DH and his fucking chilli

[Humpfree]

DH smothers everything in chilli, even though he can’t handle spicy food himself. Everytime he makes chicken it’s smothered in chilli and ends up where neither of us can eat it. He does it every fucking time!!!

Tonight he decided to randomly make some roast potatoes as a snack 🫤 to said I didn’t want any and he got all l offended so I said if you make cheesy potatoes I’ll eat them … so that’s what he did. He’s spent over an hour and a half making these fucking things … they smelt nice, all covered in melted cheese - lovely! Except when I bit into one my mouth was suddenly on fire. Yep, he’s smothered then in chilli. We now have a full bowl of cheesy potatoes sat there that neither of us can eat. I ask why he does this and he doesn’t answer me! I think it’s so weird. It would be different if he loved spicy food but he can’t tolerate it any better than I can!

what a waste

Talk to him about it properly and ask him why he’s using humour as a defence mechanism.

This is one of the weirdest things I’ve ever read here. I like hot things and I never buy scotch bonnets - I know my limits. And adding a whole one is making it a food challenge not a dinner. Really peculiar. Is it some kind of machismo (or masochism)?

Does he have a learning disability? To repeatedly make food that nobody can eat is really odd behaviour.

How often does he cook?
What does he do when that food has been thrown in the bin uneaten? Does he then start again and make something else?

What a monumental waste of time and food.

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The “unwell” just sent me 😂 ffs. I absolutely love chilli but scotch bonnets are no joke. This man’s got issues bless him

I think I would nip into the kitchen and nab the chillis before DH cooks in your shoes. If he asks then just play dumb 😅

This did make me laugh, sorry OP… He must know none of you like the chilli sauce by now, so why does he keep adding it??

He's a bloody idiot.

I wouldn't tolerate a man like this

Likewise. Absolutely inexplicable, tedious, toddler-like behaviour.

Have you ever sat down and calculated how much food is wasted each month and how much energy is wasted cooking that food?

Work out a cash amount and ask him why he's throwing £x in the bin each month.

It's such odd behaviour that it is astonishing it's actually happening. You'd need to be 10p short of your bus fare to be doing it.

This made me chuckle, you guys are funny. I particularly enjoyed that he sat there in silence when questioned

Whe I first started reading this thread I wondered if he had been treated for substance use disorder and this was a transfer addiction (capsaicin can be addictive due to the release of endorphins it creates)... Until I read he didn't even eat the food and now I'm just baffled. He's not generally confused or anything?

@Humpfree

Please don’t do as some PP suggest (hopefully tongue in cheek!) and add hot chilli to his food, give him a blowjob after eating chillies or anything else like that!

Chilli revs up the metabolism, and makes your heart pump faster, because of the heat (although I’m still plump 😞). You could (inadvertently) give him a heart attack!

I think you need to sit down with him and have a serious talk! Explain to him that chillies, like any herb or spice, should be used to enhance the flavour of food, to drown it out! There is nothing “manly” about being unable to eat a meal because it’s been rendered inedible by having too much chilli thrown into it! Also, as PP suggested, keep a running total of how much these meals are costing to buy the food, use the electric/gas to cook them and the manpower hours involved in cooking them! Let him see the actual financial burden of his ridiculousness, at a time when some people can’t afford to eat beans on toast, let alone throw food away!

If you’d like, I can post a recipe here that will help you, and him, to slowly build up your tolerance for heat, if you’d like? It’s for a chicken and spinach curry, takes little time to cook and the chilli can be adjusted accordingly. Plus no onions so a win there as who wants to stand there peeling and chopping onions? 😂

No offense but is there something wrong with him where he just doesn't understand things.

I'd be throwing all the chilis out and telling him I refuse to eat anything he makes until he stops this stupidity.
It's not only stupid it's a total waste of food and money and in this economy who has money to just spend on food to throw out and the electricity / gas to cook something that no one is going to eat.
Does he earn a ton of money that you can just throw it away. Absolute stupidity.

Does all this food end up in the bin? If so who is putting it in there? If he is doesn’t it occur to him how wasteful and pointless this all is (I’d make him put it in the bin each time so he can see all that wasted food). If he still does it then I would honestly think there is something amiss with his brain wiring and it should be checked out.

If you’d like, I can post a recipe here that will help you, and him, to slowly build up your tolerance for heat, if you’d like?

Bloody hell @CynicalOne , don’t encourage the fool! 😂

Oops! 😞😉

@CynicalOne
His behaviour is completely abnormal, a talk about chillis and their effect on food isn't the solution.

Perhaps not solely about chillies, no. But a wider talk about how his behaviour is affecting the family food budget and the relationship might be a good idea if he understands the impact of his ridiculousness.

He's a grown man, not a toddler. He understands the impact of his behaviour on the food budget. That doesn't need to be explained to him

'He makes a joke of it' isn't really any kind of explanation, though, is it?

He consistently, deliberately makes food that NEITHER of you can eat and which ends up in the bin. 'Making a joke of it' doesn't explain to you, or anyone else, why the fuck he feels the need do it in the first place.

He sounds like a complete dickhead to be honest.

I would stop getting him to cook and every time you cook, simply add chilly to his and leave yours plain. Do it for EVERYTHING. I hate men like this... They really should be put down.

@Humpfree are you coming back to this thread?

Then you carry on. You don't stop when he deflects. Even if that means you ask ten times in ten different ways one after the other.

Stop avoiding the question. I want to know why you do it.

Why do you do it.

Why do you refuse to give me a sensible answer?

Are you doing it because you know I can't eat it? Is that it?

If you refuse to explain then I can only assume you are doing it maliciously.

Etc

I wonder if the op expected us to all laugh and say it is just a funny little foible of his and that as long as he's great in other ways this doesn't really matter?

Yet we are mostly all disgusted and appalled by his stupidity and wastefulness and the op now feels embarrassed that she is married to a compete and utter dick!