Bride is sick!!

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My best friend is getting married on Saturday and has just messaged saying she is ill. D&V! The timing could not be worse.
im a bridesmaid. We’re all staying together Friday night.
what if she’s still ill for the wedding?!
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help!!

Imodium made me extremely ill on my sisters weddings day. I ended up passing out having photos taken and had to leave.
Ride it out to the very last minute. Before considering it.

She does need to tell her guests, whatever your stance on covid etc you might be inside the 48 hour window for D&V at the wedding and for me personally that would mean I wouldn't be at the wedding as a guest. People need to be allowed the choice.

Immodium is fine if you've got a nervous tummy or a hangover or if you're at the end of food poisoning/norovirus and you just need the reflexive diaorrhea to stop. If you're in the middle of a bout of D&V it's probably not a good idea though as you need to get the bad stuff out.

I had what I think was food poisoning a few weeks ago in Turkey - 8 hours or very unpleasant v&d- and had to take Immodium to fly home otherwise I'd have been stuck there/had to fork out for new flights, and I was absolutely fine, it worked, no ill effects.

Honestly I think if you're really worried about covid/norovirus, you shouldn't attend large functions or go into city centres at the moment as both are doing the rounds. Everyone I know seems to have had one or the other or both in the last few weeks. You can't tell who has it or who hasn't and the only way to play safe, if that's what you need to do, is by staying home.

Hopefully it's a quick thing but, even if she feels better, she really needs to think hard about whether or not she should be in a crowd of people.

DH works in pairs (postie) and his partner caught a D&V bug from his young child. He couldn't take any more sick leave so he went in to work with active D&V (he had to pull over the van and vomit in the gutter). By not staying at home, the guy managed to wipe out his own mother, several colleagues in the delivery office, my DH and - by extension - me. I'm emetophobic and I was raging.

I’d also recommend , on the wedding day, she takes buscapan as well as Imodium.
I have IBS and have had numerous unfortunate and embarrassing incidents. For big events, travel or times when I know it’ll be difficult to get home in an emergency I take both.

the buscapan acts on quietening down spasms in bowels- if it’s nerve related rather than infection it will help particularly with that

drink as much as she can, get rehydration salts - you can still be a good bridesmaid by helping her get these things without leaving her home, and checking in with her every couple of hours.

But do try to get her to do a Covid test - I had Covid last year and it was all D&V for first 48 hours. She might not need to cancel the wedding if she feels ok in herself by then, but if there are elderly or immunosuppressives or pregnant women attending they need to know so they can pull out of attending. this is worse case- I suspect it’s way more likely to be nerves and a bit of IBS type symptoms.

give over - BASIC human respect for others is not the same as giving up 2 years of your life.

All you have to do is not be selfish for less than 2 weeks when you could KILL someone.

It won’t help her, but it will help people attending make informed choices. Weddings tend to be attended by elderly grand parents or potentially other immunosuppressed people, and even by pregnant women, who need to avoid contact with Covid due to their heightened risk.

You do remember that Covid is a more serious disease than flu, and kills in large numbers. 137 people died of Covid in the week of 30 august for instance. Stats not yet been issued for last week but it’s increasing.

It’s also important for people to know if they have important schedules in the 10 days after- like needing to travel themselves, attend another event etc. if I was supposed to be flying on business long haul on the Monday, I’d certainly be doing something about it, given this information.

sure, for rest of healthy population, or even those over 55 who’ve had their Covid vaccine last year it’ll be ok- but people need to know to decide for themselves.

But you crack on with being selfish about when you get ill.

There were homeopathic hospitals so poster is correct.
but they have mostly shut now as evidence did not point to value for money and it’s believed scientifically that it’s mostly placebo effect

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homeopathic_hospitals_in_the_National_Health_Service#:~:text=Following%20declining%20support%20within%20the,on%20the%20NHS%20should%20cease.

Noravirus is doing its rounds at the moment, we had it a couple of weeks ago and I know a few others who had it too. Personally I wouldn’t stay with her tonight just in case it’s contagious. As other posters have said, a Covid test would be advisable. Probiotics can sometimes help with gastro issues, plus plenty of fluid and a plain diet.

