Bride is sick!!

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My best friend is getting married on Saturday and has just messaged saying she is ill. D&V! The timing could not be worse.
im a bridesmaid. We’re all staying together Friday night.
what if she’s still ill for the wedding?!
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def not immodium!

I'm an emetophobe (have had therapy) and at my worst I'd have already cancelled being Bridesmaid and attending the wedding.

Current situation there is no way I'd be attending overnight.

I totally understand the bride doesn't want to cancel but she needs to give others a heads up.

FWIW I still keep a bottle of Sterizar at home - this does kill Norovirus - for emergencies. I also agree with Pepto Bismal but I've had to get recent supplies from the US as it seems to no longer be produced here in the UK.

Don't go tonight!

The bride's fantasy of a pre-wedding sleepover with her friends is negligible compared to the possibility of you and others getting sick.

How absurd for others to suggest you risk it. She's a grown woman who can spend an evening alone, and she'll eventually be just as married either way.

She really needs to alert wedding guests, vendors and her officiant so that they can weigh the risks, too.

Frankly I'd be pulling out.

Agree, though i wouldn't risk Covid either.

Sometimes weddings have to be canceled. Sad but one can't inflict illness on others, just to have the desired audience to one's own life.

Many might be privately in treatment for cancer, or otherwise vulnerable.

So she wants you to all go round to watch her vomit and listen to her have diarrhoea and share a bathroom and then you all start spewing tomorrow? Nope.
Tell her you’ll be round in the morning when she’s less infectious if she’s feeling up to it. Absolutely horrible situation though for her.

You could go in this

Also tell her to get cyclizine from the doctor. Stops nausea and vomiting.

No way on earth would I go this evening!

she needs to see a doctor asap.

If it’s food poisoning she might well be ok tomorrow. If it’s norovirus she won’t be and should cancel. Someone should advise all guests today. I would be livid if invited to a wedding where catching norovirus was a possibility but I hadn’t been told.

She hasn’t been sick since about 3am. Not sure about the other end though, didn’t like to ask!
she’s up and about, doing her thing today, so feel ok afaik

So she hasn't been sick since about the time she messaged to say that she has D&V??

I know if I miss tonight, she won’t be happy

Well she might not be happy but what would she do?

By the sounds of things she'll still be getting her sleepover.

If it's food poisoning, she'll probably be ok, if a bit delicate. Noro, unless she has a high temperature, shivering, cramps etc is unlikely. I've had noro and when I wasn't in the bathroom, was in the foetal position, shivering and sweating. It poleaxes you.

That bridesmaid scene has me crying with laughter everytime

No she hasn’t

If she's okay today I'd be putting it down to the heat, nerves and maybe an added bit of stress and hoping for the best

At least she’s not flying Delta to get to the wedding?

If she stopped being sick at 9am she might be ok.
To give you an idea of why attending a wedding with norovirus would be a bad idea:
My sister and her two children came to stay with me on a Friday morning.My eldest was sick at 3pm ish for the first time. My other three were vomting by the evening. By 9 o clock at night, 8 out of 9 in the house had D&V. Utterly horrific.
The only unaffected was one of my sister's DDs who had been given a norovirus vaccine in the US.

Surely the point is that the bride is ill not that "it could be Covid" 🙄

D&V is also contagious and not something you want to be passing on.

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Seriously, I hope it all works out, that it was a swift bout of food poisoning that goes as quickly as it arrived & you all have a lovely time tomorrow.

Hand sanitiser even 70% alcohol ,absolutely Does not work against Norovirus.

Norovirus has a tough outer coat.

Soap and hot running water is the only way to get rid of it from hands {but turn tap off with tissue afterwards}.

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I empathise hugely as a fellow emetophobe.
Avoid eating any food she may have prepared {She'll still be shedding virus for 48 hrs if it is Norovirus} and wash your hands before eating anything with your hands,{crisps, nibbles, buffet} in case there are contaminated surfaces.

It's really annoying how selfish some people can be around Norovirus &c
''I'm alright, Jack'' while they blithely infect others around them.
I hope you will be OK, Rewinder.

Definitely do a Covid test. I had it last week and that’s how it started.

She is probably nervous I get a bit ill when my nerves are all over the place. As a bridesmaid you should be putting her at ease,

Would she tell you the truth?! Just a thought…people lie about when they’ve been last sick if they think people will not want to be around them!

not a chance I would be going to the sleepover if I were you!

d&v is so catching-there’s a 48 hour exclusion period (after last d or v) for a reason!

wherher it’s covid or otherwise she is infectious…knowing two people with severe long covid I’m another one to say that if she does go ahead with the wedding she should do a covid test and inform people of the result.

If covid negative and still plans to go ahead as embarrassing as it is to say you have d&v - if she tells guests then at least they can make informed choice &/or be very very vigilant about hand washing and choose to keep distance a bit from her if needed.

if she has insurance then she’d be best to call 111 for advice so that if they tell her she must isolate she’d have evidence for insurance company…

its sad for her, rubbish timing but she can’t insist you all crack on like everything’s fine when it’s not!

can you offer to drop off on the door step some rehydration sachets, some plain biscuits and a card instead of going round for sleepover.