Who pays for the pizza?

[limefrog]

Me and DH hosted a few friends for fireworks last night and ordered takeaway pizza. This was part of the invite message we sent out, we said we'd be ordering pizza just before the fireworks.

My DH thinks that we should ask everyone who had pizza to pay for it.

I think that as we are hosting and they are our guests we should pay - we can afford it and it's not a very regular occurrence that we host things like this, so I just see it as treating our friends. Most of them brought some wine or cake etc to contribute anyway.

AIBU?

Or is my husband?

You are correct, the host pays unless previously agreed before . You certainly cant ask for money now

You hosted and you pay. Your invite implies that too. And they brought stuff so If you want to be so petty then he should pay them for that too. How embarrassing that he accepted the money and acting dumb about not knowing how it works!

If you've invited them for pizza, you pay- if you're all there and spur of the moment all get hungry and decide to get one then, I'd be ok to split the bill.

You invited them so you pay. If you ask for money it will be the end of your friendship. If you want them to contribute in future then say so before inviting them 'perhaps you could come to us and we could share the cost of ordering some takeaway'.

If you advertised that you would be ordering pizza on the invite, but did not specify everyone should chip in for their own - you shouldn't be expecting people to pay up for the pizza. Lesson learned, next time specify a shared tab on pizza ordering.

Tight sod. You invite, you pay.

You invite, you pay. If people at the time had said 'oh how much do we owe you for the pizza?' you could, at that point have said £5 each or whatever if you really wanted to. You absolutely cannot go back now and ask for money when it appeared to be your treat on the night.

Glad he's seen sense, you were definitely right to say you should pay! He should just text the friend who offered to pay and say that he wasn't thinking when he gave his bank details, of course the pizza was on him and he was glad the friend could come.

Omg your partner is an embarrassment.

I personally whilst attending would also offer to pay BUT I wouldn't expect the host to take it if it was part of the invite, I'm just being nice. An old friend about 10 years ago won two tickets to the cinema (it was the cheap night back then, tuesday), she asked if I wanted to go and I said yes. I offered her the 2.95 for the ticket and she took it😆 don't ask me why I offered, sometimes I'm just too polite.

If I were you I would contact the person and say I'm so sorry I didn't realise you gave my partner the money for the pizza and I would refund that person.

I think going forward you have a serious word with the other half and future invites you can state dinner is on us so there's no confusion if people are to pay or not.

Tell your partner you can't ask people to pay for food when it's your idea.