Page 8 | For calling my wife ‘sick’ over her opinion?

BenefitDad · 2023-09-20T18:31:38+00:00

She’s of the opinion that’s it’s strange , borderline ‘emotional incest’ and damn right weird, if an adult son takes their mom out for a meal alone, like just the two of them. She considers this ‘dating’ isnt this completely normal?

Flossflower · 21/09/2023 17:34

Ikeepmybumcheekshidden · 21/09/2023 09:41

Sharing a cabin with your child of the opposite sex is very weird! I wouldn't use the i word but definitely weird. How long was the cruise?!

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Yes I find that really weird too.

CallMeBettyBoop · 21/09/2023 18:18

I go for meals with my DS (22) all the time. We've even been on holiday together. Nothing weird in our relationship- but we get on really well and enjoy seeing each other. Same with my DD (25). Sounds as though your wife has issues...

Tinkerbyebye · 21/09/2023 18:26

Yes it’s normal. She’s nuts

letsallmeetupinthehyear2000 · 21/09/2023 18:29

Sounds like your wife may have some serious issues going back to her childhood?
my adult (19 yr old) daughter takes me out for meals now she’s working - it’s lovely
if I had a son I would not think it weird if he did the same

Ilovesunshine22 · 21/09/2023 18:31

That's really weird your wife thinks like that.... imagine feeling worried having dinner with your son a totally normal thing!!!, because of a judgemental warp minded person like your wife! Its actually very sad. Does she have a son?

Lapun · 21/09/2023 18:37

My husband died and now I live with my son ( 61 and unmarried) His job means that he likes to chat to Restauranters so sometimes if I am interested I go along because I like particular foods served. Cannot see anything wrong with that. He is extremely busy and we eat dinner together when he is home but we try to live our lives individually and do not spend much time together as we both like our own space. He gives great dinner parties at home and I enjoy meeting his guests. This wife sounds weird to me!!!

Cfcbaz · 21/09/2023 19:15

My OH always takes his mum for dinner. He says he loves treating her as he knows she wouldn't get treated to a fancy meal by anyone else. Last valentines day, I was away, so he took his mum and my mum out for dinner (both fathers don't really bother)

Pearshaped20 · 21/09/2023 19:31

My son is 19, has a job, friends plays lots of sport. Every so often we will go out to eat. Life gets so busy sometimes you need to set aside time to catch up with them. I went out with my mum until she wasn't able to anymore. I think it's a really sad and strange reaction to think that is anyway strange or odd

carbuncleonapigsposterior · 21/09/2023 19:41

What an awful attitude, my son always takes me out for lunch around the time of my birthday, just the two of us, he does the same for his dad's birthday, just the two of them. He feels each occasion gives him the occasional one to one.

PinkRoses1245 · 21/09/2023 19:44

I think that very nice for a son and mum to do that.

H007 · 21/09/2023 19:53

Your wife is weird.

CompletelyConfusedMummy · 21/09/2023 20:04

That’s insane! I have a son who’s almost 21 and we wouldn’t even think twice to have a meal together. Your wife’s thinking is “sick” indeed!

Lollipop81 · 21/09/2023 20:33

I can only think she is saying this because she is jealous of the relationship you have with your mom possibly? I would say run for the hills but as you are married bit too late for that now 😂

Confused2124 · 21/09/2023 20:40

The wife is weird for thinking this is weird

Screamingabdabz · 21/09/2023 20:46

Jesseweneedtocook · 20/09/2023 20:54

What??? So a son and his mother can't have a nice relationship together and enjoy each other's company without dad also being there??

How weird.

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Wow calm down. I was just thinking about any possible scenario where it might be ‘weird’ and the only one I could think of is where dad had been deliberately excluded so it could just be the two of them. Not just ‘without the dad being there’.

For context I regularly eat out with my adult son without my husband and vice versa. So I’m not advocating or agreeing with the weirdness angle!

whynotwhatknot · 21/09/2023 23:17

sorry but shes mad. my sil regularly went out with one of her parents still does

MadamPia · 21/09/2023 23:49

I doubt she means romantically. Hopefully not.

Me and my mum friends talk about how important it is to take our teens out on dates. A restaurant, cinema, bonding time.

Maybe that is what she means… I hope

Viewfrommyhouse · 21/09/2023 23:51

Yanbu. I go for lunches and dinners with my dad quite regularly.

Validissue179 · 21/09/2023 23:52

How is that weird?

Mamma2017 · 22/09/2023 02:30

StephanieSuperpowers · 20/09/2023 19:57

I like the way the OP has just given enough detail to provoke the criticism of his wife that he's looking for (and is probably enjoying tremendously), but literally no context.

This

IamMaz · 22/09/2023 08:08

My DH has a weekend away shortly. I have already messaged our DS (31) to suggest we go out for a meal together then. Can’t wait!

eastegg · 22/09/2023 10:40

Am I the only one rather enjoying this thread, as I’m picturing lovely meals out with my 3 DSs when I’m older. I’m particularly looking forward to a kfc, a pint and a game of darts.

pollymere · 22/09/2023 10:40

I took my 17y/o for a Wimpy and they asked if we wanted separate checks 😂. He HAS been mistaken for my date. We were supposed to be going to a Ball together but he decided to work at it instead. People do oddly assume he's my date. I don't think there's anything weird about going out for a meal with your adult child though. My Dad used to buy me lunch if he had to come to London for work and I don't see how someone going out for a meal with their Mum is any different. However, experience tells me that your DW opinion is based on how it's often perceived by others.

Samlewis96 · 22/09/2023 10:45

CarandacheColours · 20/09/2023 19:38

I went out for dinner with my 20y son last night. Nothing romantic about it 🤯
Your wife is very strange.

Lo. Y19 year l.d occasiontreats me toddler. Always in the nandos so hardly the height or romance.

Is a daft comment tbh

CultsRbad · 22/09/2023 10:46

pollymere · 22/09/2023 10:40

I took my 17y/o for a Wimpy and they asked if we wanted separate checks 😂. He HAS been mistaken for my date. We were supposed to be going to a Ball together but he decided to work at it instead. People do oddly assume he's my date. I don't think there's anything weird about going out for a meal with your adult child though. My Dad used to buy me lunch if he had to come to London for work and I don't see how someone going out for a meal with their Mum is any different. However, experience tells me that your DW opinion is based on how it's often perceived by others.

They don't assume he's your date, they just know that on very rare occasions and some people looking younger or older than they are, or it's an aunt/nephew or something else that could be the case and they don't want to risk inadvertently offending someone so err on the side of caution.

Nobody wants to be the person who sees a younger man with an older woman and says 'is that your Mum?'. It tends to offend if it's not the case.