Would you prefer a piss head or a pot head

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As your Dh/Dp?

If you HAD to choose one?

In my circle of main friends (mums) the partners/husbands all seem to have issues with booze-drink too much, go out with mates to the pub/football etc and drink a lot. They are generally fairly sporty-play golf or football

Dh rarely drinks, has the odd beer here or there, but isn’t fussed, hates football and golf, but surfs/snowboards etc. He doesn’t go *Out with the lads, but has either a beer with the odd pal or friends from work or more likely goes to friends houses, they listen to music, chat, watch a film and have a joint.

Which would you prefer?

If I HAD to choose.....neither

my DH is back smoking weed after years off. No tobacco. Home grown. he’s much happier and joyous to be around

No sport though. Just listening to the smiths etc

I would be very comfortable with taking vows if it was the only way to avoid these fates.

Of the two I'd probably take a pot head.

But it's a bit like asking if you'd rather be eaten by a polar bear or a brown bear.

They're both dreadful options.

Neither. I would rather be alone.

Haha?!

I hope you're joking? Haha.

I'd remain single

Def a pot head but not a hopeless case.

Addictions to booze tend to be messier, ime.

Pothead

A pot-head. 100%.

I mean I would run a mile from either but if I had to choose it would be the pot-head.

Pot-heads are lazy, boring and disorganised and (in the worst cases) paranoid. But pot doesn't make people argumentative or violent. Nor is it technically physically addictive. (It's psychologically addictive but no one will go through physical withdrawals coming off pot).

I wouldn't wish an alcoholic partner on my worst enemy.

It's not really a question. I'd not be with anyone who plays golf regardless of their alcohol intake. I'd not be with potheads because mostly they get fuck all done and talk in circles. So I guess a mild drinker who is ok with football, unbothered by golf, and only smokes weed on bank holidays at the most. Or neither 🤷

It would be the weed for me. I quite like a smoke now and again and it's great for my arthritis so it would be nice to have someone else getting the stash in.

Every time I've dated someone with alcohol issues, they've been aggressive and annoying. So definitely not that.

I wouldn't want the kind of stoner who never leaves the house though. They'd have to do stuff with me.

Piss head/ pot head both suggest a problem, I’d have nothing against recreational drug or alcohol use but once it starts to become a problem it doesn’t really matter what the poison is, it’s going to ruin the relationship eventually.

That said, in my experience people are less physically and verbally aggressive when smoking weed than when drinking alcohol, someone who smokes too much weed might be lazy and fail to pull their weight etc but probably isn’t going to be punching holes in the furniture or abusing pets so if I had to choose I’d go pot head.

Maybe go and live in another country?

I’d rather have a pot to piss in.

Not really a hahaha situation, don't make light of it! You (and your dog) are worth much much more. Don't wait for him to fuck off tell him to fuck off

Having an occasional joint doesn't make someone a "pothead", in the same way that having the occasional beer doesn't make someone a "pisshead".

What you've described is men who drink a lot (i.e. pissheads) vs a man who has the occasional joint. I'd take the latter.

Pot head.

Neither, I would far rather remain single.

However, if I had to choose, someone who has a joint now and again like your DH would be my preference - having lived with someone who drank too much.

No partner would be preferable to having to put up with a pot head or piss head. I'd choose to be single.

Is this a serious post?

I've been with both and would rather stay single. The pothead was an absolute #### when he had none and would just be vile to be around, his anger issues were harder to cope with than the hard times with the drunk.
But then I think it depends on the personalities of the guys. The drinker was a lot more laid back generally . But every stoner I've met have always been short tempered .