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Bride is sick!!

248 replies

Rewinder · 08/09/2023 03:20

My best friend is getting married on Saturday and has just messaged saying she is ill. D&V! The timing could not be worse.
im a bridesmaid. We’re all staying together Friday night.
what if she’s still ill for the wedding?!
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ittakes2 · 08/09/2023 06:41

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ISpyNoPlumPie · 08/09/2023 06:59

CRbear · 08/09/2023 06:27

I feel quite differently to the other responses in a way. I agree she’s got a good chance of being over the worst of it by tonight- and the idea of abandoning her to be on her own tonight sounds so cruel! If she’s up for it - I’d be going. And if I got sick so what?! If she’s well enough to have you over it’s likely food poisoning (to have gone so fast) which you can’t catch, and if it’s a bug then I’d take my chances. There’s not many people I would be bridesmaid for - but those I would I’d take the risk not to leave them to sleep alone on the night before or to get ready on the day of their wedding! It’s a once in a lifetime!

“Food poisoning” can be caused by a “bug” as well and can spread from person to person.

As others have said, hopefully symptoms will settle within 24hrs and she’ll be better for the wedding. She will likely still be infectious though and if she’s greeting all her family and friends, could pass the infection to others. Are there any vulnerable people (elderly/babies/pregnant women) going to the wedding? Best to avoid. She needs to consider the balance of risks. Maybe have the wedding and meal but avoid the party? It’s not for me to say but I’d be so upset in the same situation. She can take Imodium on the day but if she’s still symptomatic, that’s probably not good.

Snugglemuffins4me · 08/09/2023 07:04

I would try get her some Entersogel it’s great for upset tummy’s always stops the kids when they get it . You can get it in Holland and Barrets or Boots . Hopefully she will be over the worst of it by this afternoon.

Beautiful3 · 08/09/2023 07:09

4 of us had covid a few weeks ago. 3 of us had d&v as our first symptoms. I had a few tests left over, so used that to see if it was covid, it was.

Chiaseedling · 08/09/2023 07:15

Such a shame. I hope it’s all over more or less by tmw at least.
i Had a really bad cold leading up and on my wedding day - has felt not great for a couple of weeks beforehand which was probably cos of stress too! I managed to dose up on some drugs you can’t get these days 😂 hopefully she will be able to take Imodium on the day and will have stopped throwing up by today. D will prob take longer to eliminate than v.

Daffodil18 · 08/09/2023 07:19

For her sake nobody should stop with her tonight because if you all catch it, you will all be ill on her wedding day and that will ruin it. There’s chance for her to recover by tomorrow. You can all just turn up early Saturday morning.

Nope333 · 08/09/2023 07:21

I had d and v 9 days before my wedding. The Thursday afternoon it started with the sickness, Friday was the toilet end. Saturday I actually had a hen party and I went but I didn’t feel brilliant but the worst was over. If the Saturday was my wedding day I could have coped.

I spent an abnormal amount of time worrying about getting sick (specifically stomach issues). I blame the nursery was planning to not go the week before the wedding aswell as it was a germ fest 😂

Somewhereovertherainbowweighapie · 08/09/2023 07:21

I wouldn’t stay over with her. The last thing she will want is anyone around. If she is still unwell in the morning look into getting her to a dr. For anti nausea medication and give her lots of Imodium.

ZebraD · 08/09/2023 07:23

How heartbreaking! I hope she recovers in time. Maybe if she picks up a bit to get through it, she could have little periods of rest after the ceremony for a bit so she can get through the day. Let us know how she gets on. Good luck.

LlynTegid · 08/09/2023 07:25

Nothing to add to the advice, hope the bride is well on Saturday and you all have a lovely day.

