To be annoyed that DH isn't home to cook dinner?

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We both work long hours. I tend to work longer hours. But it seems like he always finds an excuse to stay in the office until later than me, so I get home and have started preparing him dinner.

Today he said he was leaving the office at around 7:00. Great I said, could he cook dinner (simple dish). I then got home around 8:15 expecting dinner to be ready. No sign of him. I text and he said he had to do something else but would leave now. I said ok, we can cook together when he gets back. Then I get an arsey reply telling me to eat without him he wants to do something else at work. Aka he wants me to cook his dinner.

I'd sit down on a Sunday and plan the week and then see. If he's not willing to commit to days then just consider your relationship

How do you know he finds a way to be in the office longer than you!

It all sounds shit to be honest

Just take it in turns for each of you to cook dinner rather than this 'whoever gets in first does it'. If a day is missed due to working late then it rolls to the following day

He's being a lazy prick, don't let him have the opportunity

This is batshit. He can come home when he wants. No one is forcing you to cook for him.

I get this! Husband will wait until im home before heading home.

God. “Consider your relationship”
”Don’t have children with him”
This place is fucking nuts.

The guy is still at work at 8.15 and needs to do something else but is a pathetic lazy arsehole - okaaaay

This. To ordering take away and let him sort himself out now.

We still both do the morning coffee standoff. I'm trying to replace coffee in the garden with coffee in bed.

The guy is still at work at 8.15 and needs to do something else but is a pathetic lazy arsehole - okaaaay
I have plenty of male colleagues who stay late and do f all, just so they can avoid their children's bedtime. OP said he was heading home until she said he wants him to cook.

Exactly.
I feel like I’m reading a different thread to some people!

But the obvious solution is stop cooking for him. Just do your own thing and stop trying to control him.

like I said it’s different when you have kids but if you don’t, just do your own thing and stop trying to control what other adults do.

to be honest, I preferred it when I was working late that my husband didn’t cook for me. It just put me under pressure I didn’t want.

Just pick yourself up a Maccies. Pay for it from the joint account. Job done.

Exactly. Ridiculous responses when they know nothing else about the OP’s relationship or how he may contribute in other ways. And no, this doesn’t mean that I have a low bar either; I know that comment is often trotted out when these alarmists are faced with a degree or realism.

Is he shagging someone else?

Because.....

Obviously 🙄

My Dh used to do this. So 3 nights a wee I started coming home and then going straight out for a walk or to the gym. And I’d eat whatever he cooked, usually frozen fish and chips, when he’d got home.

it’s more equitable now, and he cooks better stuff….

I'd cook and plan my own meals. If he kicks up a fuss suggest alternating

Me too! Reading the newspaper fully logged off “waiting for bath and bedtime to be over”. Direct quote.

Maybe someone who can cook chicken chips?

I also know plenty of men who have deliberately tried to avoid children’s bedtime. It’s sad because it doesn’t last very long.

He said eat without the op, he did not say the op had to cook for him

Yes it’s terrible but as the OP hasn’t mentioned kids, likely irrelevant.

as the OP hasn’t mentioned kids, likely irrelevant.

Is it though? He was on his way and suddenly discovered he needs to work later when op mentioned she has not cooked dinner yet. Odd, no?

Exactly. Just leave him to his own devises and eat what you want.