afternoon
We went to bed last night at 8pm and probably asleep for 10pm
I woke up this morning at 6am but couldn't get back to sleep as 8 hours was more than enough.
7am I got a drink from the beside cabinet and woke him up.
Apologised and after 5 mins I got up and went into living room to make a cup of tea.
He comes in moaning waking me up at 7am on holiday making tea
Anyway turned into a argument
Because I don't want to spend all holiday In bed.
He's so lazy
Honestly 8 -10 hours should be enough
Maybe I'm a little excited but I've planned this for ages now
I'm sat on balcony making no noise while he is still in bed.
He's told me I can't unpack my case till he gets up
Aibu to not want to spend all holiday in bed?
He says it's his holiday too -which it is
But surely me getting up and going in next room isn't really bad ?
I crept out

I don't understand why you have to do what he wants. he's just your boyfriend. You should be equals in the relationship. Why don't you go to Morgan without him if he doesn't want to go. Why do you think you won't be dumping him the moment you return home? This is who he is? Why do you want this?

Love it! Packed his whinging ass back home on a flight. Good for you.
I presume that was then the end of relationship?

@cmaalofshit it sure was. Of course the matters were slightly complicated by the fact that we lived together at the time (as assume OP does with her boyfriend) but he really showed his true colours on that holiday as well as our complete incompatibility. We slept in separate bedrooms on my return and I moved out as soon as I could.

Get your stuff and go and sit in the sun. You'll regret it when you're back in the freezing cold next week.

Let him sit there with a face on, he is anyway so no loss.

Did I read correctly you have a September 2024 holiday planned ?? If there was ever a time to forfeit a deposit...

Sod that for a game of soldiers

Grab your stuff and go and sit in the sun, stay out as late as you want, then get up when you want, have breakfast and sit in the sun. Rinse and replete till you go home.

He sounds like a complete man child. Not sure why he even wants to be on holiday, he could sit and watch tv, stay and bed and be cold at home

@ifitfeelslikeparadise You still haven't responded to PP who asked what the fuck is going on at weekends where you say he stays home/in bed all weekend every weekend. Unless he has a serious underlying illness, which I think you would have mentioned by now, this is SERIOUSLY WEIRD. So you never get to do anything with him at weekends? What do you think his contribution would be if you ever had kids?

How are you even talking about being with him next September? Are you mad?

Why on earth are you wasting your holiday like this? Go and do what you want to do, sit where you want to sit, and eat where and when you want to eat and leave your boyfriend to wallow in his misery.

I must admit that I'm starting to find this a bit hard to believe now, particularly as you're saying that you've got another holiday booked with him. Why would anyone put up with this?

Go to Mogan on your own. Break up with him when you get back. Either cancel Greece or change the booking and go with someone else, or on your own! Please do not stay with this drain. If you do, I'll await a post next September on how he's ruining your Greek holiday...

Never mind ruining your holiday @ifitfeelslikeparadise this idiot is ruining your life!

He stays in bed all weekend at home? Why?

Have you had previous bad experiences as it's hard to understand why anyone would tolerate such a shitty useless partner. Do you have very low self confidence?

Good gracious your updates get worse.
He's a complete arse. Sits you in the shade, puts the stops on your day out then moans it's you.
Just go about your holiday on your own.
Mogan is beautiful go on the day trip on your own tomorrow.
Dh has promised to go to GC on holiday with me next year I think Mogan is where we will stay.
Cancel Greece or change the booking to a friend or family member you can have fun with. He sucks the fun and joy from you everyday. Life isn't supposed to be that sad.

In the post earlier today I thought the ZoP was going to Mogan on her own anyway because lazy lump had a tummy ache, probably due to inertia. I was surprised he'd decided to come too. I'm really not understanding why the OP is being so passive. One of the good things about being an adult is choosing what to do with your time. Don't waste any more of it with this boring lazy sulky man

Come on OP, stand up for yourself, don't let him ruin the rest of it. He's too hot? Ok that's fine you stay in the shade but I'll be in the sun. Said in a reasonable voice, nothing he can pick on. Stop letting him make the rules!

To be honest you both sound like a pair of melts, him moaning he's tired and achy and you pandering to him all the time. You've already said he's just as bad at home so why are you staying with him?

He can stay in The shade

You grab a sunbed in the sun and ignore him

Sadly yjj don't seem compatible at all. What a waste of £3k

My husband is an early riser but he will sit and read until I get up or just go out for walk. 7am on holiday is the middle of the night. Give the chap a break and let him sleep if that is what he wants to do.

Do you also come in Friday night and refuse to leave your house until Monday because you're tired and on holiday watch TV all evening from 8.30?

You admitted in your first post you woke him up now youre saying you didn't?

7am is early for a holiday. Maybe he couldn't fall asleep easily or maybe he kept waking in the night.

C'mon OP stop being such a bloody drip. Leave lazy boy and get on with your holiday.
I'm not even thinking you're staying cos he is a great ride cos he sounds far too lazy!!
What's the point to this? him? you as a couple?

What you’ve done wrong is pick an absolute arsehole and waster to be your partner. He’s an entitled prick, fuck him off.

I can only sit in the sun if I’ve got an umbrella to give me shade, so I don’t think he’s totally unreasonable there, but dh and I would find somewhere that suited us both or if we had to, we would go and sit separately. There wouldn’t be a massive fuss.

I'd be annoyed at being woken up at 7am on my holiday.

If I were you I'd just quietly get ready and go out & meet up with him later. You're both happy then, no dramas! Enjoy your hol

@ifitfeelslikeparadise did things improve?

Wow - that's a lot of sleep! My kids dont go to bed that early! 🤣

I can see why you're annoyed, dont get out in the evening and he's still in bed in the morning til late... Everyone say 'it's his holiday too' seem to not see that OP is getting bugger all holiday if they dont go out in the evening and are trapped in silence til his nibs gets up. £3k for him to sleep a lot is not ok. I would be up early, coffeed up and wanting to explore unless i had been out on the town the night before. Sounds boring, grumpy and controlling to me (honestly if he moans at you being in another room while he tries to get a good 12 hrs he is having a laugh) i would have gone and got dressed and gone out without him. 7am isnt too early when you have holiday excitement and the canaries are beautiful first thing. It's not like you were trying to get him up, just having a brew.

I hope it's just a first day thing and he is sleeping off the travelling! Otherwise he's behaving like he's 80 and needs to do a bit of give and take if your relationship is going to last further than this holiday.

Did you actually read the full posts?