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Do I need to calm down? Man peeing in the car park

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BogStandardBogWee · 14/08/2023 20:09

So a bit of a weird one - meant in a lighthearted tone but also.. am I being a bit irrational

today I came out of the gym and when I got to the car park there was a man who had also been in the gym peeing in a bush in front of my car. As I came up to my car I could see that it was kind of running back towards my car 🤢 the conversation went:

me: uh, excuse me!? that’s disgusting

him: oh sorry! You caught me out haha

me: seriously though you couldn’t have used the gym toilet before you left?

it then escalated with him being arsey in an “alright luv calm down” sort of way, which became very patronising and included a lot of swearing

Because he was pissing me off I told him I’d decided to report him to the gym for his language/behaviour. I said it mainly just to annoy him more tbh

I haven’t done this. I probably won’t. I wouldn’t usually have the gumption to get into an argument.

I should let it go right? I don’t know why but I am still annoyed about it 😂

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turkeytwizzlerss · 14/08/2023 21:22

PixiePirate · 14/08/2023 21:03

This is gross. I never see us women squatting down in the street/car park/a bush. Why do men seem to get a special pass from so many people?
Taking it a step further, I particularly hate the temporary urinals that are erected in some town centres on weekend evenings If women can hold it, so should men.

I can see the need in Amsterdam for them but not in other cities.

Actually no, was disgusting when I saw a man pissing during the day in Amsterdam.

EmpressaurusOfCats · 14/08/2023 21:26

If these men can’t hold it in they should be back in nappies. Pathetic.

Tilllly · 14/08/2023 21:42

@Itsaloadofbollocks
Not in my police area

LemonLymanDotCom · 14/08/2023 21:44

I was wandering past my living room window earlier today, and a guy dashing across our estate car park caught my eye… he dashed right up the a gap in the bushes, pulled his trousers down and obviously took a shit.

Then an hour later my dog went mad barking as he looked out the same window, cos our urban estate fox had rocked right up to right where the manky man shat.

I guess I’m saying it could be worse OP!

FiveOClockWorld · 14/08/2023 21:45

PixiePirate · 14/08/2023 21:03

This is gross. I never see us women squatting down in the street/car park/a bush. Why do men seem to get a special pass from so many people?
Taking it a step further, I particularly hate the temporary urinals that are erected in some town centres on weekend evenings If women can hold it, so should men.

There should be more public toilets generally . However that's a moot point in this case as there were toilets nearby.

FiveOClockWorld · 14/08/2023 21:46

Amethys · 14/08/2023 20:39

Report it. He could have used the gym toilet, or waited until he got home, but he chose to do it in public right by someone’s car where women have to watch him piss and it stinks up the car park. He’s a nasty exhibitionist who probably had a wank about it all when he got home.

This. It must be a fetish if he was doing this instead of using the nearby loos.

Screamingabdabz · 14/08/2023 21:49

BiscuitsandPuffin · 14/08/2023 20:14

I think you were unreasonable to keep going on at him after your first comment. He clearly got the point and tried to style it out. He probably would have taken on board not to do it again if you'd left it at that, but as it is, you've come across as argumentative so he'll probably just dismiss the whole thing as "some angry woman" and do it again somewhere else another day.

Women know your place! Don’t ‘go on’ at men too much in case you upset them. Can’t have women getting chippy with reasonable questions - men do not like it. Make sure you only do and say things that please men.

Jeez. Fucking handmaids.

CaroleSinger · 14/08/2023 21:49

HelloSquire · 14/08/2023 20:20

Bollocks
He was out to shock, stop making excuses and 'style it out' give over with that crap , there was a loo he could easily use
Honestly the shit you read on here

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Out to shock? Tucked away behind a bush in an area he didn't think anyone would see? Uhm...ok...

TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · 14/08/2023 21:51

It's a criminal offence. Report to gym AND police.

LAlD · 14/08/2023 21:52

Its no worse than dog piss, is it, yet we have millions of the mutts regularly pissing on our streets, and shitting, too.

it’s all gross, but you didn’t see his penis, I expect he thought he’d have a quick pee in a quiet corner and no one would see.

