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Bride is sick!!

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Rewinder · 08/09/2023 03:20

My best friend is getting married on Saturday and has just messaged saying she is ill. D&V! The timing could not be worse.
im a bridesmaid. We’re all staying together Friday night.
what if she’s still ill for the wedding?!
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AussieManque · 08/09/2023 03:25

There is a chance she could have covid, many people are presenting with D&V with covid. For the sake of everyone else attending the wedding, she should test (swabbing mouth - cheeks and throat - and nose) today and tomorrow.

Hopefully it's just a 24 hour thing, in which case you should avoid seeing her as long as possible to avoid getting infected just in time for the wedding!

OrderOfTheKookaburra · 08/09/2023 03:26

Do NOT get her to take immodium today, that will just keep whatever is making her sick stay inside her instead of getting flushed out.

Lots of fluids, dry crackers/toast and hopefully it's a short term bug. Then Immodium for the wedding day to get her through, if she's well enough.

I'd avoid spending Friday night with her, but have someone on hand to help get her ready on the day.

I'm assuming she doesn't have wedding insurance? (Very few people do).

Ilovenyfan · 08/09/2023 03:28

God this was my worst nightmare as a bride!

Well she needs to rest up and try and get over it as quick as she can. She’s still contagious 48 hours after she’s last been sick/ D&V though which would be my worry, she could infect a whole wedding! Is it definitely a bug or has she eaten something dodgy? Has it just been one episode of D&V or multiple?

I wouldn’t be staying with her Friday night personally, I’d stay at home/ nearby if I could get somewhere and meet her Saturday morning to get ready etc.

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Rewinder · 08/09/2023 03:32

Yes, I’m not keen to spend the night in close proximity with her! There’s 7 of us staying over. Not sure about insurance?
I’ve already told her to lay off the Imodium for now and to just sip water. It’s been several episodes of D&V. Think she had takeaway for tea

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Purpleshoes13 · 08/09/2023 03:37

Is it possible it could just be nerves or the heat?
Maybe get her to take some dioralyte in the morning as its meant to be hot again

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Rewinder · 08/09/2023 03:50

I did wonder if it was nerves, but it sounds too extreme to be that.

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Ilovenyfan · 08/09/2023 03:59

There really isn’t a lot she can do other than ride it out. But no food today (honestly I find the more you starve yourself/ the bug, the quicker it goes) only small sips of water. Tonight if she’s managed to keep the water down I’d drink a rehydration sachet (can get them from any chemist) and get a good nights sleep and hope for the best for tomorrow.

Missingmyusername · 08/09/2023 03:59

Do NOT get her to take immodium today, that will just keep whatever is making her sick stay inside her instead of getting flushed out.

^This. A hospital consultant told me never, ever take Imodium unless it’s just for example nerves related. You can end up very ill if you keep the infection inside you. There’s a reason your body is trying to get rid of it.

Hopefully it’ll be gone by Saturday….

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Rewinder · 08/09/2023 04:10

I’m absolutely gutted for her!

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StellaLaBella · 08/09/2023 04:38

She needs to rest, get as many fluids with high quality electrolytes - not sugary crap, research really clean ones that have ingredients like Celtic salt/nothing artificial - get as much of it out of her system asap like others have said.

Agree it may be Covid, it is whipping around where I am and symptoms are similar. So perhaps a test would help because then she may be able to get Paxlovid which works fast. I know others will be all like you have to cancel because it's Covid, but personally, I would cross that bridge on Saturday morning. Poor thing 💔

NeunundneunzigHorseBallonz · 08/09/2023 04:54

The poor bunny! I managed to get food poisoning the night before my wedding. Felt vile. Had D&V all night and couldn’t look at the food at our wedding. The dress zipped up really easily though 🤪. 20 years ago now, but I think she will be fine. Just take Imodium two hours before the wedding just in case.