Oh that's awful!
Agree no food - starve the bug.
Lots of fluid and rehydration sachets.
Would be good if you don't all stay together or if you do keep your distance, don't share towels/ utensils and anti bac surfaces?
I hope she is better soon

In situations like this she should phone her GP and she could get a shot of steroids. I don't think doctors normally do this but will for weddings and other very big events.

Sorry but I can't help thinking of that awful scene in 'Bridesmaids' 💩

diaoralyte (did I spell that right?) is her friend. she should take 1 sachet mixed with 250 ml water every time she takes a trip to the bathroom/throws up. as well as rehydration her, it re establishes the electrolyte balance in the gut, improving the symptoms.

Last time I had bad D&V it lasted less than 12h. Hopefully hers will be as quick, lots of rest and fluids like the others said.

She should have a call with a doctor and see what they recommend.

Please tell her to take Imodium.

Diarrhoea and vomiting are not your bodies natural repose to ridding itself of the virus. It is the viruses way of replicating into another host. Otherwise every time you had an illness you’d shit it out! The d&v are full of the virus which has been spread around for another people to catch. Diarrhoea kills people by dehydration, why would your body deplete itself of water.

Stop the diarrhoea and vomiting and her immune system will work on the virus.

Its nonsense the idea of allowing your body to ‘flush it out’

I am amazed that people are being so cavalier about what sounds like norovirus. NFW would I be going anywhere near anyone with D&V, and nobody with noro (if that's what she's got) should be having a great big wedding party and infecting all the guests.

I'd take my chances with Covid, but not with norovirus.

if you all get ill you'll be no use to her-dont stay over just go early tomorrow

Poor woman!

If it’s Norovirus, it should pass within 24 hrs
but as you know she’s still infectious for 48 hrs afterwards.
Alcohol gel does NOT work against Norovirus transmission, it’s an incredibly tough virus that needs active hot water and soap 🧼 to wash it off the hands.

She could easily infect the whole Wedding party as Pp have said.

If there are older people there it could be far more serious for them.

What a bummer.

When I have Norovirus ( or suspected as have never had a test for it) I isolate myself in my bedroom and bleach the heck out of the loo and all hard surfaces
And stay away from others for 48 hrs.

Dioralyte or mint tea and honey are good even if she can’t keep it down.

Thanks for all the replies. As another PP said, I also have emetaphobia so the idea of a sleepover with someone who could potentially take me out, didn’t sit well with me at all!
she’s a very ‘ah well, it’s fine’ type of person so there’s no way she’ll cancel tonight or the actual wedding. The other bridesmaids don’t seem phased by it so will all still be there.
As others have said, if they all go down with it, the wedding will be screwed! What a nightmare. I know if I miss tonight, she won’t be happy

See I thought homeopathy was the theory that like treats like in minuscule doses but I’m not sure what the like is in sugar pills to treat gastroenteritis. Homeopaths theorised when their water solutions were shown not to contain any of the “like” compound that water has memory. Which it doesn’t. Anyway what I’m taking from this is that homeopathy is “any old shit that doesn’t have a proven therapeutic effect”. I do believe in the placebo effect and it’s great for certain things. Probably won’t treat diarrhoea though, not really a mind over matter thing is it?

Don’t go tonight! I agree with you although not that it matters if everyone else is going!! Some viruses/bacteria have a very short incubation period 8-12hrs so NOT going tonight could avoid you being ill tmw and then it can go ahead as planned with hopefully just the bride feeling unwell. Surely that’s the best outcome? If I were her, I’d sack it off anyway and get an early night. I do really feel for her but it’s for the best.

Has the D&V stopped now? Call to the doctor for advice & medication given the circumstances. Also is it possibly nerves? sounds extreme but nerves can make some people very ill with those exact symptoms.

I agree. Its not nice to be sick but unless you're particularly vulnerable it's not the end of the world. If you practice good hygiene around the person you'd probably be fine anyway. It's such a shame that since covid so many people's thoughts turn immediately to themselves when someone is ill, rather than thinking of how they can support the person who is sick.