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For thinking OH is rude to keep asking me to open + share my b'day chocs?

202 replies

QualityStreeter · 30/08/2023 02:48

It was my birthday a few days ago + I was given a large selection of chocs + sweets. OH keeps wanting me to open my presents so I can share them with him. He makes very unsubtle hints, like "I really feel like some chocolate, I wonder where I can find some".
AIBU to think this is rude + that the decision to open + share my birthday food presents should be mine?
On my birthday itself, after a meal out + cake, I felt over full. I told him I was too stuffed to eat anything else. After the 3rd or 4th "hint" to open some treats, I told him that he was being rude to keep asking.
But he has just continued to make these hints all the time. We've eaten some, just not as much as he'd like. I even opened some of the boring chocs tonight, not because I really wanted any, just to shut him up.
I will open + share all my presents eventually. We have kids; no treat has been 100% mine ever since they were born! But I don't want to gorge on my presents like he seems desperate too. They are mostly my favourite chocs that I only get as presents. I want to savour them over a month or two. I've stashed most of them away to bring out gradually. He is being so blatent I'm not sure if I trust him not to just help himself.

OP posts:
44PumpLane · 30/08/2023 02:52

Honestly, hide them away and only eat them when you are alone.

Next time you're at the supermarket buy a couple bars of dairy milk out of house funds so if he's a chocolate bore you can hand him a twirl and be done with it.....he can bore off!

tt9 · 30/08/2023 03:02

open them all.. look him in the eyes and eat them all. don't give him a single one

MaryJanesonabreak · 30/08/2023 03:28

Ignore the greedy toad. Tell him to stop being such a baby and go to the shop/garage and buy himself some sodding chocolates.

SD1978 · 30/08/2023 03:29

Ignore him. Tell him to go buy some if yea that's desperate but you're saving yours for a time you'll enjoy them too, not just open them because that's what he wants as they are your present!

Fraaahnces · 30/08/2023 03:30

Out of sight, out of mind. I’d get the kids some crappy chocs and tell him they were all gone.

cheeseandketchupsandwich · 30/08/2023 04:00

It's chocolate. Share them and buy some more. Jesus.

mumofboys8787 · 30/08/2023 04:02

What the hell?! Just let him eat the fecking chocolates you stingebag

Sausage1989 · 30/08/2023 04:04

Just share them and if they go and you want more then buy some more. Jesus.

LardoBurrows · 30/08/2023 04:15

Don't share, just buy some cheap chocolate next time you do the supermarket shop and fling them in his direction next time he starts whinging and griping like a five year old. Hide your chocolates from him and the kids and eat them alone so you can savour them slowly without having to look at old greedy guts drooling and slobbering every time you eat one.

ZekeZeke · 30/08/2023 04:17

It's chocolate, not some rare find.
I really don't understand the unnecessary drama. Just open it ffs.
But tell him he has not to eat it all.

HollieHobbie · 30/08/2023 04:28

The chocolates are her birthday presents why should she be forced to give away her presents just because someone else wants them? 😳😡

asecretslob · 30/08/2023 04:32

What so she can't have any treat to herself and look forward to because her husband is greedy ?

SeriousFaffing · 30/08/2023 04:34

HollieHobbie · 30/08/2023 04:28

The chocolates are her birthday presents why should she be forced to give away her presents just because someone else wants them? 😳😡

Agree with this, particularly when he’s incessantly hinting in an unsubtle way. They were bought for you, not him.

RenegadeMasterx · 30/08/2023 04:40

Omg is this a joke post lol? Just share them I don't see the problem

Purditnin · 30/08/2023 05:03

Just tell him to stop? Use your words. If he wants chocolate, he can go buy some. Tell him this.

BlueKaftan · 30/08/2023 05:07

Seriously? Just share the chocolates. He’s your partner fgs not some random.

Unexpecteddrivinginstructor · 30/08/2023 05:21

If you would prefer to eat them over the course of a couple of months then tell him that. He can go and buy himself some chocolate or get some cheap chocolate in the shopping. Hassling you for food given to you is unattractive. I found that as a mother so much of you is shared out, it is nice to just have a few things that are yours. I would be clear with him though. Some people find it really hard knowing there is chocolate in the house uneaten.

What happens with the children's chocolate? Is he there at Easter secretly munching on their Easter Eggs if they haven't eaten them fast enough?

WingingIt101 · 30/08/2023 06:43

tt9 · 30/08/2023 03:02

open them all.. look him in the eyes and eat them all. don't give him a single one

🤣🤣🤣

Do this. Please.

BanditsOnTheHorizon · 30/08/2023 07:26

I get it, since having dc nothing has been my own either, I'd be telling him to 'go and buy his own' chocolates and hide the birthday ones

RedHelenB · 30/08/2023 07:45

cheeseandketchupsandwich · 30/08/2023 04:00

It's chocolate. Share them and buy some more. Jesus.

This. Never understand the rationing out of chocolates. Scoff them near your birthday and share with your loved ones.

Themuffintop · 30/08/2023 07:51

YABU. Just share them.

2teenboys · 30/08/2023 07:54

I think you ABU, I don't think that's rude at all I certainly wouldn't be offended by it. It's a bit greedy but I'd laugh it off and open them. I don't think I could ever be so easily offended by anything DP said.

Shortpoet · 30/08/2023 07:57

Eat them and share them (or not) in your own time.

I agree with others. Buy some cheap decoy chocolates and hide your own. You are allowed something for yourself.

Buy him a box of the nice ones for his birthday. He can do with them what he wants.

HirplesWithHaggis · 30/08/2023 08:04

I remember my mum bursting into tears because the rest of us (four kids) had eaten her Special K (then punted as a "diet food") and she felt she has nothing of her own. I get that. And I get you wanting to keep your special chocolates as special. Chop his hands off.

pickledandpuzzled · 30/08/2023 08:06

Does he actually care about the quality of chocolate?

I begrudge sharing mine with someone who would probably prefer dairy milk or miniature heroes. He doesn't get it.

I'm greedier for chocolate than he is. But it really gets my goat when he eats something really nice and special then says something like, 'gosh these are so overpriced! What's wrong with a nice mars bar?!'

It's just wasteful to eat a treat while actually not appreciating it.

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