For thinking OH is rude to keep asking me to open + share my b'day chocs?

[QualityStreeter]

It was my birthday a few days ago + I was given a large selection of chocs + sweets. OH keeps wanting me to open my presents so I can share them with him. He makes very unsubtle hints, like "I really feel like some chocolate, I wonder where I can find some".
AIBU to think this is rude + that the decision to open + share my birthday food presents should be mine?
On my birthday itself, after a meal out + cake, I felt over full. I told him I was too stuffed to eat anything else. After the 3rd or 4th "hint" to open some treats, I told him that he was being rude to keep asking.
But he has just continued to make these hints all the time. We've eaten some, just not as much as he'd like. I even opened some of the boring chocs tonight, not because I really wanted any, just to shut him up.
I will open + share all my presents eventually. We have kids; no treat has been 100% mine ever since they were born! But I don't want to gorge on my presents like he seems desperate too. They are mostly my favourite chocs that I only get as presents. I want to savour them over a month or two. I've stashed most of them away to bring out gradually. He is being so blatent I'm not sure if I trust him not to just help himself.

I don't share chocolate, especially not expensive bought especially for me chocolate. YANBU

Do you work? If so I'd take them to my place of work and keep them in a drawer. Eat on your terms

.... it's only chocolate. Just share it. I wouldn't expect DH to ask me before opening them tbh?

You’ll probably have the problem of your co-workers circling round like sharks instead 😂

Haha no I don't tell them about the goodies.

Your house sounds like there are no boundaries in place and potentially a bit (or very) unhealthy.

Does your husband have no access to money? Is he housebound? Or do you live in some kind of confectionery desert where chocolate is not readily available in the shops?

Those of you who are saying “just share them with him, buy some more” - you must be very wealthy to afford chocolates all the time? I only receive a couple of boxes of chocolates per year for Christmas, birthday, maybe Mother’s Day. It costs about £30 per box! And DH knows that, so he might accept one or two chocolates but he certainly wouldn’t take half! Equally I wouldn’t expect to share his chocolates, because he also only gets them a few times a year.

DP wouldn't get the chance to ask for chocolates as I would have already told him to help himself. He does the same with me. There are plenty of areas where we disagree, but this isn't one of them!

Funny how @cheeseandketchupsandwich @mumofboys8787 and @Sausage1989 all said the exact same thing in 4 minutes at 4am U.K. time

It's the OP's birthday gifts. She deserves to keep them and enjoy them when and how she wants. It wasn't HIS birthday. I bet if he got a really nice present he wouldn't be keen to share.
Just because it's edible stuff doesn't mean it's not HER present. People wouldn't ask to share a new hairdryer or perfume so why the difference?

Those suggesting she should share or just "buy more" - why should SHE buy more when it was HER birthday?

What's funny about that? I was awake, I posted my opinion. Hilarious

Yes this! The hints and begging are just so off putting. He needs to go buy his own chocs and leave OP's alone for when she wants them!

I also agree with a PP comment about a "selfish sharer" who takes the majority of treats. I had a BF when younger who was exactly like this and he was a very entitled, selfish person overall. I was only with him for a matter of weeks before figuring out he was not a nice person.

@cheeseandketchupsandwich I'm perfectly grown up thank you - it's the OP's DH who is being immature and childish wanting to eat HER present. She is absolutely entitled not to share if she doesn't want to. Or share on her own terms at a time of her choosing.

She is absolutely right to find this obnoxious. People who trample over other peoples wishes because they can only think from a selfish point of view "I want that" are not mature. I'm sure her partner is important but it's also important that she gets to keep and use her presents as she wishes, not as he wants. Mums are often put last - a birthday is one time they should be spoilt a bit and he won't even let her enjoy her own present. That's selfish.

Would not bother me at all

Why wouldn't you want to share with your partner, do you not particularly like him or something? This seems like a really weird hill to die on!

Ooh, careful, you might pull something if you stretch much further!

Tell him to buy chocolate if he's so desperate.

She should be more important to him than his desire for chocolate, which he can buy for himself rather than insist she opens hers.

This response, and others, smacks of another recent thread where the man is fully at fault yet some MN users see fit to somehow turn it in order to blame the woman. Crazy.

I can’t imagine not just opening them and sharing them. It’s odd to do anything else imo.

Why should she share her birthday gift when she doesn’t want to or is ready to? Nothing is stopping her husband from getting off his arse and go getting his own.

It’s OP’s gifts regardless of what they are therefore it is up to her when she wants to open it and share it. She wants to savour her presents (especially the ones she rarely gets) not have it gobbled up the first week by her husband who will likely see it as fair game the moment she opens it and leaves some left over and go back to eat the rest.

Gifts do not have to be shared simply because they’re edible and there’s more than one.

Wait until he's not looking and then lock them in the boot of your car.

Don't say anything else, just ignore him. He'll get the message eventually that your birthday presents are yours, not his.

Is he the sort who doesn't order dessert but then takes some of yours without asking?

Oh OP, this is MN and you've admitted to the heinous crime of celebrating your birthday as an adult, and getting gifts you care about.

I'm team buy some generic chocs. When he hints so ok baby, I'll go and get you some, then throw a twix at him. When he mentions the fancy chocolate, say you had a craving and ate them all.

It isn't about "omg it's just chocolate" it's about him trying to take something that was gifted to you because he wants it.
If this was say a painting set, should you just give it him if he asks for it? A cozy cashmere sweater cos he's cold in the garden? A weekend with the girls - if he likes Paris should he just be able to take your spot?

Same principle.

If he wants chocolate, he can buy some.

Because she doesn't want one right now. So it isn't sharing is it? Opening them and basically handing them over to him isn't sharing.
If she also had a lovely cashmere jumper and tomorrow he's cold in the garden should she let him wear it because he thinks it looks cosy?