Do I need to calm down? Man peeing in the car park

BogStandardBogWee · 2023-08-14T19:09:04+00:00

So a bit of a weird one - meant in a lighthearted tone but also.. am I being a bit irrational today I came out of the gym and when I got to the car park there was a man who had also been in the gym peeing in a bush in front of my car. As I came up to my car I could see that it was kind of running back towards my car 🤢 the conversation went: me: uh, excuse me!? that’s disgusting him: oh sorry! You caught me out haha me: seriously though you couldn’t have used the gym toilet before you left? it then escalated with him being arsey in an “alright luv calm down” sort of way, which became very patronising and included a lot of swearing Because he was pissing me off I told him I’d decided to report him to the gym for his language/behaviour. I said it mainly just to annoy him more tbh I haven’t done this. I probably won’t. I wouldn’t usually have the gumption to get into an argument. I should let it go right? I don’t know why but I am still annoyed about it 😂

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BogStandardBogWee · 14/08/2023 20:10

the peeing usually wouldn’t bother me somewhere rural with no loos…. But I’d seen him in the gym!

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Newusernameaug · 14/08/2023 20:11

Imagine his face if you just squated there and urinated 😆

Id report him, will teach him a lesson!

anythinginapinch · 14/08/2023 20:12

Report. Men are fucking vile far too often

JMSA · 14/08/2023 20:12

He's gross. And a dickhead to boot.
Why would a grown man choose to do this, when kids or anyone could see.

HelloSquire · 14/08/2023 20:13

No you're not @BogStandardBogWee , bloody report him
We had this in London recently, it's fucking disgusting

TheFlis12345 · 14/08/2023 20:13

I would report him. It’s one thing to pee if you get caught short in the woods on a long walk or something but right outside the gym? There is absolutely no need for that, I don’t believe he went from not needing to go to desperate enough to wee in a car park in a couple of minutes. It sounds like he wanted to get caught.

Ostryga · 14/08/2023 20:13

Men are vile! No you’re not being unreasonable. I would have let it go if it was a 3 year old, not a full grown man using the gym NEXT DOOR.

Do report him. These creatures never learn unless they actually have consequences.

BiscuitsandPuffin · 14/08/2023 20:14

I think you were unreasonable to keep going on at him after your first comment. He clearly got the point and tried to style it out. He probably would have taken on board not to do it again if you'd left it at that, but as it is, you've come across as argumentative so he'll probably just dismiss the whole thing as "some angry woman" and do it again somewhere else another day.

Avatartar · 14/08/2023 20:15

Call the gym now, they may have him on cctv

BCBird · 14/08/2023 20:15

Report him. Unacceptable.

panko · 14/08/2023 20:16

BiscuitsandPuffin · 14/08/2023 20:14

I think you were unreasonable to keep going on at him after your first comment. He clearly got the point and tried to style it out. He probably would have taken on board not to do it again if you'd left it at that, but as it is, you've come across as argumentative so he'll probably just dismiss the whole thing as "some angry woman" and do it again somewhere else another day.

That's his issue

MrsTerryPratchett · 14/08/2023 20:17

BiscuitsandPuffin · 14/08/2023 20:14

I think you were unreasonable to keep going on at him after your first comment. He clearly got the point and tried to style it out. He probably would have taken on board not to do it again if you'd left it at that, but as it is, you've come across as argumentative so he'll probably just dismiss the whole thing as "some angry woman" and do it again somewhere else another day.

He probably is a misogynist. These types of men pissing everywhere and taking up space generally are. Not OP's problem though.

Dirty bugger.

EscapeRoomToTheSun · 14/08/2023 20:18

No reason to do that when the loos are open and right there!

Fotophrame · 14/08/2023 20:19

Do tell the gym. Hopefully they'll have CCTV and he deserves to be embarrassed.

JennyForeigner · 14/08/2023 20:20

panko · 14/08/2023 20:16

That's his issue

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Right?

I really do not get the 'Oh well, he won't change and you probably came across a bit unfeminine for trying actually' thing.

At least try! And if the world doesn't become a better place immediately, keep trying. Nothing will change while we're all so conflict averse we can't even bear not to tell a twat not to piss on our tyres.

HelloSquire · 14/08/2023 20:20

BiscuitsandPuffin · 14/08/2023 20:14

I think you were unreasonable to keep going on at him after your first comment. He clearly got the point and tried to style it out. He probably would have taken on board not to do it again if you'd left it at that, but as it is, you've come across as argumentative so he'll probably just dismiss the whole thing as "some angry woman" and do it again somewhere else another day.

Bollocks
He was out to shock, stop making excuses and 'style it out' give over with that crap , there was a loo he could easily use
Honestly the shit you read on here

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BogStandardBogWee · 14/08/2023 20:21

BiscuitsandPuffin · 14/08/2023 20:14

I think you were unreasonable to keep going on at him after your first comment. He clearly got the point and tried to style it out. He probably would have taken on board not to do it again if you'd left it at that, but as it is, you've come across as argumentative so he'll probably just dismiss the whole thing as "some angry woman" and do it again somewhere else another day.

This was my thinking and what I was wondering to be honest…

Fully prepared to accept that I was just “that angry (crazy hormonal pregnant) lady”

still gross though 😂

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SarahC50 · 14/08/2023 20:21

Absolutely report him, he could have used the gym toilet but instead chooses to expose himself in public v dodgy. And right Infront of your car, as a lone female that would have scared me. Report him to the gym and 101 to log it. He had no need to expose himself in this manner. We all need to stop tolerating behaviour like this x

HowardKirksConscience · 14/08/2023 20:22

BiscuitsandPuffin · 14/08/2023 20:14

I think you were unreasonable to keep going on at him after your first comment. He clearly got the point and tried to style it out. He probably would have taken on board not to do it again if you'd left it at that, but as it is, you've come across as argumentative so he'll probably just dismiss the whole thing as "some angry woman" and do it again somewhere else another day.

That’s right, blame the woman for openly objecting to a man’s disgusting behaviour.

As I said elsewhere on this site recently, people like you are part of the problem.

HelloSquire · 14/08/2023 20:22

Agree @HowardKirksConscience

viques · 14/08/2023 20:23

It is revolting. I used to live near Highbury and Islington Station and on home match days there would be a continual stream of urine going across the pavement from the pigs lining up against the wall next to the station. And of course being football there was a considerable police presence, but nothing was ever said .

SarahC50 · 14/08/2023 20:23

@HowardKirksConscience absolutely agree too

stuckdownahole · 14/08/2023 20:24

I expect 99% of the people replying to this will, at one time or another, have pulled over in a car park, layby or field gate and made a dash for the bushes. But this is different. If you saw him in the gym then he's a member there and could have nipped (back) in to use the loo.

I doesn't sound like he had a legitimate excuse, so you were right to tell him off.

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BogStandardBogWee · 14/08/2023 20:24

Ok full disclosure - I was in a more tucked away/bushy corner of the car park so I think it’s likely I did just catch him out rather than it being intentional

and I didn’t see anything! (Thank goodness)

this was about 11am

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BogStandardBogWee · 14/08/2023 20:25

stuckdownahole · 14/08/2023 20:24

I expect 99% of the people replying to this will, at one time or another, have pulled over in a car park, layby or field gate and made a dash for the bushes. But this is different. If you saw him in the gym then he's a member there and could have nipped (back) in to use the loo.

I doesn't sound like he had a legitimate excuse, so you were right to tell him off.

This was my point

it’s a full facilities gym, not macchu picchu

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