Would you prefer a piss head or a pot head

[Wantafluffybathrobe]

As your Dh/Dp?

If you HAD to choose one?

In my circle of main friends (mums) the partners/husbands all seem to have issues with booze-drink too much, go out with mates to the pub/football etc and drink a lot. They are generally fairly sporty-play golf or football

Dh rarely drinks, has the odd beer here or there, but isn’t fussed, hates football and golf, but surfs/snowboards etc. He doesn’t go *Out with the lads, but has either a beer with the odd pal or friends from work or more likely goes to friends houses, they listen to music, chat, watch a film and have a joint.

Which would you prefer?

Well my df is a pot head and while I fully understand why my dm divorced him, he hasn't a nasty, violent or spiteful bone in his body.

I've also dated potheads in the past and while not always the most productive members of society they are mostly harmless.

My abusive exdp on the other hand, had a problem with alcohol, and had been drinking whiskey the night he dragged me across the room by my throat while our ds was asleep upstairs.

So pothead all the way.

I don't think I'd ever go anywhere near another man who drinks ever again

But my bf now is neither, and is a vast improvement on both of them.

I'd rather be a nun.

Pothead

Pot. Having been in relationships with weed smokers, the worst they've given me is a headache from the smell and a stench of boredom. Alcohol addiction is much, much worse to deal with.

Assuming we’re talking maybe a joint or two (or even better, an edible) most evenings, easily the ‘pot head’.

anyone who is absent in any way at home is a no, whether or not they drink or smoke weed

Neither- although having lived with the latter, had many evening ruined by them dribbling on the couch, unable to hold a conversation due to too many joints whilst still saying it doesn't affect you at all- they lie to themselves, juts like people who drink too much do. Anyone that can't get through an evening without a drink or a joint or an addict, and I wouldn't ever live with one again.

My friends husband (a pothead) the kindest quietest man you’d ever know had a psychotic episode and attached her with a knife. She had a baby in her arms.
Neither.

and tbh that's a pretty low bar you've set there @Wantafluffybathrobe

A relationship is not mandatory. Neither.

If I HAD to choose, pisshead because I couldn’t be with someone financing the drug trade.

“Would you rather be punched in the face or the stomach?”

Why are men with substance issues my only choices in this scenario?

I would never be with either.

I think amount matters. I wouldn't want to be with an alcoholic or week addict for anything. The type of person who needs a shot of vodka or joint with their breakfast just to face the day, or who cannot socialise without, no way. They are equally as bad as each other.

If it's an occasional thing or way to wind down (say, a goes drinking or smoking with friends at the weekend) I'd choose the booze guy. I hate the smell of pot and think the effects last longer.

So many people don't understand the rules of would you rather 😁
I would rather a pot head as though he would be a useless bastard at least he would be quieter.

My thoughts exactly. Not to mention the issues with county lines etc.

Neither. Eww. Maybe someone who smokes pot occasionally (like once a year ish). Someone who can have a few beers and stop. No more than that.

Pothead. Alcoholism is far worse and also much harder to ever break away from because alcohol is everywhere.

Obviously I wouldn't want either but that would render the thread pointless! So if I had to choose, definitely weed over booze.

I couldn't be with someone who smokes weed, as everyone I know that smokes it lacks any kind of focus or ambition, and don't want to do anything but bum around smoking it

Neither!! My dp constantly tells me I’m lucky he isn’t a beer swilling football maniac. He’s a pothead. I hate alcoholism being compared to having a joint. If he had an occasional joint I likely wouldn’t have an issue, but we are over 20years in and he’s a daily user. He is paranoid, lazy, lacks motivation. Despite it apparently calming him he is aggressive, short tempered, very verbally abusive. And that doesn’t count the (occasional) times he can’t get any. If I manage to get rid of him a none smoker would be essential. Though my plan is to stay happily single forever.
I also wouldn’t want an alcoholic.

But neither is particularly appealing! I'd much rather remain single

Prefer the hard stuff myself

So many people don't understand the rules of would you rather 😁

I understand the rules, I just don't accept them.

Neither. I'd rather get a job on one of those remote bird sanctuary islands where you only see another human when the annual supply boat drops off provisions.

Absolutely no offence to the OP but I think the way you describe your friends partners is a bit harsh or OTT - my DH loves football, he plays every Sunday and trains once a week and occasionally goes out to watch a game. He's actually due to go and watch our local town team tomorrow and i know he'll be out from about 2pm and I honestly don't know when he'll be back but I wouldn't give him a curfew so he gets home when he gets home. Yes. He'll drink - a lot and be pissed when he gets home but I don't really care tbh. I'll have our two DC and have plans to meet a friend for lunch and her DC and the kids can play and we'll have a nice catch up. On the flip side I usually go to a pub quiz during the week and have a drink so he stays home with the kids then. Also, if I make a date with my friends any Friday or Saturday he stays home and puts the kids to bed and I have many drinks and get home when I get home - we are a team at the end of the day. So, if the man wants to go football/golf/rugby and have a few drinks then why not? As long as the woman gets to do her thing another week, I don't see then issue 🤷🏻‍♀️ obviously if someone is an actual drug addict/alcoholic then it's different but regular hobbies I don't see the issue (personally)

Either or both in moderation, neither to excess.

Plus have you been around someone addicted to weed when they don't have access to it? Anyone that says weed smokers aren't aggressive are lucky - they can be angry arseholes when they don't get their fix