Hi all, my dh has spent years berating me about a flaw I have. One that I really wish I didn't have but have, namely I have mental health issues that mean I can only work part-time.
He has zero sympathy for this and always goes on about how I don't work. It's like a stick to beat me with.
He is constantly critical in other areas, too.
Stressing that to not work is an absolute sin and that people who don't work should be left to starve. Unless raising children or disabled etc.
Basically how he sees work as essential.
Now please, I am not here to argue about that, not here to argue about whether he is right or wrong.
It's NOT the point.
During an argument last night, he brought up a past relationship I had with an ex-boyfriend that broke up with me and said, and I quote, 'he couldn' t put up with you. '
I was flabbergasted as at the point me and my ex broke up I WAS in a good job while my then ex was long-term unemployed and a real slacker!!
So the thing that my dh has spent years berating me for, this dreadful flaw (according to him) of being (under) unemployed, I didn't have but my ex did, yet I was still the one being worthy of dumped, the 'worthless' one.
I am so upset about this.
That and the fact that he has implied that WHATEVER relationship I was in I must have been the one that was the less 'valuable' one. The one who was worthy of being tossed aside.
I fucking hate him.
Truly I do.
But I have no idea whether iabu or not.
Incidentally, I lost my confidence and ability to work during our relationship.
Please comment. I'm so upset.