To not want to go swimming every single weekend...

[lazymummy1988]

A couple of months ago I changed jobs so that I wasn't working Sundays, and could spend them as a family (DS6 & DD2)

Since I've changed.. every single Sunday DS and DH go swimming. Sometimes myself and DD come along but it's quite cold and she's usually got a cough or cold lately, and tbh I just don't enjoy it. So myself and DD either spend the day at home or wandering round the town aimlessly waiting for them to finish swimming.

AIBU to not want to do that every Sunday? I may as well go back to working them as they're not enjoyable family days I had in mind!

OP, your husband's timing is shite imo. He needs to book an earlier or later session to bookend the day, or find somewhere they can do that if that particular place won't work for that.

I will say, when right from when I was a baby up until when I was about 12, my dad took me and my sister swimming. Mum came when we were younger but wasn't so keen and stopped after that. My dad and I only even stopped because I started feeling all teenagery and self conscious about being in a swimming costume tbh. I don't think it's unreasonable for this to be a weekly activity as long as DS wants to keep doing it apart from pre-planned, whole-family days out or special occasions etc., even if it must be on Sunday - some of my fondest childhood memories are going swimming with my dad and the games he would make up for us.

I feel your job is a different issue - if you aren't happy, you shouldn't stay in it. If you have to stay in it, it's entirely reasonable that DH takes DS swimming at a time of day that doesn't end up monopolising such a relatively substantial block so that you can actually have time to do things together as the four of you. It's the fact that he wanted you not to work weekends and then isn't actually doing anything to capitalise on that time better now the change has been made that's the issue, not that he's still taking DS swimming weekly in itself imo.

Am wondering if I've been reading a different thread ?

I've read about a man who is taking his ds swimming every week, which sounds like a great thing for the ds.
The OP doesn't personally enjoy it, and thinks that means no-one should go
She is even wishing she hadn't left her job as apparently that would be preferable to spending time doing stuff her dc enjoy, and spending time with her family setting up a fantastic habit of being active every week.

Try swapping round the parents actions here, and think of what the responses would be if the Dad in this situation were a woman, trying to do right by her dc, (taking them swimming each week) and the OP were a man, stropping because what they imagined Sundays would be like if he gave up work, and found the parent who had been looking after one child, wanted to share the parenting.

They would have been ripped to shreds, and rightly so.