To hate my partners dog?

[Completelywornout]

Ok so I’m expecting some hate with this 1.
But I just don’t like her. I look at her and don’t feel any love towards her. Maybe I’m a bit jealous, but who knows.
I’ve told him repeatedly I don’t want her on our bed, yet she’s always on it. She sleeps under his covers and it actually makes me feel a bit sick. He says what’s the problem she’s on my side… and I see his point but that doesn’t make me feel any different about it.
When we’re in the room she’s on his side- but whenever we go out the room she will get on my side. Pull the covers back and sleep on my sheets 🤢 forever telling her off. I’ve started putting empty bottles all along my side of the bed while I’m not in the room but recently she’s started pushing them over and just getting under the covers. She always gets on my side, even tho dps side is closer to her bed!
A few weeks ago I went into the room and she’d peed on my side of the bed! Straight through to the mattress. I was furious.
If it were up to me she wouldn’t be in our room full stop, but unfortunately we have to keep her and our other dog separate at all times and we’re scared 1 of the kids will accidentally let them get together so keeping her in another room isn’t an option.
Im at a loss on how I’m meant to keep her off my bed and it’s driving me crazy. Dp doesn’t care because obviously he allows her to do it. She’s almost 6 so have a few more years to put up with this and I feel like it’s just going to get worse.

I just find it heartbreaking reading stuff like this. You should try and re home both dogs, and never get another pet.

Yes we will be doing that as soon as the applications open. We have bought her a muzzle and she is in the process of being muzzle trained. I actually completed an online course recently from dogs trust which was called “learn how to muzzle train”.
people have got this misconception that we are tracksuit wearing thugs. That is not the case at all. Our dog is not, and never will be, a status symbol. We bought her for the love of the breed. We followed a few pages on Facebook and instagram before buying her and spoke to other xl bully owners. We still keep in contact with her breeder. All of the rest of the litter, as far as I am aware, are all great and show no aggression. My pugs only started fighting AFTER our older dog passed away. Same as the other 2. This hasn’t been an ongoing issue for the past 5 years, it’s literally started happening this year.

TBH I don’t know why you’d get an XL Bully and be surprised it’s aggressive.

You don't need a vote between you and your partner to make decisions to protect yourself and your children.

It's not a " I tried to do the right thing and euthanise a dangerous dog who has shown enough aggression towards another animal and makes our living situation unsustainable, resentful and unsafe but my partner said no so I've just got to tolerate the constant violence and risk to others lives".

It's a "I consulted a vet and had a dangerous dog euthanised because safety above everything comes first".

This dog cannot be rehomed. It can not be rehabilitated in the house it currently lives in and it's unlikely that even if it could be rehomed, that you'd land on the Goldilocks standard home and family with the means, resources and patience to rehabilitate to a safe enough standard.

There are worse fates than a painless, fast death for a dog like that.

I don't even like dogs, and I'm feeling overwhelming pity for your poor injured terrified upstairs dog.

Sorry but I struggle to see the benefit of owning a breed that is renowned for killing humans. What does an XL Bully have to love about it that another breed doesn’t? What’s worth the risk it’s already posed?

It was my older son who was in charge of the dogs, not my 15 year old.
We have 2 single mattresses on our bed as they incline so it’s literally 2 separate beds.
the xl bully does not rule. She’s well behaved and does as she’s told 100% of the time. She is walked on a short lead and we never let her off the lead.
And how can you assume there is no hygiene? Everything is clean and looked after. There is no concern for my children regarding cleanliness and they never leave the house smelling of dog nor covered in dog hair. They may find the occasional “stray hair” on the side of their plate, but more often than not it’s come off my head! Not the dogs

Me too. I’m really not a dog person at all but that poor thing having to live with the very thing that has attacked it several times.

Bring in dog licences

I’m afraid I agree with this. Poor dogs.

Your poor dog has been attacked 3 times and you still can't see what a complete mess this is?
It's a disaster waiting to happen

there have been 12 people killed in 3 years so they do not have a tendency to kill people.

JFC.

12 people killed by a dog is a disproportionate amount.

Anyone who thinks this is not that bad should never own anything more than a fucking stick insect

Have you told her breeder about your xl bully fighting with your other dog? What about the owners of the rest of the litter? Why do you think you would know if some of the other dogs were being aggressive?

And that's 12 people killed, never mind all of the maimings and disfigurements and poor normal dogs that have been killed by the horrible things. It's so selfish to own an XL bully, either you do the responsible thing and don't risk other people's pets with your dog by keeping it leashed for life, and paying £70 a week for an enclosed dog run (these dogs need exercise, a leash walk doesn't cut it), or you let it act like a normal dog and run the risk of it changing someone's life forever when it attacks another dog, because they're fighting dogs at heart.

Wtf have I just read?! 😳

Still none the wiser as to the upstairs dog’s breed….

Plot twist… upstairs dog it a pitt bull?

Rehome the dog that goes on your bed. To a place it can roam freely and be loved just as it is. Please.

Yeah he was 1 of the 1st people we went to after the 1st fight. I assume he would tell us if any of the others had been aggressive, but then again maybe he wouldn’t have. And we also follow them on Instagram and my partner does speak to them every now and then

Sorry nobody has asked. She’s a Bordeaux x boxer

Have you tried calming aids? There are many on the market, pheromone plug in all over your house could help with all the animals. I would also consider using brain games and anything that encourages licking. As a dog will be more tired from working their brain than from any walk. Licking is a natural anti anxiety behaviour for dogs. It can be as simple as changing how you feed them. Don't use bowls, scatter the food (if kibble fed) but you will need to feed each dog separately for this. Get old towels or clothes and roll the food in to them and then tie them up. Briar roots and likimats are fantastic.

Have you had all the dogs vet checked to ensure there are no physical issues causing pain?

Music is good for soothing dogs classic or rock works really well.

It may help for you to rebuild your bond with the dogs. Do some basic training with them all individually. 5 or 10 minutes a day each would be better than nothing.

As she is most likely a large dog if you have room for it get her a toddler bed and give her, her own bedding that may encourage her to stay out of your bed. Also place dirty clothing of yours and your partners in her bed to help sooth her.

Several people asked what breed his dog was.

I knew it was going to be another bully/mastiff type breed. Did the utterly brainless XL breeder know that you already had a female mastiff cross in your household? And he sold you a female puppy of a notoriously dog-aggressive breed? There was no way that was ever going to work. Even females of docile breeds can fight bitterly, especially if they’re close in age.

Are these dogs spayed at least?

Hang in - there's ANITHER two dogs (pugs?) in the house as well? Four in total?

This is insane. I love dogs, but this is terrifying.

I'd report you to the rspca if I was your neighbour

Exactly what I thought after reading this! Never mind banned breeds, these two sound like they should be banned owners.

At this point I think everyone needs re-homed.