Shout out to my husband

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This isn't actually AIBU but given this is where most DH-bashing goes on I thought I'd add the thread here.

Last Christmas, whilst on mat leave, I had flu. And promptly gave it to baby and toddler at home with me. DH, without asking, took AL from this year's allocation to look after all three of us.

Yesterday, having already had an unpaid day off with baby (RSV this time) he then took a second day because, although it was supposed to be me and I was there, having been in ED all night I was in no fit state to parent.

He does the washing up every night.

He buys me chocolate on a bad day.

He gives me a lie-in most weekends as I'm up with baby most nights.

He's not perfect. He doesn't always get it right. But he does his best.

Your turn!!!!

I'd be sold on just the washing up alone tbh 😁

My partner looks after me when poorly. Cooks every night. Just have to give him a list what needs doing and gets it done with no complaints. Lets me nap when ever I want.

Mine does the washing up and is probably better at cleaning the bath than I am, he puts the bins out and looks after all the cars
I get a cup of tea in bed every morning
He doesn't tend to cook but he can
He will do anything I ask and is the best.

I love him and don't know what we would do without him!

Stop showing off you lot 😭🤣

I know you mean this to be positive but I hate the men get “shout outs” and praise for just being decent partners and fathers.
My husband does pretty much 50% of the housework/life admin/childcare and I don’t ever feel the need to shout about how fantastic he is. I think he’d find it patronising if I did.

-mine does all the cooking (retired chef) and pretty much always has done
-took 1,5 years parental leave when we had a 3 and 1,5 year old so i could get back to work (i loathed being the SAHP)
-drove all round town yesterday to get a prescription fulfilled for me
-now he's retired does most of the dusting etc
-keeps on top of the washing (I do the ironing)
-and is otherwise very lovely

I know this is meant to be a positive thread but bloody hell OP your bar is low! Still praising him for taking a day off a year ago?! Does the washing up every night?! "Gives you" a lie in?!

given the very low bar many many posters have, and the MN reputation for man bashing, it is quite nice to see that my DH isn't a unicorn
(for balance: he does dominate the TV remote and we do watch rather a lot of sport as a result, and procedural cop shows. And i have always been responsible for bathroom/loo cleaning even though my preference is turn and turn about. And he's a terrible driver, but i grit my teeth because i CBA to drive mostly)

I dunno why 80% of the posters on here remain married if I’m honest. Their idea of a partnership and a marriage are so far away from what I recognise in my own life and what I would accept.
DH gets the kids ready every day for nursery and takes them in, no I don’t pack the bags or leave out their clothes.
Last week he took a half day and took DC for flu jab as it was due. Obviously I didn’t ask why would I?
He finished early another day recently and picked his work back up again in the evening as I was struggling with SPD and he didn’t want me to have to walk to nursery and back and be in pain.
He will change the bedding and light a candle in the bedroom for me coming home if he’s wfh that day and it’s rainy or I’ve had a tough day with pregnancy.
If I cook he does all the washing and cleans the kitchen after I’ve gone to bed. He also cleans and puts away all the breakfast dishes so it’s not there for me to come home to.
Will stick on a wash or hoover as and when it needs to be done. I can’t imagine having to baby him and give him a list.

This is all just normal life and not “my husband is perfect”, but it’s honestly baffling the things some women put up with and seem reasonably content with overall.

Mine is a true partner- he actually doesn't need me to tell him to do the very basic things to keep the house running- he just does it.

He looks at me like I'm the hottest woman on the planet- even when I'm in my PJ's without my hair brushed!

He rubs my feet automatically when we're watching TV at night.

He watches MAFS with me even though he (pretends) doesn't like it.

He always looks after me when I'm ill.

Agreed.

Honestly, this thread has wound me right up.
It’s not groundbreaking for a father to take time off work to care for his sick child.
Doing the washing up everyday? Seriously?! You really thought you needed to publicly thank your husband for washing up and taking care of his family when they’re sick?

I mean, he took a day off last year to care for his own children? And he washes up.

I hate it when people here pour scorn on what are supposed to be lovely and positive threads but err here I am doing just that

He's just doing what all men should be doing.

Fucking hell. 12 minutes it took for the first Debbie Downer to pipe up.
Considering 99% of the threads on here are of husbands/partners being slated it's nice to see one on here of someone saying actually my DP is good, he's thoughtful and pulls his weight.
It's shocking OP that you'd have had more positive comments if you'd said he was a dick.

DH always looks after me when I’m ill. He’s cancelled nights out with his mates to look after me on occasion. I broke my arm and he did all the cooking and cleaning without a complaint. He only needs to go into the office twice a month but every time he does he comes home with bags of stuff from my favourite smelly stuff shop (when he found out some of my favourites were limited addition he stocked up for a year). He can be a pain in the arse at times but he loves me, I love him and I feel loved 🥰

Mine doesn't get any extra credit for doing what he ought to be doing as an adult and a parent.

However, he does get a special mention for being spectacular in the sack.

Mine let me go to bed at 9pm each night and wake up with the baby at 5am getting a whole nights sleep (he’s a night owl anyway so didn’t mind doing last feed at 1amish) since baby was born and until he slept through. He does the childminder run every single morning and evening. He smiles and says ‘good for you’ each time I book myself tickets for a show or concert. He cooks the Sunday meal, he does all the dad duty for my firstborn who isn’t biologically his, he is an excellent grandad to her kids.
he doesn’t : laundry , garden or DIY. I still think I got a good deal.

This thread is really depressing. A while ago I was staying at my mum's when my 30something brother was also there, and my mum praised him for being his dirty laundry down for her to do in a basket rather than leaving it on the guest room floor...

I don't think praising men for not being 100% selfish bastards is necessary.

well yes, but given all the posts on here about the absolute do-nothing twats people are married to - i think it serves a purpose here for people to see what is normal.

Oh this is so cringy.

' My DH does the standard expected things any normal person would do, but for some reason I see this as truly heroic '

I suppose your point is that not all men are useless, but you've gone a bit to far and posting if they should get praised for bog standard contributions to domestic life.

It’s nice to appreciate what you have, whether that’s what someone else may appreciate isn’t altogether important imo.
I appreciate my husband, he’s kind and good and funny and a brilliant dad. He’s a proper partner in life, albeit his ‘job description’ is different to my own. We’re both quite good for thanking each other and verbalising our appreciation for what the other does, even if it doesn’t seem like a big deal, which I think is quite important.
Fun bonus that we fancy the pants off each other and still act like giggly teenagers together after 8 years.

Man does what he should be doing and a thread is made to tell everyone. Fucking hell. 🤪

If you read this as a man talking about his wife it's just SO patronising. He's not a child! 'no complaints'

My DH brings me tea in bed every morning. He scrapes the ice off my car and keeps it filled with petrol for me. He cooks DS breakfast on weekdays. He does more cleaning than me and is always helping out my adult DS with DIY. If I feel unwell he urged me to rest in bed and he does everything. I love him and appreciate him so much. He's the complete opposite of my first husband.