DH and his fucking chilli

[Humpfree]

DH smothers everything in chilli, even though he can’t handle spicy food himself. Everytime he makes chicken it’s smothered in chilli and ends up where neither of us can eat it. He does it every fucking time!!!

Tonight he decided to randomly make some roast potatoes as a snack 🫤 to said I didn’t want any and he got all l offended so I said if you make cheesy potatoes I’ll eat them … so that’s what he did. He’s spent over an hour and a half making these fucking things … they smelt nice, all covered in melted cheese - lovely! Except when I bit into one my mouth was suddenly on fire. Yep, he’s smothered then in chilli. We now have a full bowl of cheesy potatoes sat there that neither of us can eat. I ask why he does this and he doesn’t answer me! I think it’s so weird. It would be different if he loved spicy food but he can’t tolerate it any better than I can!

what a waste

Is he following recipes? Some chefs like Jamie Oliver add chilli to loads of dishes, maybe he's copying them?

Exactly, well said.

Put his chilli stabilsers back on by replacing all the other products with standard supermarket chilli flakes? I add them to food after cooking as other family members don't like chilli. Would be lovely on the roast potatoes with a spoonful of sour cream. Fantastic sprinkled on mac and cheese or jacket potatoes and so mild it's hard to overdo it.

This is exactly what I was going to write and I haven't bothered to read a single further response.

That doesn’t answer the question

I’d be really cross. I can’t stand food waste anyway but he is deliberately sabotaging food. Or maybe it’s not deliberate and he just goes on auto-pilot? Either way I would have to sit him down and find out exactly why he is doing this and to make it clear it is ridiculous, wasteful and idiotic.

He sounds bonkers. I’ll stick a Naga in a chilli but we both enjoy and can handle it. Not sure why you’d keep doing it unless you were trying to increase your tolerance? My first couple of vindaloos were hard work after being a jalfrezi man for years but I love one now.

Sorry but this is making me laugh so much - I don’t know if it’s the fact that he doesn’t like chilli either but is chucking it in everything of the fact that roast potatoes are apparently a snack?!

It's probably a case of refusing to eat everything he makes from now on, cook for yourself and keep doing that. Let him sulk if he wants.

Hope he doesn't discover Carolina Reaper chilli

Oh yes. Then I'd have to scoff a week's worth of Pan Haggerty to make up for the soul crushing disappointment of cheesy spuds I can't eat. 😭

I applaud you OP for staying married to this man. I don’t think I could continue to with someone so spectacularly stupid.

Have you ever properly gone mad at him? I would. It's a waste of food for a start that could have been eaten
I would have said what the fuck are you doing more than once by now!

The chilli insistence is obviously mad but I am also concerned about how he got offended when you said you didn’t want to eat something which he randomly decided to make, and you then gave in and tried to eat it.

It does sound like he's trying to be hard, super hot chillis and BBQ in the rain....

It's clearly stoking his fragile ego.

Nah. This is either fake or the fella is a bloody idiot.

Your husband sounds as thick as they come. It would be one thing if he liked hot food and you didn’t so much, but he doesn’t even like it hot?! What an absolute prat.

Trying to drive you away so you deliver the bullet and not him. He's a big boy and knows exactly why he's doing this.

Are you on good terms with MIL? She may be able to help or put him up when you put him on the naughty step at hers.

I would call Relate and ask for advice. His behaviour is beyond acceptable and they may be able to provide insight. I wouldn't go down the road of policing his dhopping as only madness lies that day and if he's playing games you'll need your wits about you. And he's not a child who needs mummy to sort him out.

I wouldn’t find this seemingly deliberate food waste remotely funny and I try to see the funny side and I’m not easily ruffled.

He sounds obsessive to the point where I don’t think he’s of a sound mind tbh. I’d be concerned by this point.

I don’t understand why you’re not more angry about this? Dh: would you like x? You: no if it has chili on it which you know as I always always hate the stuff you cook when you smother it in chili which you always do and I’m starting to feel like you are deliberately trying to make me miserable. You cannot be this stupid after all.
dh no it’s great. You: fine, I’ll have some, if it is covered in chili you are sleeping on the sofa tonight.
THATS IT SOFA FOR YOU POSSIBLY FOREVER! STOP BEING SUCH AN ASSHOLE WITH YOUR STUPID CHILI!!

why are you not hitting the roof?

If he's going to cook with scotch bonnet, he needs to leave it whole to lessen the spice. But tbh, he needs a cease and desist 🥲

I love spicy food and couldn't handle scotch bonnets, those are hot as fuck. If he doesn't even like them why is he even buying them? Serve him up the fucking ridiculously spicy potatoes and make your own normal ones. Put the stupid spicy scotch bonnets on everything you cook for him and say "oh I thought you liked them?". Does he want to be a "spicy food person" or does he want you to be one? Crazy either way. If you cook most of the time, make him eat the inedibly spicy shit he serves you.

I think that’s really weird!

I would understand if he liked spicy foods but he doesn’t!

What does he say when you ask him why he’s made something so hot?

Does he understands that scotch bonnet is a very hot chilli and if you’re not used to spice to use only a small amount.

If he wants to eat more spicy food then perhaps suggest getting some hot sauce to put with it but making the food non spicy.

I love the taste of jerk chicken and Indian curries etc but I don’t like a lot of spice either, so I’ll make them but half the amount of spice needed.
Or if someone else makes them then I’ll have extra rice or put a bit of natural yoghurt with it or drink milk.
Whenever I buy pre-packaged Mexican food like the fajita kits, I’ll always buy mild and then if it’s not spicy enough, get the next one up next time.

I’ve never even tried a vindaloo!!

He actually sounds like he’s playing mind games.

It's not normal behaviour to repeat the same stupid mistakes over and over unless he has had a lobotomy.

Keep removing and hiding all hot spices and sauces etc and then wrap them up and give them to him for Christmas.

Hide them all on Boxing day.