For calling my wife ‘sick’ over her opinion?

[BenefitDad]

She’s of the opinion that’s it’s strange , borderline ‘emotional incest’ and damn right weird, if an adult son takes their mom out for a meal alone, like just the two of them. She considers this ‘dating’

isnt this completely normal?

What context would normalise that remark?

Putting aside the fact that you'd likely post a different answer if OP were a woman posting about her husband, you're right that there may be more context we don't know.

That said, if there isn't more contex, I understand why he said "sick". My mum is like that. She thinks it's incestuous when my dad ruffles my hair or random other normal dad-like acts of affection (NOT in a sexual/sensual way ffs - he does the same to my brothers too). In relation to this one topic, I think my mum is sick and twisted too.

I wonder if you have an extremely close relationship to oyur mother and you are not telling ALL that is going on, and you only focus on some one random situation sidelining your wife altogether.

Only if they're eating Lady and the tramp style

I don't know. We have one statement from what was probably a contentious conversation so who can say? He clearly doesn't especially like his wife since he isn't saying anything so my guess is that he's delighted to read his weird and awful she is and in all probability will have a major clean up job on his laptop.

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How do you know she doesnt? Does the wife need to compete for his affection with his mother, is that what you mean?

DS takes me out for dinner occasionally and it's the only time we really get a chance to catch up properly. It is "sick" to think there's something abnormal about it.

My brother takes my mum out to dinner. I hope my sons will take me out to dinner when they're older. I've also had dinner with just my brother. Nothing romantic at all!

I knew a lad once who went out with his mum on Valentines Day for a meal bless him 😂think she was a single mum and then he went out with his gf after😂

It was a bit immature of your wife.

Why?

Seems completely normal to me. YANBU.

Went out for lunch with my adult son Friday before he went back to uni. It was great. His dad was at work so didn’t come.

My ds has taken out for dinner on my birthday

and arranged a birthday pudding 🥰

it was lovely but certainly not a date

is this from the American idea of daddy daughter date nights

It was my mum’s birthday recently, my brother took her to a spa. He left her there, did his own thing while she enjoyed massages, jacuzzi etc. After she was done they went to the spa’s restaurant and had tea and cake. He also cooked her supper!

I take my parents out (individually) for food all the time!
I buy them vouchers for bottomless brunch or afternoon tea for their birthdays every year

Well, I've heard it all now

My husband often goes out to dinner on his own with his mum if they both have the spare time and their respective partners (me and FIL) are otherwise engaged.

DH loves his mum. He recognises he wasn't an easy kid growing up and caused her a great deal of stress and worry. All of which she carried while FIL was the old fashioned type who believed only women should raise children. He recognises this as an adult whos matured, so tries to be a good son and show the appreciation and love for her that she didn't get years ago.

I love my DH more for that.

Seeing any sexual connotations to a son and mother going out for a meal together IS sick.

What an unhinged and disturbing view to have.

My adult brother often takes my mum out for dinner. He loves his mum and they both love food!

Yeah, you seem strangely excited about this thread yourself. 🤮

Let's see if we can get to 100 posts without the plopper OP coming back to clarify.

Let's all slag his wife off without any further detail... GO!

Do you think OP is busy with his mum - gone out to dinner?

She's the feckin weirdo.

Is she controlling? Sounds like she doesn't want you spending time alone with your child.

Whose child?! What?

My DS (19) is a student and I take him out for dinner just the 2 of us when I’m visiting! Nobody bats an eyelid. Strange woman!