I posted about this at the time so will try and keep it brief.
DP and I have been on and off for 4.5 years.
Last year, we split but had started seeing each other again, dates, sleeping together, basically acting like normal. I then became pregnant on the pill.
The day I found out he came over and told me he wanted nothing to do with me or the baby and was "abandoning" us. His family, whom I was very close to blocked me on all social media (his mum, dad and sister). His mum said "but X doesn't want a baby". Neither did I!
He then contacted me three weeks later asking what decision I had made, I refused to tell him. He said I was wrong for this and basically made me out to be the villain.
He said that he and his family had actually wanted to be involved all along, but they were trying to manipulate me into an abortion by thinking I was going to have to raise the baby alone.
I ended up having a miscarriage and didn't tell him until later.
I eventually told him I had miscarried, over the phone. He called me names, said that he hated the thought of being tied to me forever, he accused me of sleeping with someone (I hadn't), he said there was no excuse for me to have withheld information about the pregnancy from him.
He also said he didn't want me around our friends anymore (they were his friends first). He showed people the messages of me breaking down during the height of it all. Totally humiliated me and essentially made me out to be crazy.
I attempted suicide as a result of this time, he knows this.
We are now back together. We had no contact for six months. Our families don't know.
The only time he has said sorry was when I had asked for an apology and it was a forced "sorry!" Like a disgruntled child.
He justifies what he did by saying he had a "tough choice" to make and that the way he went about things was his only option. That he knew a baby would be bad for both of us, so he did this to help us and his family.
He said "I still think you were going to keep that baby", he actually has no idea whether I was or wasn't.
This isn't the only time he's been a dick. I won't bore you with the rest of the stories.
The way he treats me has vastly improved, we have a really, really great time together. Rarely argue or have disagreements.
I just can't move on from it, I resent him and when I think about the situation and what I went through, I feel sick to my stomach.
Has anyone every moved on by something so major? I know this is probably just a big thing to me, but I can change the effect it had.
If it weren't for these big fuck ups he pulls off, he could've been the one.
Day to day, I love everything about him.