To ask to see DS doing a wee?

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Does anyone out there have experience of boys unable to aim or direct their flow of urine??
My 12 year old DS cannot manage to aim in to the toilet bowl. Every time he has a wee, it goes all over the toilet lid and seat (which he has lifted up, obviously), all over the back of the hinges of the seat, down the sides of the toilet and sprays all over the floor!!!
What is going on?!
This is a new thing.
Never used to happen as a younger boy.
We've really talked to him about this as it's making the bathroom smell of urine, and we've had to throw out 2 fabric baskets that sat next to the toilet holding loo rolls, because they got entrenched in his wee and smelt of urine despite being washed.
DS is actually really embarrassed about it, he panics when it happens and is often seen wiping it all up off the floor with tissue after going to toilet, looking mortified if we see him.
He has said he hates it but that his wee 'squirts up everywhere' and he says he tries really hard but cannot control the aim.
DH gets really annoyed about it because we are forever scrubbing the toilet and floor. He's talked to him about positioning, aim, holding himself correctly, etc. DS says he does all that but the wee literally squirts up and out all over the place.
We've asked him to sit down on the toilet seat when he has a wee, but he says he can't because it hurts to push his penis down enough to stop the wee squirting on to the seat.
I feel I need to watch him have a wee so I can see what's happening but is this unreasonable at his age??
I've said to him we may need to discuss this problem with GP and he looked grief stricken!
Is there anyone with experience in this who can advise?

You can ask, you can explain why it might help, you can maybe start by being in the room then next time move closer. But if he says no there's only so much you can do unfortunately

When my dad was in his early 50s he developed a cyst on one of her testicles and my nan asked to look at! He declined. Mum's never stop wanting to help when there's babies are struggling with something whether they are 2, 12 or 52.

Are there any public education videos that might help to break down some of the embarrassment about the whole situation?

My nephew had a tight foreskin and sometimes made a mess going to wee. He had a little op to remove a bit of foreskin. It solved the problem.

Poor kid.

I haven't RTFT but has he tried sitting on the toilet backwards so there's more room for him to manoeuvre?

Sounds medical eg tight forskin. Especially with your update saying he says it hurts to pull it back.

My other thought is peeing with an errection.

Not that it’s any of your business @KingsleyBorder but he told me because he was worried about it. So you can stuff your judgement where the sun doesn’t shine!

It doesn't normally hurt to do a sitting wee ...he could have one of a few medical issues assuming he's not just being lazy he needs to discuss it with a GP

DB had this problem. It was solved with a circumcision.

In the immediate future get a male urinal bottle for by the loo. Then he can use this and tip without making a mess. It will save him time cleaning up.

Then get him checked out by a GP. What you are saying isn't normal for a 12 year old boy who sounds as though he's trying to aim his urine.

As others have said maybe it's a tighter than normal foreskin.

I can totally understand why you'd want to, OP, but I think he's too old now to be watched peeing.
I hope you manage to sort the issue out