To think that disabled people are hated?

[AmericasfavoritefightingFrenchman]

Yes, I know that it was apparently very uplifting when I was planning a party for my disabled DS and his classmates from special school. When I was putting in all the hard work by myself to make it happen it was admirable and my DS and his friends were adorable.

But there have been so many threads here complaining about the way disabled children use up resources- in school, in clubs, in sports. So much hatred for the fact that disability is sometimes, inadequately, accommodated. So much blame and disdain for parents of disabled kids. So much anger at the unfairness and injustice(!) being suffered by the ‘normal’ kids, the functioning kids, the able kids when they are forced to encounter a disabled peer.

AIBU to think that this is people showing their true colours; that in fact the world is as full of hatred for disabled people as I’ve always feared?

How about this, an example of the many 'ew men with ASD are icky and creepy' posts

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4908916-boyfriends-autismawkwardness-is-a-turn-off

@JenniferBooth they would love me with a colostomy that's prone to exploding!

Well the thread has been taken down because it was causing the OP anxiety. Bulled off the board more like.

I'm not flipping surprised it caused her anxiety! I had to unwatch the thread and hope OP did the same.

Speaking over disabled people is a very common way to perpetuate discriminate and oppression. I put in a simple fact; it is statistically correct that disabled people are more likely to be victims of violence.

Yanbu at all OP. All these pesky disabled kids making it unfair on the normal kids. 🙄

There was a sports day thread this year where a poster mentioned that her DS’s school had someone help him in one of the races because physically he struggled. Absolutely the right thing to do. And yet they had some stupid gobshite parent complaining about how unfair it was on the other children competing that the disabled child was helped. 🤦🏼‍♀️

Those other children in the race all have the luxury of being able to run unaided. And their parents have the luxury of not living with the realities of having a disabled child.

No idea what has been said on this thread. But I’m just responding to you OP. Definitely a lot of hate and clueless people knocking about.

Accused the child of “cheating” if I remember rightly 🙄

@QuickFetchTheCoffee I have IBS and it also looks like lactose intolerance too Im dreading being ill and having to go to A&E if thats the farce it is now A lot of those on the thread didnt seem to get that the OP may have needed to go more than once so commode would have needed to be emptied. Hell ive got up off the loo cleaned up washed hands and then had to go back ten minutes later. They didnt seem to understand what diarrheoa actually is, I had to explain like they are stupid, And the OP of that thread had already had to hold herself for four hours which wouldnt have helped.

@funinthesun19 theres always one

I remember that thread. You’re right it was dreadful. The thing is we know people think these things, in public they would deny it and call us paranoid but here they feel safe to let it rip

I honestly don't know. Everybody knows a child with ADHD now. So, I think when some people think of disabled kids, they just think of somebody they know, that has a child with ADHD. The parent says the child has a disability, so therefore that's what people think of when they hear disabled child. A child who appears and acts pretty 'normal' on the outside, so why should they get stuff that their kids don't get?
These aren't my views, just what I gather from society.
I have a son in special school. I know about the broad range of disabled kids. My sons difficulties are quite complex. Even so, we've had plenty of snotty looks when we've done things like gone through the disabled entrance at theme park rides. In all the years with my son, I'd actually love somebody to question any of the 'special treatment' we get on rare occasion. I welcome it. But it doesn't happen because people are cowards and would rather whisper amongst themselves or bitch about it online.
When it comes to schooling. It's the government's fault. People are right to be concerned when a class of say 30 kids, has 5 kids with SEND. TAs have been cut severely, so how will the one teacher be able to teach all the children well? The can't. It's not blaming the SEND child, it's concern for their own children's education and in some instances safety. And in broader views, concern for all the children's education and safety.
I don't think the majority of people hate disabled people though. Just a few proper knobheads.

Awful. My son does lots of stimming too. Big, loud, dramatic stimming. He looks like an adult now too. The looks range from bemused, amused to slightly disgusted. I must admit, I mirror the looks back to people in a passive aggressive way.
I'd have had to say something to the nasty cow on the bus. Have an insult ready for the next one. Hopefully there won't be one. I've never had anybody say anything like that. Just awful looks.

@PandaExpress what would you have said?

@AmericasfavoritefightingFrenchman Probably "I don't understand that ugly face and repulsive attitude you're walking round with, you nasty old cow" But then I am mouthy 😅 That was the first thing that popped into my head. I'd like to say that I'd say something more intelligent, but no 🙈

YANBU I experience it a lot with my disabilities and it has definitely got much worse over the past few years. Ableism is really embedded deeply in our society so that many people have an overall negative view of disabled people, and yes, some hate us.

YANBU. There’s a population level selfishness and lack of empathy. The food bank where my relative lives changed into a community fridge. No one bothered to check the impact it might have on disabled people or their carers. Some are now unable to access the emergency food they need but no one with the power to change things seem to care.

From a face mask exemption thread three years ago.

HeIenaDove · 22/07/2020 02:06

46 attacks on disabled people already for not wearing masks

From Twitter................video and thread.

twitter.com/transportforall/status/1285615607744995329?s=20
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