For calling my wife ‘sick’ over her opinion?

[BenefitDad]

She’s of the opinion that’s it’s strange , borderline ‘emotional incest’ and damn right weird, if an adult son takes their mom out for a meal alone, like just the two of them. She considers this ‘dating’

isnt this completely normal?

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My youngest son just had a week holiday from work he took me to breakfast one day and lunch another day. I love going out for a meal with him. He lives in his own house and comes over once a week for a meal on lasagne night or occasionally twice if I roast midweek. His stepdad is wfh so he can't come but DS and I enjoy a meal out. It's not weird at all. We have a catch up. It's usually a Toby carvery or a Wethersoons meal, so nothing remotely romantic.

My adult son 'treated' me to a kfc, a game of darts and a pint on Mother's Day. Does that count? He was only 19 and I haven't played darts for 20 years but hey - he's a weirdo 🤣

HNRTFT Husband regularly takes his Mum out for lunch,coffee etc . I go out with my children individually for meals ,days out etc , when my darling Mum was still alive I went out with her regularly…it’s normal behaviour 🙄

Your wife would be having kittens I'm invited over for Xmas dinner and DS is doing all the cooking.

Her opinion is weird and wrong, and it's fine to call her out over it.

Calling her sick is horrible, however. Do you love her? Could you not have found a kinder way to tell her she's wrong? I'd find it hard to want to stay with someone who spoke to me like that.

Ive just been away for a night with my dad to go to a sporting event. We stayed in a twin hotel room together. It’s not weird, it family.

My son has been taking me out for dinner/meals/drinks since age 18, it is perfectly normal
OP, your wife is showing more red flags than a British beach right now
trying to cut you off from your relationship with your son? Is your wife an angst ridden teenage girl? Are they themselves a parent? If not this is jealousy and will not go away by itself
Is she ever included once in a while ?

I’ve never heard such a bloody stupid opinion. Does this crackpot wife think it’s ok for a man and his son to go for a pint? She’s the one with the problem. I don’t think I could continue a relationship with someone like this.

I went out to eat and then to the cinema with DS recently!
V normal and also v nice!

I don’t know that I would call her “sick” but she does have interesting ideas. Signed, the mother to 5 sons (all of whom I have been out to dinner with alone. 🤣)

Something is seriously wrong with your wife.

My teenage son invited me to be his plus one at his sports club end of season fo
dinner and awards, saying that I have been his biggest supporter for years and he wanted to acknowledge that formally. I declined as I didn't want to cramp his style but I just thought it was sweet, nothing creepy about it at all.
So I think the OP's wife is wrong, though calling her sick is a bit much.

Of course it’s not weird. It’s lovely.

My dad and I accidentally went out together for dinner on valentines night once lol

I’ve voted YANBU because, of course, on the surface this is totally fine. A meal is a meal. I’d 100% love to hear the other side though.

I’ve heard stories of Mummies snuggling up to their 45 year old big boys, tucking in between son and wife, stroking her wee boy’s thigh.

She's being weird, of course it's normal to go out for a meal with your adult son!

Run far, far away before you have kids it's too late.

You shouldn't call your wife "sick" for one oðd comment but that is definitely weird. I don't see anything strange with a parent and child going out for dinner together, unless they are constantly leaving a partner behind who would like to be included

I’ve heard stories of Mummies snuggling up to their 45 year old big boys, tucking in between son and wife, stroking her wee boy’s thigh.

Where are you hearing these salacious stories? You sound quite into it tbh.

The word you have called her is one I too would use to describe somebody who thinks like she does. Ffs! The fact that her mind even goes there is concerning to me

Sharing a cabin with your child of the opposite sex is very weird! I wouldn't use the i word but definitely weird. How long was the cruise?!

You've just made all that up! Sherlock Holmes you are not 🕵️‍♀️ 😆

This was the first thing I thought of

Thank you for a bit of reality!

I know! And I totally failed! Won’t quit the day job 😅