No toys downstairs- worried

[Ceci03]

So I visited a new friend who has 2 girls 6 and 4 but there were no toys downstairs. Like none. I'm a bit worried . I did go upstairs and saw a few baby books and they had 2 cuddly toys each on their bunks. I dunno. My kids are older now but I just remember toys everywhere and def in the sitting room maybe try and keep them to a corner. There was just sofa and tv. They watched tv while we chatted . I'd like to get them some toys but am unsure I don't want to offend my friend. I know she struggles financially.

In a later post (no 5) of this thread she said she might be struggling financially so we aren't sure about this.

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Because some people care about other children’s welfare. Bit like when someone posts on here about a potential safeguarding concern and some posters tell them to keep their nose out of other people’s business, when actually it is important to be aware of safeguarding concerns.

'She's a lovely mum very loving and looks after the girls great they always dressed in nice clothes and very clean and hair done'

This was the comment made by poster during thread so I don't get the impression she had safeguarding concerns.
I am aware of safeguarding and looking out for at risk children and vulnerable adults. Nobody on here would dispute that.

I would feel the same OP,
It's kind concern for a friend, not nosiness
She may be offended if you turn up with stuff, but I would just say a relative/ neighbour had had a big clear out and you wondered if you'd like the things?
I have actually done this for my friend/ neighbour with a 4 year old
Gathered some toys/ games from a charity shop and bought bits like play d'oh etc
I enjoy it and they were delighted

God with you on the Lego! Hate the stuff!

My kids have LOADS of toys but not Lego... never Lego, its the devil.

I'm actually trying to introduce a rule where toys are majoritively 1 larger piece (maybe with 2 or 3 smaller pieces if needed, like imaginext building with 2 figures) rather than any things with 1000 little bits (that get lost) because it drives me insane now picking up eleventy billion tiny bits.

Are people so pedantic about toys that have small bits because they can’t cope with mess. What happens if your child liked lego? What happens if a friend or relative buys them some and then they want some more?

My dad says that not so long ago, kids didn't have as many toys as they do now - they had maybe one or two, and santa brought oranges and maybe chocolate.

Also, some storage is quite well hidden - there's every chance that a bit of furniture you were sitting on had the seat lifted and a load of toys thrown in there minutes before you arrived!

In 15 years no one has ever bought my kids Lego... and non of my kids have been even remotely interested in it either.

I bought my own DS one of those small Lego car kits (spiderman one) and he was endlessly frustrated by the fact that it fell apart every time he went to play with it as a car.

I find Lego fanatics online fascinating (especially as they are usually adults) because in real life I don't know anyone actually that into Lego. Its quite an irritating fiddly toy especially for a child and the sets are useless and non functional as 'toys'.

Little kids tend to like megablocks but non I know upgraded to Lego.

As a kid myself I personally liked big K'nex motorized building sets (like the Farris wheel one). Even then non of my friends where interested much in that either and my DS was woefully uninterested in the rollercoaster K'nex kit I bought him.

I'm honestly amazed at the lego hatred on here, which just goes to show different strokes for different folks, I guess. It's been my favourite toy for my DC for a while - it promotes fine motor skills and concentration and it doesn't take up that much space in our house.

Lego is great! You have to enjoy the putting it together part though or it wouldn’t be fun. My 4 yr old is obsessed with the instructions. I think he finds it magical that you can follow the steps and end up with a model of something at the end.

Great but ridiculously expensive even for a small box!

I like the fact it doesn’t take up space - my eldest loved it but wanted sets that were like 60-80 pounds - they’d be made set up and within a week of trying to play with them dismantled and in a box of random Lego never to be played with again. I reckon I’ve spent about 600 pounds on Lego that’s now just all random bits in a box.

I'd find that odd too.

DD is 6 we don't have any visible toys downstairs (there is drawing stuff in the sideboard in the dining room, and we have two ottomans in the living room, one with games, the other with books). But on first impression you wouldn't think there were toys downstairs when they're tidied away (which is often not the case).

But DD's bedroom has lots of toys and books.

So yes, I'd be slightly concerned if a friend's children didn't seem to have any toys.

It’s like that in our house. The toys are put back away when they are finished with them.

The lies some of ' em tell on here in order to play Top Trumps.
As somebody who knows the charity shop BUSINESS, there ain't no thing as kitting out a whole reception class full of kit from a charity shop for a fiver since our currency has been decimalised!
And most certainly not in our too many children per teacher ratio classrooms.

Seriously wouldn’t have thought twice about this. Guessing she just tidied up for your visit or maybe she’s generally a very tidy person, perhaps the DC’s toys are in storage boxes in another room?

'TV not toys' isn't that just lazy parenting rather than a way of parenting.