Bride is sick!!

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My best friend is getting married on Saturday and has just messaged saying she is ill. D&V! The timing could not be worse.
im a bridesmaid. We’re all staying together Friday night.
what if she’s still ill for the wedding?!
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help!!

FWIW when I had norovirus earlier this year I literally felt like death. D&V, horrendous fever, whole body hurt. DH caught it from me and was the same way. I was fine 24 hours later. If she only has the D&V it might not be norovirus.

Because it means she knows and can avoid infecting everyone at her wedding?

People like you are the reason it's spreading so much again!

Yep Ilim thinking norovirus too.. she will likely be over the worst by the wedding, just wiped out. But extremely contagious so guests need to be very careful

Oh please 🙄the last thing the bride needs is being accused of being neglectful .
Op she can and should have some anti sickness medication , see if anyone prescribes her ondansetron. Imodium can help the other problem.
Bless her , she must be feeling so sad and anxious .

I think people meant so that the OP doesn't come down with it that night or miss wedding, and be unable to support on the day. Bride needs rest, in bed early, not to be hanging out with friends, anyway.

At least she should fit into her dress!

She might be ok by tomorrow. I've had 24 hour bugs and have been totally fine the next day.

Never ever take immodium if you suspect a bug or food poisoning as you need to get rid. Or for a hangover. Or at all, if possible, treat what is causing the diarrhoea.

I had the worst hangover ever once as I took what I thought was paracetamol and it was paracodol and stopped me going to the toilet. Normally one big poo and I feel better.

See how she is tonight. Those bugs can pass very quickly, since they're being expelled literally every which way.

This is the perfect illustration of the thinking that public health are keen to quash (ie if a covid test is negative, you're good to go - even though the likelihood is you're infectious with norovirus!). NHS advice is to isolate if you suspect you have an infection of ANY sort; it's the very reason the NHS advice is to NOT routinely test for covid.

@LaffTaff but without testing, she might feel better but still be infectious. If she's positive on an LFT, she's infectious. On the other hand, we can't rely on a negative test to rule out infection so if she goes ahead feeling ill, the least she can do is inform guests so they can take precautions, and the venue should implement mitigations like maximizing ventilation and running HEPA filters. This should be standard anyway as there's bound to be a guest with COVID if she has more than say, 50 guests, given current self-repoeted infection rates on Zoe.

The NHS aren't asking people to test because the government policy is don't ask don't tell. They don't even routinely test people with symptoms on admission to hospital. There has been a distinct failure of public health.

I don't know about you but I'd feel terrible if my wedding led to my nearest and dearest all falling sick with something that has potential life changing ramifications, let alone norovirus.

In any case I hope it's just food poisoning that passes through quickly!

I wouldn’t see her tonight, as PP have said, she needs to fast and get as much water down herself as possible.

I would do a covid test and use wedding insurance if she has to cancel, although obviously that’s a last resort.

Hopefully she will feel well enough to get through it on Saturday. I attended a wedding where the groom was dreadfully unwell and actually fainted during the ceremony. It was awful for them and all anyone talked about of course!!

There are no homeopathic treatments on the NHS due to a lack of evidence that it works

Because it's water that has a purely placebo effect

If the bride suspects she has an infection of ANY sort then yes, the responsible thing to do would be let guests know.
In terms of 'ramifications'... No, I'm not going to agree with you that one infection somehow 'trumps' another.

A placebo effect could be pretty useful in an emergency.

I would just do a round robin email or Whatsapp to guests (assuming everything goes ahead) and let them make their own minds up.

I think with any big event getting numbers of people together there is always the risk of catching anything from a cold to covid to food poisoning anyway.

If the wedding goes ahead the bride and groom need to warn the guests so they can decide if they want to take the risk. If it's norovirus it can be dangerous for some (and just bloody unpleasant for everyone else).

Maybe get a couple of bottles of hand sanitiser in the venue as well.

I still use it when going on public transport etc as trains are fucking filthy and germy. And people, especially men, don't wash their hands properly.

Arsen Alba is sugar pills so it just goes to show you you have no idea if you think its water.
And if you are so convinced there aren't any homeopathic treatments available on the NHS - you might want to ring the hospital's pharmacy and let them know because they are open for business today.
RLHIM Pharmacy : University College London Hospitals NHS Foundation Trust (uclh.nhs.uk)

As her friend the best thing you can do (aside from making sure she's got help with the practical stuff*)
is help her to radically adjust her expectations of herself and the weekend. I know it will be disappointing but she needs to conserve her energy for the bit that is most important.

Can you get together over zoom this evening for a bit? She'll be feeling emotionally shite as well as physically.

Looking at the agenda for tomorrow, what can be stripped back? Who needs to know so they can make contingency arrangements - celebrant, photographer, (eg, camping chair if they're doing photos outside so she can rest in between).

What are the 'get-out' points during the day where she can rest privately or escape to a loo if needed. Who will have water or 7up on hand?

ie no immodium today but pharmacy on standby for tomorrow, flat dull fat coke / 7up /lucozade in the house. When I had D&V I found plain boiled rice was the first thing I could manage. Then banana, then crisps/popcorn.

2 days before my wedding I was rushed into hospital with agonizing stomach pains and spent the night (first time it ever happened but has several times since).

5 years on and finally been diagnosed with a hemorrhagic peptic ulcer that won't heal.

I was out of hospital and completely fine on the day of the wedding though.

Pepto Bismol is great but not available anywhere at the moment. My dd had severe D&V recently and I remember it but everywhere was out of stock. The pharmacy said there are production issues.
My dd was told to take Imodium by the GP, but her bug was so extreme that she was at risk of needing a drip. We tested her daily for Covid but all the tests were negative and nobody else got ill, stool sample came back negative for all obvious things so we have no idea what it was. She was really unwell and it did last for four days or so, possibly needing anti emetics and Imodium made it last longer ? I don’t know.
Hopefully your friend has food poisoning rather than a virus.

If it's food poisoning she will recover.

If it's norovirus or something similar, she may have to cancel. I caught a bug from a groom at a wedding and it was not at all fun. About 30 guests went down with it including some very elderly people.

Don't see her tonight! Otherwise it may be you doing a trail of diaorrhea down the aisle behind her, like the unfortunate passenger on that plane that had to be turned round. It sounds like norovirus which is contagious and fast-acting. She needs to stay in bed today and get it out of her system and she should (hopefully) be well enough tomorrow with the help of Immodium and Dioralyte.

People like you , maybe need to stay away from events . Then you don’t need to worry about what others do 🤷🏻‍♀️. Let those of us willing to live with the risk to actually live our life’s instead of having another 2 years of hell