How can my brother salvage this situation

[missblooming]

I'm a long time user, but have set up a new name for this as I dont want it linked to my previous posts. My brother moved in with his partner about six months ago and things were going great apart from one thing, she has a huge dog and it constantly causes rows between them. Things came to a head last week and he told her it needed to go or he would, and she basically said that's fine, my brother needed to go by the end of the month.

They were so happy together and made for a nice couple. My DB was getting his life back on track, and had hoped with his new living arrangements that he would get joint custody of my niece and nephew and be able to spend some more time with them- which would be great for our whole family.

The dog had been sleeping in the GF room when he moved in, which obviously he wasnt happy with so she moved it to a spare room, but when the kids come to stay they dont like staying in what they call the 'dogs room'. Obviously it lets them know where they are in the pecking order! My DB asked for it to go in the kitchen and the GF started to dig her heels in and its become a real bone of contention.

Apart from the dog, I have never seen my brother so happy. It seems a shame that a relationship can be ruined for such a silly reason. I want to help him salvage it, but not sure where to go from here. He has gone from indifference to the dog to being absolutely fixated on it as the problem- things like she'll spend £80 on a bag of food when he's trying to clear credit card debt and cant afford to take the kids to the cinema, he just cant see past it, particularly now shes picked the dog over him.

How can we help her see that she is being unreasonable, or how can my brother let this go? I really don't want him moving back in here, and it will also mean that he is further away from getting shared custody of his kids.

Do they have joint finances? Is he paying towards the costs in the house, and how much? Because at the moment, it sounds like it's her house, he moved into, and he's trying to dictate how she lives, because he wants her to prioritise his kids....... no. He wants to prioritise his kids, and he should, she doesn't have to. Why does what she spends on her dog have any impact on him, unless you're all expecting her to fund him and his kids, which again, why should she?!

@missblooming I am no dog lover. Of course the dog should go in the kitchen preferably in a crate. Dogs will eat anything why buy pricey dog food when cheaper are available. who cares if it upsets their stomach it’s a dog.

Now I’m not a dog lover but are you for fucking real. You and your brother are a pair of total freeloading cunts. Why don’t you pay for your nephew and niece’s nights out. Cinema wow wish I could do that.

I hope his (hopefully now ex girlfriend) has lost your debt ridden cocklodging brother. I got an ad he could put in Tinder

”I’m such a catch”

Im a debt ridden, sofa surfing cocklodger. I’m looking for my next victim. Is that you? (Insert pic of small penis if allowed or bare chested photo)
Do you have what it takes? (I don’t last long)
Do you have pets you need to get rid as I’m an Adonis who needs to be held in a higher regard than GOD! I come before anyone including you ! Lol 😜
You will need to subsidise my lifestyle, don’t complain it’s your duty I’m in your life you should be honoured I look in your direction.
lastly I come into your life with glorious purpose knee before zod (sorry miss blooming dobro)

@thesurrealist I agree with you absolutely, he moves into her place and then expects his GF to change her whole life for the benefit of him and his DC and gets in a strop when it doesn't happen. He clearly expected her to get rid of the dog before him, I'm so glad the ex GF didn't play along

Can't believe what I've come back to 🤣. Apart from one thread I did years ago, I don't think I've ever seen one so unanimous in its conclusion!

You, OP, and your brother, are an absolute gold standard pair of cheeky fuckers 🏆

she’s told him to leave, she’s obviously not that into him and i wouldn’t be either. he sounds useless

Why is there no poll ?
We need to see the 100% YABU result 🤣😂😳

I would not give up my dog for a new fella who moved in. CF at his finest, so are you OP.

Pretty much sums it up!

You read my mind.

I’m disappointed that there’s no poll on this thread but YABVVVVVU.

Why does it garte him how much she spoends on her dog, should she be spending her money on his credit card debt?
I think the woman dodged a bullet. I can also see why you dont want your brother back home, can he really not get his own place rather than sponging of relatives/gf?

I think this thread is a wind up!

Rather than sponging off his GF he needs to get off his backside, get a job and contribute to the household economy. He's upset because he's lost his free meal ticket and free bed with benefits. Good for her for seeing through him!

Most probably, but unfortunately there are very real men like the one presented here. I don’t think it does any harm to point out to the tune of nearly 1000 posts just how little time women have for this sort of behaviour…

I don't understand why people start threads and ask questions, but then get on their high horse when they don't like the answers
It is what it is, your brother is being very unreasonable, whether you like it or not

Team Dog.

And I say that as a cat person.

I am so shocked at your posts op. It sounds as if your brother thought he’d fallen on his feet only to discover he’d met a woman with decent boundaries.

Ah, I see @missblooming has not returned.

Well! There's a surprise.

Hi Op

Your brother is understandbly upset as are the wider family. HOW DARE THIS WOMAN not prioritize him, his debt and his children.

How dare she not change her house to meet his needs.

I mean you have noticed how happy he is now, can gf not see this too??

Actually op ,I wonder how you would yoy behave if you were the gf?
Would you sacrifice your life for a loser?

Ask yourself this question before expecting this poor (now lucky) woman to accommodate the cf of your brother.
Jesus weep.

TEAM 🐕

This thread is an absolutely perfect example of the thinking of a man looking for his children to be housed and funded by a solvent woman.

It really is.

Yet so many women fall for it, get pregnant, and only THEN does the penny drop what an utter loser they are with.

A loser who was looking for a housed, solvent, skivvy aupair, to fund and care for HIS children.

The girlfriend is so lucky she has a dog she loves.

So many don't and get caught up until it is a lot more complicated with a shared child.

She really has had a narrow escape.

I can well understand the OP not wanting him back on HER doorstep with his entitled whinging.

Totally agree!

Why doesn’t he step up and work extra hours if treating his DC is so important to him?

Resenting his GF for not subsidising HIS DC is so entitled and grabby. It gives me the ick just reading this.

I couldn’t have put it better myself.

What the actual fuck?! He has no home of his own, is in huge debt, can’t even afford a happy meal for his own kids but SHE is the the problem because she spends too much money on dog food?

I hope she bins off your freeloading, parasitic brother immediately and never looks back. She deserves better. You’re both a pair of cheeky fuckers. I pity any woman getting involved in your grabby, controlling family. Bloody hell. 🙄

God this thread has my in absolute stitches. The bloody cheek!

He should see how much of my income I spend on the horse. I’d love to see a newish boyfriend tell me I should be subsidising his life and to get rid of the horse. The hilarity of it.