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Do I need to calm down? Man peeing in the car park

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BogStandardBogWee · 14/08/2023 20:09

So a bit of a weird one - meant in a lighthearted tone but also.. am I being a bit irrational

today I came out of the gym and when I got to the car park there was a man who had also been in the gym peeing in a bush in front of my car. As I came up to my car I could see that it was kind of running back towards my car 🤢 the conversation went:

me: uh, excuse me!? that’s disgusting

him: oh sorry! You caught me out haha

me: seriously though you couldn’t have used the gym toilet before you left?

it then escalated with him being arsey in an “alright luv calm down” sort of way, which became very patronising and included a lot of swearing

Because he was pissing me off I told him I’d decided to report him to the gym for his language/behaviour. I said it mainly just to annoy him more tbh

I haven’t done this. I probably won’t. I wouldn’t usually have the gumption to get into an argument.

I should let it go right? I don’t know why but I am still annoyed about it 😂

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WorldCuppa · 15/08/2023 11:20

For those who say report him, who to? The police? ‘I saw a man last Tuesday and he was urinating in a bush’. Hardly the stuff of CSI.

MrsJellycat · 15/08/2023 11:32

Yet another case of men thinking it's their god given right to piss wherever they want. It's revolting. I'd definitely report him to the gym.

houseonthehill · 15/08/2023 11:53

So presumably he went from "leaving the gym, not needing a wee" to "so desperate, he can't wait until he drives home" and wees out in public...?

This does happen - pre-diabetes, for example.

Jennygosoftly · 15/08/2023 21:41

MrsJellycat · 15/08/2023 11:32

Yet another case of men thinking it's their god given right to piss wherever they want. It's revolting. I'd definitely report him to the gym.

I'd go further that, I'd take a photo on my phone and report to police as well.

OnTheBoardwalk · 15/08/2023 22:17

Remagirl · 14/08/2023 23:14

@OnTheBoardwalk it wasn't on the persons drive. It's swear btw.

Yeah that it wasn’t someones drive but a very public place with his dick out and my auto correct make ALL the difference 👏

OnTheBoardwalk · 15/08/2023 22:21

FFS makes not make @Remagirl gonna be after me again. Still a man with his dick out in public with a toilet nearby

SoUtterlyDoneIn · 16/08/2023 01:13

BiscuitsandPuffin · 14/08/2023 20:14

I think you were unreasonable to keep going on at him after your first comment. He clearly got the point and tried to style it out. He probably would have taken on board not to do it again if you'd left it at that, but as it is, you've come across as argumentative so he'll probably just dismiss the whole thing as "some angry woman" and do it again somewhere else another day.

Maybe, just maybe there is some better path through needing a wee than getting his penis out in a public place, going to the toilet next to some woman's car like a beast of the field, then giving them "calm down luv" if they have the audacity to dislike the experience, and having to "style it".

Something without the misogynist/perv vibes would be better. Like I don't know, using the nearby toilet? Maybe kicking up a stink lets him choose that better path. If so, best for everyone.

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