Dh going to get takeaway pizza when I already made pasta

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Made pasta an hour ago for all of us, Dd (5) and I ate ours as we sometimes do before Dh gets home from work, I put a dish out for Dh for when he got home.
Im in the kitchen washing up, feeling full
and hear Dh come in, Dd comes running in saying we’re getting takeaway pizza, I say I’ve made dinner and we’ve already eaten though 🤷🏻‍♀️Dd starts crying and shouting how she wants takeaway pizza and daddy says we’re having it. Dh says he didn’t know I had made any dinner. Dd decides to be cheeky and says we’re getting pizza, Dh agrees with her and she shouts to me that we’re getting pizza.
Aibu to feel completely undermined here?
Its not about the pizza itself…or am I being petty?
Also bearing in mind that we’re trying to save money and I suggested getting a pizza maybe tomorrow night as I’ve made dinner for today and we’ve eaten ours and now feel full?

*Shouting at me, not to me

Surely your DH just tells DD that you aren't having pizza because she's already eaten? Is he proposing to get pizza for him and her and leave you out?

Don't let the kids play you off against one another, it'll never end.

“We’re trying to save money”…… well he clearly isn’t!

Incredibly petty I know, but feel like going up to bed (it’s my bedtime with Dd anyway tonight) and not having it and leaving them to eat it when they get back. Plus really full but pizza tempting and I already need to lose weight

Just tell DH you’ve already made pasta and suggest pizza tomorrow night? I certainly wouldn’t be putting up with a 5 year old shouting at me like that, that’s just rude. There would be consequences for that behaviour and a chat would be had with DH.

Can't DH just get pizza tomorrow night?

@GiveMeCakeOrGiveMeDeath He was going to get a pizza for all of us as he said he didn’t know I’d made dinner. He’d already told her to get her shoes on so by that point saying no to her caused an almighty meltdown

It’s Friday night; I would just let them get on with it.

If he wants to buy a pizza for his tea, then he buys a pizza for his tea. His pasta can sit in the fridge for him for tomorrow. Dd can have a slice of his pizza.

Friday nights are special in our house; we always plan something nice for tea so the idea of me eating pasta with the kids and leaving a plate for my husband wouldn’t go down very well I’m afraid! I think YABU because life’s too short to not eat pizza 🍕

I don't know what he has done wrong here.

I said to them both that we should get a pizza for tomorrow night as I’d already made dinner and we’d eaten. Dh said it was his fault as he didn’t know we’d eaten, Dd continues to throw a fit, I say yo her firmly we’ll have it tomorrow night, he says he’s worked hard all day if he wants a pizza he’ll get one. Dd comes in to me and shouts at me rudely ‘We’re getting a pizza!’ Which is when I went nuts at her and told her not to speak to me like that. They’ve gone to het it and I’m sat here feeling completely undermined and disrespected

i think its really rude to snub food someone has made for you to go and get pizza...why couldnt he just say 'sorry daughter, didnt realise mum had made dinner, pasta today and we'll have pizza tomorrow'

Does he mind that he is left out of the family meal? I'd feel a bit miffed if I got home from work to find everyone else had eaten already. You're posting just after 6pm so it isn't as if your DH is working late. Perhaps if you waited for him he'd feel more like eating what you and DD were having.

@followmyflow Because she started shouting and crying and he gave in

Why the hell didn't he consult you before he told the 5yo?! I'm sorry, but it sounds like he has no respect for you, and your dd is beginning to emulate him. You need to nip this shit in the bud now. Go and tell him that a) it's completely disrespectful of him to promise your child a takeaway without checking whether you've cooked, b) dd has already eaten and doesn't need two dinners, and c) she's been very rude to you, so it would be appalling to reward her for that.

If he still overrides you, then you have your answer.

Eat pizza. It's not really fair for him to announce the pizza and then tell DD she can't have it. Kids love pizza. Your husband should plan takeaways around the cooked meals though - could communication be improved? In future if he wants takeaways and kiddos have already eaten he should eat it after they are in bed.

@CesareBorgia Dd was hungry and asked to have it early, sometimes we do and he doesn’t mind, often he’s late and Dd would be waiting

I think the bigger problem here is a 5 year old shouting and ruling the roost.

If you were going suggest pizza tomorrow night, let him pick you one up and you can warm it in the oven then.

This is one of those small annoyances to let go of. Not worth it - pasta in fridge and eat pizza. Or not, but pasta would keep and he obviously has a hankering for one!

Let it go for today but tell your dh to check in with you beforehand next time. Or have an agreement that Friday nights are takeaway nights so you know it to bother.

It’s more about the disrespect and Dd acting the same way, disregarding what I say as though I have no voice

I can understand your DD eating early, but it would be more considerate if you waited and had yours with DH. These things are a two-way street. If my family couldn't wait for me to come home to eat, I'd feel justified in getting myself whatever I felt like eating if the family leftovers left going cold on the side were not appealing.