Aquamarine1029 · 14/08/2023 21:54

LAlD · 14/08/2023 21:52

Its no worse than dog piss, is it, yet we have millions of the mutts regularly pissing on our streets, and shitting, too.

it’s all gross, but you didn’t see his penis, I expect he thought he’d have a quick pee in a quiet corner and no one would see.

A lot of men have less sense and decency than dogs, so you might be on to something.

🙄

HowardKirksConscience · 14/08/2023 21:59

EAP · 14/08/2023 20:37

It's grim but it sounds like you've got far too much time on your hands.

Why, because she objects to a grown man pissing in public near her car (she said it was running towards her car… disgusting) and then swearing at her when she perfectly reasonably calls him out on it? Or because she wants to hear other people’s opinions on it? You’ve clearly got too much time on your own hands if you bothered to come in here and make that facile contribution to the debate. Are you bored this evening?

MrsTerryPratchett · 14/08/2023 22:08

LAlD · 14/08/2023 21:52

Its no worse than dog piss, is it, yet we have millions of the mutts regularly pissing on our streets, and shitting, too.

it’s all gross, but you didn’t see his penis, I expect he thought he’d have a quick pee in a quiet corner and no one would see.

I thought the bar was a little low but 'men are no better than dogs' is a new low.

Redhothoochycoocher · 14/08/2023 22:16

BogStandardBogWee · 14/08/2023 20:21

This was my thinking and what I was wondering to be honest…

Fully prepared to accept that I was just “that angry (crazy hormonal pregnant) lady”

still gross though 😂

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This actually makes me sad to read. You were well within your rights to say what you said. Don't feel the need to lower your standard or temper your instincts to meet the base behaviour of ignorant men. Hold the line.

OnTheBoardwalk · 14/08/2023 22:16

MrsTerryPratchett · 14/08/2023 22:08

I thought the bar was a little low but 'men are no better than dogs' is a new low.

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Yeah dogs having a wee is absolutely the same as a man getting his dick out in a car park. Absolutely a new low

Remagirl · 14/08/2023 22:18

Urine is sterile. It's odd but maybe he was caught short, perhaps he has a medical condition and he reacted defensively because he was embarrassed. Honestly if it happens again maybe report but give the guy a break.

OnTheBoardwalk · 14/08/2023 22:18

Agreeing with you @MrsTerryPratchett sorry didn’t pull the original quote

houseonthehill · 14/08/2023 22:20

I think you’re making a fuss about very little. He had chosen what he thought was a discreet spot, and was initially embarrassed. And it’s not liquid plutonium.

OnTheBoardwalk · 14/08/2023 22:21

Remagirl · 14/08/2023 22:18

Urine is sterile. It's odd but maybe he was caught short, perhaps he has a medical condition and he reacted defensively because he was embarrassed. Honestly if it happens again maybe report but give the guy a break.

Would you like me to have a wee in your drive heading towards your car then sware at you when you asked me to stop?

DrManhattan · 14/08/2023 22:23

Scruffy AF

DrManhattan · 14/08/2023 22:24

@houseonthehill so where does he wash his hands after touching his dick?

turkeytwizzlerss · 14/08/2023 22:25

Urine isn't sterile

turkeytwizzlerss · 14/08/2023 22:26

Remagirl · 14/08/2023 22:18

Urine is sterile. It's odd but maybe he was caught short, perhaps he has a medical condition and he reacted defensively because he was embarrassed. Honestly if it happens again maybe report but give the guy a break.

Urine isn't sterile. Apart from it stinking it's clearly not the type of environment we should live in where men piss everywhere.... do you not remember pissy stairwells in car parks

houseonthehill · 14/08/2023 22:26

DrManhattan · 14/08/2023 22:24

@houseonthehill so where does he wash his hands after touching his dick?

Same question could be asked of all the people saying they piss in non-car park outdoor locations. It won’t kill anyone.

DrManhattan · 14/08/2023 22:29

@houseonthehill no one said it was going to kill anyone but its gross and totally avoidable in this situation. What If the op had a young child with her? The guy does not give a fuck, he could have gone back inside

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