To not think 41 is that old for pregnancy

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I was lucky enough to have kids in my early 30’s but obviously many aren’t. Dh said that my friend 41 is very old for pregnancy and he worries about her child’s future.

41 is the new 31.
I'm currently bf my 3rd, aged 6 weeks, born when I was 41. Think will have another.
55 I'd agree with your DH, but 41, I think he needs to get with the times a bit.

It’s on the older side but I wouldn’t say "very old" and I certainty wouldn’t worry about the child’s future.

No doubt it’s not the ideal age to have a baby but there are worse things that happen to children than being born to an older parent.

I agree with your DH on this one OP.

My DP's dad was around that age when DP was born and now we are in our 30's he's in his 70's. Where as my parents are in their mid/late 50's and the difference is significant.

His mum is in her 60's and there is a clear difference in how much they can do, even our kids are aware of it. Just today DD said 'Nanny plays with me and grandad watches TV with me because he can't play'

Biologically it’s probably considered old, but socially, maybe “a bit older” but definitely not actually old. If that makes sense!

I fell out with a good friend hi declared I was ridiculous having a dc at 43...

Personally I'm 38 and would not cope at all with pregnancy. Mine are 20, 16, 13 and 11.

Well I had my last at 42 and at 50 now I don’t feel any different to when I had 8 year olds in my twenties and thirties. I was a marathon-running go-getter though (now I’m a sedentary desk jockey).

I wouldn't want to but it's fine for anyone who does. My MIL was 43 having my husband (we're the same age but my mum is 20 years younger) and they have a very close relationship now.

41 is old for a pregnancy because if the physically there is a higher risks of things going wrong for the mother or the baby.
Nothing to do with the baby's future IMO.

My DF was 40 when I was born he died at 94 - and was very active until 93
I never thought he would see my DC grow up - but he did and was a fab grandparent

I think 41 is classed as old for pregnancy in medical terms isn't it geriatric? I'm 30 and not yet pregnant (to term) and I've already been told I'll be an old mum 😂 depressing thoughts!

I agree with your dh, so for me I'd hate it, but of course we're all different. I'm nearly 50 now, and just tired. A baby at 44 would have been absolutely fine, a 6 year old at 50 not so much. A 16 year old at 60, horrendous.

41 might be ok to have a baby but 51 will be tough and exhausting to have a 10 year old,

Why is your bloke worried about your friend having a baby at 41?

My ds is 9 and I am 52...not exhausting at all!

None of his business but it is on the old side, that's just a fact. But it's her risk to take.

People focus on the age of the mother and being an older parent. That’s not it, the eggs get old and there’s increased risks of health issues and disabilities for the child. If you’re lucky to have a healthy child as an older mother then that’s great! But the health risks are still there

It is statistically more risky to both the baby and mother to have a baby after 40 and more risk of abnormalities or certain genetic problems. Personally I had my youngest at 37 and felt a lot older than my previous pregnancies. Ultimately none of us know what our lives have in store any of us could die tomorrow or live to be 100

Yes it's too old to actively plan a child in my opinion.

Perhaps he can offer to their god parent so when she dies of decrepitude in a few years, someone will be there for the kids 🙄

So many women are having kids in their early 40s. It's really not a thing

Can you explain why?

My partner is mid 40's (I'm in my 30's), and we are TTC.

Although I have some concerns, I wouldn't say that I feel like it would be 'horrendous' to have a 16 year old at 60, and it certainly won't stop us TTC. I'm interested as to why you think it would be so bad?

To me, 60 seems far from elderly, and most 16 year olds don't need parents who run around after them, it's more emotional/ practical/ financial support by that age which a 60 year old is more than capable of.

I had my first at 41. Anyone over 35 is classed as geriatric! I had a fairly easy pregnancy and no complications. I don’t think anyone is truly prepared for a baby regardless of age

I am 42 and going through hell with perimenopause so I could think of nothing worse than being pregnant or dealing with a newborn right now. In saying that, my grandmother was 45 when she had my mother and my MIL was 47 on her last child. Depends on the woman.

What’s it to him?