DH and his fucking chilli

[Humpfree]

DH smothers everything in chilli, even though he can’t handle spicy food himself. Everytime he makes chicken it’s smothered in chilli and ends up where neither of us can eat it. He does it every fucking time!!!

Tonight he decided to randomly make some roast potatoes as a snack 🫤 to said I didn’t want any and he got all l offended so I said if you make cheesy potatoes I’ll eat them … so that’s what he did. He’s spent over an hour and a half making these fucking things … they smelt nice, all covered in melted cheese - lovely! Except when I bit into one my mouth was suddenly on fire. Yep, he’s smothered then in chilli. We now have a full bowl of cheesy potatoes sat there that neither of us can eat. I ask why he does this and he doesn’t answer me! I think it’s so weird. It would be different if he loved spicy food but he can’t tolerate it any better than I can!

what a waste

If this is real..., OP why haven't you gone utterly apeshit at him for this wasteful madness?? Be absolutely clear that he is not to put any chilli of any kind ever on any food that is meant for either of you to eat. Nor is he ever to buy anything spicy.

I would agree with PPs that you should throw out all chillis on sight, immediately, and keep doing that until he gets the hint.

I really really need more information on this. Like… what?!

You say he makes a joke out of it when you ask him why but what does he say specifically? I need quotes. I need to understand what is going on here?! When he cooks do you tell him every single time not to put any chilli on it? What does he say when you tell him not to? I don’t get it!!

Aren't chillies supposed to be an aphrodisiac? Though it sounds like he's ruined any chance of a shag! 😂

I really don’t see how this is at all funny. He sounds stupid.

If someone does something horrible once and you tell them you hate it, then they have made a mistake.
If they do it again...and again.... and again they are doing it deliberately.
He is doing something that makes you feel ill, ruins your food and hurts your mouth because he want to do those things to you.

I suppose this guy could make you fall to the ground with your mouth hanging open, but I don't think it's a recommended technique.

What did he actually say? Seriously, go and speak to him and report back! Tell him you need an actual answer, a reason why he makes food neither of you will eat, wasting the food and also the energy used to run the oven/hob to cook it. Just tell him you need an a real answer because you can’t cope with the utter waste and stupidity anymore.

Was wondering.

What I'm curious about, is why either of you keep buying the stuff.

Ask him again why he does it and tell him you want an answer. It's weird.

He just sounds thick as mince to me.

He just sounds a bit thick really. Lovely man or not, he sounds thick.

It isn’t a joke though is it. Wasting food isn’t funny, giving your wife inedible food isn’t funny, ambushing you with white hot chillies in food that isn’t even meant to be spicy isn’t funny. Doing something incredibly stupid when you’ve been repeatedly asked not to isn’t funny. If he was a lovely man he wouldn’t do that.

I love scotch bonnets & happily put a whole fresh one including seeds in meals for me & DP. They’re not just hot, they’re quite perfumed too.

I also love viper chillies & naga chillies, but I’m aware that does make me a bit unusual.

With respect , OP, he doesn't sound very smart

Each time he decides to cook, you need to nip into the kitchen and remove ALL items relating to chilli

Alternatively, after he's been shopping, throw away or hide .... no, throw away..... ALL items relating to chilli

Is he trying to train himself to eat them for some reason? Thinking if he keeps trying them then he’ll grow used to them, because he desperately wants to be able to say he can handle hot food or something?

Are all his friends chilli guzzling strongmen who take the piss out of his wimpy palate?

Scotch Bonnet?! You only need a tiny bit of that, its dangerously hot otherwise. He clearly has some strange compulsion causing him to do this.

Why do you have chilli in your house?

He’s actually a lovely man

Clearly not!

Do this @Humpfree . He needs to understand that you can’t tolerate this. He can’t pass it off as a joke.
If my dh did what yours does with barbecues - stands out wearing a winter jacket in the rain cooking one in November- I’d quietly leave him to it and go out to buy myself a takeaway.

If neither of you like chilli, why is it in your kitchen cupboards? 🤷‍♀️

OP said he buys them.

Making food for you that he knows you won't eat is bang out of order.
Making food for himself that he won't eat is Fucking Ridiculous!
Is it a Billy Big Bollocks thing at work? 'Yeah I can eat a whole scotch bonnet ' type scenario?
Step father and his halfwit brothers played this game. Not a brain cell (or taste bud) between them 🙄
I would insist any chilli bought and food wasted because of this nonsense means he pays for the takeaway you then have to order for yourself (that you're not sharing).
He's an imbecile.

It's selfish and a total waste of money and food. If he wants to eat food covered in chillies that's up to him but then he should make separate servings. If he knows you cannot eat it it's even worse. Like another poster said perhaps he likes the idea of being able to, if he cannot even eat it himself it's stupidity as well.

@Humpfree Yeah this is one of these oddly common things mainly men do I think. It’s like a very strange subverted sort of machismo. Who knows why, but they seem to decide to like things that are hard to like or difficult to “perfect” e.g. they get determined to develop a taste for whisky, or make the perfect coffee or going down the side of a mountain on a bike. If they’re a restaurant they might order the weird thing even if they know they probably won’t like it. It reminds me of little boys cycling with no hands. This would drive me crazy, but also I’d love to sit him down and talk to him though and figure out his thought process

What with the Scotch bonnets and BBQ in driving rain obsession, your DH sounds like he sees cooking as an extension of his penis. Is he generally insecure about his masculinity?