Doing a Sarah’s law on my child’s dad he doesn’t know

[FirstTimeMum0]

hi after being a single mother for 6 months out of the blue my child’s farther messages me. He has since barely messaged me after meeting his child a few times. However his sister has offered to have my child overnight. I never have any help no close family near me so it’s very rare I get a brake. Do I tell her I’ve done a Sarah’s law on her brother? I don’t even know if to let any of his family see my child. Obviously I won’t be able to share what I find out from it on here or with anyone. It’s just a lot to take on

I'm not sure I understand, did a search show something?
I wouldn't be sending my 6 month old to people I don't know.

Yea not a chance I'd send my child to someone I don't know and certainly not a baby

Please don't hand your baby over to what is essentially a complete stranger to them for any care, day or night.

No. No matter what the Sarah's law check says, do not let a stranger look after your baby.

What are you thinking?!

Offer for the aunt to accompany you on a visit to the park or something similar.

Never give a stranger the care of your baby.

I don't care how little support you have. Under no circumstances leave your child with a virtual stranger. Regarding your childs partner, what suspicions do you have and why?

No please don't tell anyone you're applying for access to information via Sarah's law, it never ends there - people get curious and ask questions on the findings.

Please never give your child to someone you don't know and trust implicitly. Everyone's standards are different and you don't know what they could be exposed to in your absence

Never ever ever in a million years let anyone look after your baby let alone a stranger.

No do not leave your baby in this person's care. Do not mention about the Sarah's law request.
I know it's tough, I'm a single parent too, but do not trust this out of the ordinary request from your ex's sister (or any other stranger).
Can you arrange to stay with a trusted family member or friend for a break or at least some support?

@FirstTimeMum0 neither of them have shown any interest for the last six months!! they dont get to start now, certainly not the sister and I would be wary about the dad too!! no matter how few breaks you get, your child is the most important thing in life

I can’t really share why I’m suspicious gives too much away on here

No there is literally no one who could have my child for me. That’s why I was so tempted to take up this offer

So he is a danger to children.

Don’t jump into an overnight straight away. It will confuse baby
If you trust her then
do a few visits together. Then out for an hour and build it up.

Did you know his sister before you had a baby?

Is it possible that he has only just told her he has a child.

If you are in any way suspicious of their motives then say no that doesn't work for us.

Can you afford a babysitter from a properly accredited agency to look after your baby while you go out for a while?

Op, you really need to reasses your boundaries if you're even thinking of this.

How? You're anonymous. I'm guessing he's a bad un then. As others have said, no.

You need to ask her if she knows why you might be concerned about her brother being around kids and your child. If she hasn’t got a clue then how would she be able to protect your child from something she doesn’t know about? If she has got a clue she might show that she understands the concerns in which case you can consider the offer. She might also make out like they’re lies or false accusations etc though and if that happens you know she can’t keep your kid safe.

If I was in anY way suspicious I wouldn’t even entertain a relationship with any of the family.

You also don’t pass kids over to relative strangers overnight for a break.

Are you mad?

If you need help and don’t have any, pay for a professional with references and a DBS check.

I don’t understand why you want a a check on one person when that isn’t the person you’re thinking of handing your child over too. I agree don’t give your baby to a stranger.

No you do not put your need for a break over the safety of your child, ever. Even if you’re the most tired you’ve ever been that is not an option.

You need to look for a childminder or nursery for a break, not someone you think can sexually abuse your infant child. What are you thinking?!

As a mum your right to a break does not come over handing your child to a stranger! Give your head a wobble, and then another!

Have you met this woman before?

I have to say it does raise red flags about her if she wants to take a small baby who she has never met overnight for the first visit.

her judgement and boundaries seem poor.

lf is was my niece in this situation I would ask if I can come round for a coffee- see the baby, bring a present and get to know you both. Build a relationship over time before asking for baby alone.

her brother sounds dangerous? Please don’t give them your baby.