Dh going to get takeaway pizza when I already made pasta

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Made pasta an hour ago for all of us, Dd (5) and I ate ours as we sometimes do before Dh gets home from work, I put a dish out for Dh for when he got home.
Im in the kitchen washing up, feeling full
and hear Dh come in, Dd comes running in saying we’re getting takeaway pizza, I say I’ve made dinner and we’ve already eaten though 🤷🏻‍♀️Dd starts crying and shouting how she wants takeaway pizza and daddy says we’re having it. Dh says he didn’t know I had made any dinner. Dd decides to be cheeky and says we’re getting pizza, Dh agrees with her and she shouts to me that we’re getting pizza.
Aibu to feel completely undermined here?
Its not about the pizza itself…or am I being petty?
Also bearing in mind that we’re trying to save money and I suggested getting a pizza maybe tomorrow night as I’ve made dinner for today and we’ve eaten ours and now feel full?

The title of your post is misleading. It sounds like it's him ordering the pizza and not wanting the pasta that's the issue, not your DD5 being rude and him not backing you up.

I still think her shouting isn't worth stropping off to bed over though. Any five-year-old would get excited about pizza as a Friday night treat and if you were being a fun sponge about it and saying she had to stick to boring pasta, you can see why she might have got het up. I do get that money is an issue, but you could've saved the pasta for tomorrow instead, no?

No problem at all, OP. I get it. It's the bad manners and the fact that your DH is rewarding them by taking her out for pizza regardless.

If the child already had her shoes on in excitement to get pizza then I think you set yourself up to be undermined by saying no. A 5 year old was bound to get upset at that. That's a big disappointment for a 5 year old.

If on the other hand you had said no let's get one tomorrow night before she'd gone and got her shoes on I think you are being reasonable as DH should have waited until tomorrow.

Sometimes dh comes in and doesn't fancy a big dinner even though it's cooked, he occasionally just likes to pick in the evening.
I just put it up and he has it the next day, not a problem to me.
Dd being disrespectful is a problem though.

Does your DH always undermine you like this?
DD has already eaten, she doesn't need pizza as well! If it's not unusual for you to have eaten by the time DH is home, why is DH assuming that you have not eaten? Surely he could ask?

When he said pizza and you said you'd eaten, you could have agreed at that point to have pizza tomorrow (finances permitting). If DD had a meltdown, no pizza tomorrow!

@JC89 You’d think that 🤷🏻‍♀️

Never heard of DC having to wait for an adult to come home before eating that's quite controlling and would be a red flag for me.

He fancied a pizza so he got one, DD wanted a slice too. The pasta can go in the fridge for tomorrow's lunch. If you wanted a pizza you can put half of that in the fridge too. Nothing wasted.

He won't be getting a takeaway tomorrow night since he's had it tonight instead.

@Inkpotlover I cook all meals, so no, I don’t check with him everyday that what I plan to make will be okay 🤷🏻‍♀️

@MrsElsa Dd doesn’t have to wait to eat until Dh gets home, that’s the point, he doesn’t mind at all if we eat earlier

@BellaAndDave I do parent here, she got a good telling off for speaking to me like that…then got to go out and have pizza

@SirenSays This is my issue

So surely sometimes he's allowed to fancy something different than what's served up? It wouldn't have gone to waste either, the pasta would've kept.

Surely if she’s already eaten pasta less than 2 hours ago she won’t have room for pizza?

So surely sometimes he's allowed to fancy something different than what's served up?

Really? If I’d cooked something perfectly nice and DH arrived home, decided he didn’t fancy it and was going to order a pizza, I’d be pretty pissed off and inclined to stop cooking for him.

@WhateverMate Im not going to have another takeaway pizza tomorrow night 😂trying to cut right back, not getting another one too
The pasta is wasted as no one will be wanting to eat that tomorrow

I agree with this
let it go
just one of those things. Dh should’ve checked first whether you’d eaten or prepared anything but really not a big deal.

@MumblesParty Its pizza, so she’ll make herself have it

But OP had planned to have pizza tomorrow night with a night off from cooking and now she won’t get that…

I don't get all your objections. Let them have pizza. And yes the pasta will be fine tomorrow.

100% this!!

See my previous comment. Any other night, my OH eats what he's given if I'm the one cooking, but Friday night is different. It's the start of the weekend, it's time to relax, so I always check with my OH to see what we both fancy, so he'd never come home and turn his nose up at it.

No, she didn't plan to have pizza tomorrow at all. That was just her suggestion mid way through the drama tonight.
If I'd fancied pizza all day, I'd order it when I got home!

I wouldn’t want reheated pasta to be fair but he could of dropped you a text
but what I find more strange is why are you going to bed at the same time as a 5 year old she’s not a baby?

Pasta and pizza is the best. They could have some of each for tea and then the rest for lunch tomorrow. Is it more about the money as I would just steal a slice of pizza if this happened in our house

He didn't know! And in the meantime decided he wanted a pizza and asked dd if she fancied some too.

Because he didn't know