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Fed up of my greedy husband

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Yoloohno · 13/08/2023 23:18

Once again I’ve returned home to find hex eaten something that was bought for myself or by another member of the family as a treat and left me the communal food for me to eat. Think greggs filled doughnut V Tesco jam doughnut.

As a one off fair enough but it’s time and time again. He will eat what he wants regardless of who has bought it. Gifted chocolates from clients that I’ll save, kids Easter eggs it’s fair game.

Yet his treats never make it to the communal cupboard, they either get eaten straight away or get hidden in his car.

Once again it’s sorry. It’s Sunday night and I can’t even replace what’s been eaten. Am I being unfair.

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justanothermanicmonday1 · 13/08/2023 23:20

You need to find a decent hiding place, OP. Save yourself the heartache 🤣 my DP ate prawn cocktail crisps I was saving last year when I was pregnant with DC1, when I went to get them all hell broke loose and he didn't dare repeat that mistake again lol

Magenta65 · 13/08/2023 23:20

So why are you still facilitating this. If he can hide his treat so can you. Perhaps you need to have a shelf each etc and say this is mine that’s yours, don’t touch. He needs to grow up really and respect boundaries. However food in a Communal cupboard would be fair game in most houses unless stated otherwise

Groutyonehereagain · 13/08/2023 23:21

I would go completely batshit if this was my DH. He’d be so shaken up, he’d never do it again. Steal my chocolate? That would be LTB territory.

EvilElsa · 13/08/2023 23:23

I'd start hiding everything you and the kids have. The eating everyone else's treats and hiding his own is outrageous!! Greedy pig. I'd be really tempted to buy a lovely cake and fill it with dog food or similar and let him take a mouthful of that. Greedy pig.

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Yoloohno · 13/08/2023 23:28

I have hid my chocolate in my boot, then bought them out to eat and he’s still helped himself to the ones I “don’t like” without asking. it’s futile. I lose my shit and it’s somehow my fault every time and sorry should be enough.

But I come home from work and all I want is the treat I bought to find it’s gone and the thing he could’ve eaten with pleasure but not as nice is what I’m left with.

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TheShellBeach · 13/08/2023 23:31

OP if it's in the house it's fair game IMO.
Anyone can eat anything in my house.

BounceyB · 13/08/2023 23:31

I'd be really pissed off at this. He needs to stop doing it. It's really unhealthy and really unfair.

LardoBurrows · 13/08/2023 23:33

By now I would have left several treats filled with various delicacies such as ex-lax, cat food, dog shit and rancid pork, anything really that makes him think twice before troughing his way through everyone else's food.

Teapleasebobb · 13/08/2023 23:33

So say that you had a cake in the fridge that was yours and you really wanted it and it was in a paper bag, if you wrote on that bag 'DP do not eat this cake its mine and I want it' what would he do? Not saying that you should have to do this at all, but literally spelling it out, would he still eat it?

monsteramunch · 13/08/2023 23:34

TheShellBeach · 13/08/2023 23:31

OP if it's in the house it's fair game IMO.
Anyone can eat anything in my house.

Even kids Easter eggs?

Teapleasebobb · 13/08/2023 23:38

TheShellBeach · 13/08/2023 23:31

OP if it's in the house it's fair game IMO.
Anyone can eat anything in my house.

Surely that's just selfish? say it was a box of chocs that were a gift to your dp, are you saying that you'd eat them Without asking? Even though they're not yours?

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Yoloohno · 13/08/2023 23:44

TheShellBeach · 13/08/2023 23:31

OP if it's in the house it's fair game IMO.
Anyone can eat anything in my house.

Really even things that were personally bought for you and they were aware of it.

Dealing with an older dc who is aware what they have and Dad has snaffled it because it’s been there longer than he feels appropriate.

Im tempting to spit on my treat next time. No one else will eat it, we all respect boundaries.

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AutumnCrow · 13/08/2023 23:45

TheShellBeach · 13/08/2023 23:31

OP if it's in the house it's fair game IMO.
Anyone can eat anything in my house.

So you eat the contents of your DC's Christmas stockings? Your DP's father's day presents? Somebody else's pudding?

MsRosley · 13/08/2023 23:52

Wasn't there a thread recently where the wife actually left her DH for doing this?

MsRosley · 13/08/2023 23:53

TheShellBeach · 13/08/2023 23:31

OP if it's in the house it's fair game IMO.
Anyone can eat anything in my house.

You sound like a pack of hyenas.

Runnerinthenight · 13/08/2023 23:55

MsRosley · 13/08/2023 23:53

You sound like a pack of hyenas.

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^ this!

My H has form for this. Helps himself to something the kids (adult) have bought for themselves, something they were planning to have for dinner etc.

We now charge him when he does it. It's hard to hide everything particularly in the fridge.

TregunaMekoides · 13/08/2023 23:56

You need a petty cash box with a lock or something.

MasterBeth · 14/08/2023 00:00

TregunaMekoides · 13/08/2023 23:56

You need a petty cash box with a lock or something.

No, you need a husband who respects you.

WhateverMate · 14/08/2023 00:00

Hell would freeze over before I hid food in my own house.

It would also freeze over before I allowed anyone to fuck up my kid's self regulation, just because they themselves don't have any.

My best friend grew up in a house like yours OP, and she quickly learned to binge eat all her Easter eggs and any other treats because if she put them in the fridge/cupboard, they sure as hell wouldn't be there in the morning.

AutumnCrow · 14/08/2023 00:00

Runnerinthenight · 13/08/2023 23:55

^ this!

My H has form for this. Helps himself to something the kids (adult) have bought for themselves, something they were planning to have for dinner etc.

We now charge him when he does it. It's hard to hide everything particularly in the fridge.

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Women and their long-suffering DC need to invent some kind of chiller safe that only they have the combination to - or get a 2nd fridge and stick a padlock on it somehow, and he doesn't get a key.

EvilElsa · 14/08/2023 00:00

I'd buy a lock box too if you can't hide things. I'd tell him why as well. I can't stand greed -I don't mean hunger. We all get hungry, some have big appetites. I mean selfish, eating gifts and kids treats greed. Hiding your own food while eating others greed. So unattractive.

WhateverMate · 14/08/2023 00:01

Should add, she's in her mid fifties now and still has HUGE issues with food, thanks to her greedy bastard parents.

WhateverMate · 14/08/2023 00:01

MasterBeth · 14/08/2023 00:00

No, you need a husband who respects you.

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This ^^ all day long.

IHateLegDay · 14/08/2023 00:02

Let's hope he doesn't accidentally eat a treat that you've coated i laxatives....

MrsCarson · 14/08/2023 00:09

Buy chocolate that is sweetened with Stevia. Should put him off if he eats the whole bar or box.