Badleg89 · 08/09/2023 07:26

Our family had a d&v bug the week before my wedding, my in laws had it the weekend before, I got it the Tues/Wed (wedding on the friday) and thankfully started eating properly again on the Thursday. My poor DF got it the morning of the wedding, he was able to get some sort of drug from the GP to get him through the wedding and he went home after the speeches. Luckily it was mainly outside and speeches/the breakfast were in an open sided barn

I remember still feeling like death on the Wednesday being so upset thinking it would never go away. My friends still came around the Thursday evening

BadHairBae · 08/09/2023 07:29

Get her to check with her insurance. I had no idea I was covered for my wedding. I called my insurer and it was already part of my package 🤷🏻‍♀️

xyz111 · 08/09/2023 07:33

I had it a few weeks ago. Started at 0600, finished at 1100 but felt rubbish all day. Hopefully it's over quickly!!

fussyotter · 08/09/2023 07:34

Oh, the poor thing. Another vote here for entersogel. Pharmacist recommended it when DH got food poisoning the week of our wedding. Might take 24 hours to kick in but it does help. You can get it from Amazon.

StillWantingADog · 08/09/2023 07:41

Poor bride!
thwre is a very good chance she will be ok by this evening, let’s cross fingers

Thatsridiculous · 08/09/2023 07:46

Most bugs are less than 24 hours so fingers crossed that’s all it will be.

I know it’s her wedding day and I know it’s rubbish but to try and avoid carnage tomorrow at the wedding, she should spend tonight alone - sleeping and getting over this

NotAgainBrian · 08/09/2023 07:46

Oh the poor thing, what awful timing. Like others have said avoid imodium for now, just sips of water. I also find flat coke or lemonade helpful. I understand what a previous poster says about it being cruel not to stay over with her tonight, but equally imagine if you all catch it and get ill on the wedding day?! Personally I'd avoid staying or if you really can't then just try to stay away from her (as much as you can in the same room 😆) and be super careful with hand hygiene etc.

I really feel for her, such cruel timing to come down with this just before your wedding. I hope she's feeling better by tonight, please let us know how she gets on.

diddl · 08/09/2023 08:04

If she's feeling better tonight & wanting people to stay might she still pass it on?

If so surely it's better to stay away?

If she only started this morning she'll want to rest as much as possible won't she?

Orquid · 08/09/2023 08:05

If it is too extreme maybe it was food poisoning; hopefully she is ok now.

PinkRoses1245 · 08/09/2023 08:06

Definitely don’t take a Covid test, how will that help? Lots of water and electrolytes. Does she have wedding insurance?

CosyNightsOnTheSofa · 08/09/2023 08:09

Rewinder · 08/09/2023 03:32

Yes, I’m not keen to spend the night in close proximity with her! There’s 7 of us staying over. Not sure about insurance?
I’ve already told her to lay off the Imodium for now and to just sip water. It’s been several episodes of D&V. Think she had takeaway for tea

Could just be food poisoning in that case so she will hopefully be OK by tomorrow.

I wouldn't be bothering to test for covid or cancelling if it is but she's OK by then, there's no need to isolate. Just behave as you would any other illness, maybe hold back on the hugs and kisses with extended family if she's just over it, the husband will have to take a chance 🤣, just hope he doesn't start with it today/tomorrow.

CosyNightsOnTheSofa · 08/09/2023 08:10

I'd pass on spending the night before with her though!

LaffTaff · 08/09/2023 08:12

Oh that's awful! Horrific timing. Norovirus can be nasty, though fortunately symptoms are usually/mercifully short lived. Rehydration drinks will help.
Norovirus can be risky, particularly for elderly and children - the dehydration risk is significant in those groups. Infection control advice is 48 hours isolation after symptoms stop...

Viralsunflower · 08/09/2023 08:12

Get her to do a covid test as I know quite a few people that have thought they had D&V bugs but actually had covid.

It could well be a combination of nerves, the heat, and eating some pants food rather than a bug that hangs around. Hopefully she is ok by Saturday morning but there's not much anyone can do. Tell her not to take anti-d tablets, let her body ride it out, lots of water, and if needs be plenty of immodium on hand on Saturday.

ohfourfoxache · 08/09/2023 08:14

May have been recommended already….

smart water

It’s better for electrolyte replacement than dioralyte and is much more palatable

I swear by it - it’s prevented at least 1 hospital admission for my eldest