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At what age did you had your second DC

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Laughnluv · 17/10/2023 20:35

DH thinks we are older parents at 40 and 35 respectively. Our friends had DC early in 20s and early 30s. We had our first DC in early 30s and we are planning for second. I have been arguing that we are average age and it's not too late.
Please share your opinions and when you had your second DC

OP posts:
Mumofteens17 · 17/10/2023 22:16

First at 31, second at nearly 34

SaracensMavericks · 17/10/2023 22:17

33 for my 2nd

SallyWD · 17/10/2023 22:17

38

BelleSauvage9 · 17/10/2023 22:17

First 21,second 32, third 33

Cel77 · 17/10/2023 22:17

Almost 42 for DD, DC2. I would have had her much younger but we struggled with miscarriages and falling pregnant. It was a lot of hard work 😉but she's so worth it.

MaryShelley1818 · 17/10/2023 22:18

DS at 39
DD at 42

Probably only slightly later than friends who were mid-30's.

theriseandfallofFranklinSaint · 17/10/2023 22:19

1st - 26
2nd - 29

Iris2019 · 17/10/2023 22:19

1st 35
2nd 37
Partner 43-45

Bubblegum20 · 17/10/2023 22:20

1st 25, 2nd 27

jonfriy · 17/10/2023 22:20

1st 38
2nd 42

Normal in middle class north London circles.

GettingOldWithoutStyle · 17/10/2023 22:21

Ds1 at 31
Ds2 at 33
DD at just after 36

I must admit this time around I do feel "done" because I'm noticeably more tired now, and was very much so throughout the pregnancy but I would guess that's because I am was chasing/doing nursery runs for 2 at that stage (and the dreaded 42C heatwave!!) It's not a bad thing though, I consider it nature's way of telling me to stop! If you really want it, go for it 😊 goodluck op.

IWasFunBeforeMum · 17/10/2023 22:21

34 with first, 35 with second

inappropriateraspberry · 17/10/2023 22:22

First at 34, second at 37.
Pretty average round here.

Strokethefurrywall · 17/10/2023 22:23

34 with DC2

DanceMumTaxi · 17/10/2023 22:24

First 31, second 34. Dh was the same age.

TMess · 17/10/2023 22:28

I had mine at 21, 23, 24, 28, & 30. I’m nearly 31 now and I’m on the fence re more.

newYear10 · 17/10/2023 22:28

33 and 40

CordyD · 17/10/2023 22:34

Wow, babies was the last thing on my mind during my early 20's. My second baby was at 37.

Mammyloveswine · 17/10/2023 22:36

First at 28, second at 30

Sparklehead · 17/10/2023 22:39

1st at 30, 2nd at 32, 3rd at 34. Pretty average among my group of friends/local area.

Hummusanddipdip · 17/10/2023 22:42

I had my first at 28, will be 33 when number 2 arrives.

I don't think you're an abnormal age for a second child. My cousin was 36 when she had her first.

PestilencialCrisis · 17/10/2023 22:47

DC1 at 35 & DC2 at 38.

DS1 is now 6 and the mums of most of his classmates are late thirties, early forties.
DC2 is 3 and most of the mums from his nursery class are early to mid twenties.

Luck of the draw as to how old the mums of your children's friends will be!

TruJay · 17/10/2023 22:48

First at 21, second at 24 and third at 33 (4 months off 34)

89redballoons · 17/10/2023 22:50

First at 32, second at 35, contemplating another now at 37/38.

My DH is 18 months younger than me so he was 31 and then 34.

Other second time mums I know were between about 35 and 38, one had a surprise at 42. Totally depends on where you live and your social circles though.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 17/10/2023 22:51

35