ZeldaWillTellYourFortune · 08/09/2023 04:57

I certainly would nix the sleepover under these circumstances.

blendedfamly · 08/09/2023 05:04

Poor thing i developed a bad cold 2 days before. I bunged lots of meds/vitamins down me and the adrenaline kicked in on the day and I felt absolutely fine. (Alcohol probably helped too)

As people said rest, dry crackers/water and no meds. Hopefully it will clear out. On the day she will need to take meds if not gone and just make the best of it. But fingers crossed it's food poisoning and once it's out it's out.

Seddon · 08/09/2023 05:17

I was unfortunate enough to have a bout earlier this week. Started about 2am, the unpleasantness was finished by the following afternoon though I was pretty wrung out, but I was good to go the day after that. Hopefully that will be the case for her too!

(And yes I was a lot thinner!)

Yellowlegobrick · 08/09/2023 05:19

She needs to go nil by mouth to starve the vomiting. Just continuous small sips of water to prevent dehydration. Saturday is 24 hours away, a d&v bug usually eases fast

fairyfluf · 08/09/2023 05:20

Get her to check her wedding insurance just in case. Hopefully today she will get it all out her system. Do not stay over with her on Friday.

Backtoblack1 · 08/09/2023 05:24

I was unwell with similar for about two weeks after a dodgy take away once. I really hope that’s not what caused it…

DoDoDoD · 08/09/2023 05:59

Tell Her to drink flat 7up and eat crackers

Zanatdy · 08/09/2023 06:05

Hopefully it’s a 24hr thing, in which case she would start feeling better by tonight. I guess you all need to be careful but if she had a takeaway maybe that’s the cause. Did anyone else eat it and get sick? Really hope the wedding goes ahead and she’s better. Gorgeous weather for it

Stravaig · 08/09/2023 06:06

As pp have said, abandon all pre-wedding plans, and definitely no sleepover party. Bride should focus on resting and flushing it all out.

I'd also try to gauge if she's having second thoughts and needs support to pause/reconsider. A wedding can feel like a juggernaut, and calling it off is so taboo that it might only be expressed physically.

maddiemookins16mum · 08/09/2023 06:10

My friend (an advanced senior nurse practitioner), was only telling me last night that she is seeing a lot of this with the new covid strain.

LookingforMaryPoppins · 08/09/2023 06:19

In the absence of their being any insurance in place, Pepto-Bismol is an amazing cure! I went out for a meal and managed to get food poisoning. I felt absolutely awful V&D plus awful headache. I was recommended to take Pepto-Bismol by a pharmacist - made a huge difference!

CRbear · 08/09/2023 06:27

I feel quite differently to the other responses in a way. I agree she’s got a good chance of being over the worst of it by tonight- and the idea of abandoning her to be on her own tonight sounds so cruel! If she’s up for it - I’d be going. And if I got sick so what?! If she’s well enough to have you over it’s likely food poisoning (to have gone so fast) which you can’t catch, and if it’s a bug then I’d take my chances. There’s not many people I would be bridesmaid for - but those I would I’d take the risk not to leave them to sleep alone on the night before or to get ready on the day of their wedding! It’s a once in a lifetime!

MrsToothyBitch · 08/09/2023 06:31

The poor bride! I'd test for covid as I've also heard the current strain is D&V-ey. Don't go near her til the wedding. Certainly don't stay with her!

To get past the bug itself, as others have suggested, let it all come out - no diarrhoea remedies, be nil by mouth other than sips of water and a flat fizzy drink (sevenup is best) and take dioralyte/similar to rehydrate in the evening. If she absolutely must eat - I get horrific acid if I don't - then dry crackers or dry toast. I'd then take an immodium to get through the wedding on the day of the wedding just to stop any accidents.

Definitely do not eat any dairy. I ate dairy too soon after food poisoning and my stomach did not cope.

hopefulmum46 · 08/09/2023 06:34

I had horrendous diarrhoea the day before my wedding, no vomiting though. I suspect it was just nerves. I took some Immodium and was fine on the day itself. As others have said, hopefully even if it is a bug or dodgy takeaway she'll be over it (at least the worst of it and can take some Immodium for the rest) by tomorrow morning and can enjoy her day.