A few months back, when he first got his own iPad, I discovered my 11yo son had been looking up videos of something really really strange.
Firstly I apologise for not writing what it is here. I’m worried this post will come up when he searches for this topic again.
It’s nothing remotely illegal or adult or sexual or dangerous, just really really odd and definitely indicative of something very odd on his mind. Nothing to do with sexuality or gender either.
I’ve raised it with him before and asked (very calmly and non judgementally) why he looked that up so often and would he like to talk about it more. I said he wasn’t in any trouble at all but it was an unusual thing to be looking up. He was embarrassed and said no reason at all and refused to talk about it any further.
It stopped for a while but I’ve found a load more searches from the last few days.
As I say, it’s nothing ‘bad’ at all. It’s certainly within the parental controls I have on his iPad. If he’d only looked it up once or twice it wouldn’t be a concern at all, but he’s looking it up over and over again.
While I realise it’s hard to give advice when I’m not giving specifics, my question is more around how I talk to him about it again.
If he were a friend I’d want to say “dude this is really bloody weird. Why the F are you looking this up so much?” But I can’t say that to my child!
I’m a single parent so I can’t ask his dad to talk to him (it’s not a man related thing anyway).