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To think you can't behave however you want because of MH issues?

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insertanswerhere · 29/09/2023 11:21

DH is struggling atm with MH issues. He's usually such a lovely, lively person but at the moment our life stresses are causing him to be irritable, moody...basically hard to be around. He'll get mad at me about anything, raise his voice at me and the kids, make the home environment not a nice place to be. I know it's because he's feeling like he can't cope at the minute so I'm not saying anything and trying to take on as much as I can myself so that he doesn't have to. But does he have the right to be unkind to everyone because he's struggling? Do I just have to put up with it so that I'm being supportive? How can I say, without making things worse, that he can't go on behaving in this way? (He's currently getting help for his issues but it's early days).

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Jumpingthruhoops · 03/10/2023 00:04

CleverLilViper · 02/10/2023 23:50

@Jumpingthruhoops Its not @Atethehalloweenchocs responsibility to disprove your experience with an industry that she happens to work in.

She is here, posting as an individual, not as a representative of her industry. Even if she did make an attempt to do what you claim to want her to do- you won’t listen. You’ll just do what you’ve done to every single other person on this thread who has had the misfortune of interacting with you.

We get it. You class people with MH issues as above everyone else and therefore everyone else’s needs should come a distant second. Even if they’re actual children who have zero say.

You’ve classed everyone who has dared to suggest a potentially emotionally abusive situation as hysterical but heaven forbid we don’t take your word as the gospel truth.

No one had to 'interact with me'. You know that, right?

I was just offering an opinion from the perspective of the person who's mentally unwell. But, you're right, I definitely should have withdrawn from this thread once everyone made it abundantly clear that they didn't give a damn about them.

But it's certainly been eye-opening.

PTSDBarbiegirl · 03/10/2023 00:08

Jesus, can you drop the drama please.

"Everyone" has not expressed that they, "don't give a damn..."

Jumpingthruhoops · 03/10/2023 00:18

MyGooseisTotallyLoose · 02/10/2023 23:38

Oh behave and I can't be bothered @ ing
such a self important individual.
It seems you've had MH difficulties so this is a sensitive topic for you, however as has been repeatedly said this doesn't mean you can do as you will with impunity
Again no ones said they won't consider the person reporting mh needs, only that because they do,.doesn't mean whatever they do is ok!

Not a sensitive topic at all. My experience gave me the strength I didn't know I had and also the ability to understand what others might be going through. Which means I have that 'thing' that's been so lacking on this thread: empathy.
(And as far away from self-important as you're likely to get).

I wish you well.

Jumpingthruhoops · 03/10/2023 00:20

PTSDBarbiegirl · 03/10/2023 00:08

Jesus, can you drop the drama please.

"Everyone" has not expressed that they, "don't give a damn..."

OK... 'The majority' then. Is that better? I take it you haven't read the full thread...

Teder · 03/10/2023 19:02

Jumpingthruhoops · 03/10/2023 00:20

OK... 'The majority' then. Is that better? I take it you haven't read the full thread...

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Many of us have suffered with severe mental illness and we think you’re wrong. This isn’t a case of a wife getting irritable that her husband lies in bed and depressed. Quite frankly, even if it was, people aren’t obliged to stay married to anyone for any reason. There are young children witnessing snapping and irritability. Their mental health matters too. They are the most vulnerable in this situation.

MyGooseisTotallyLoose · 03/10/2023 19:58

PTSDBarbiegirl · 03/10/2023 00:08

Jesus, can you drop the drama please.

"Everyone" has not expressed that they, "don't give a damn..."

Absolutely, bored of going round in circles where whatever is being posted is being read as 'you're all so mean, you all don't care about people with mental health and want them to suffer!'
What everyone is saying children are vulnerable and should be protected from aggression and abuse.

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