Page 12 | Fed up of my greedy husband

Mrsgreen100 · 15/08/2023 19:01

Greedy is as greedy does .. hope you haven’t got a joint bank account!

Pliudev · 15/08/2023 19:11

I understand your pain OP. I bought two sample pots because I was seeing the nurse for a check up and they also needed a sample from him for an unrelated issue. I put them on the windowsill in the loo and before I went to bed I told him to wee in one first thing. He weed in both. It's not quite up there with eating the Easter eggs but I think it shows quite a grabby nature no?

JusthereforXmas · 15/08/2023 19:22

Me and DH have almost entirely different diets so hes unlikely to want anything I eat... its quite handy.

Dispite this he always makes sure I have food I want and will pop to the shops if I run out of anything.

Every marriage has their unique boundaries one of ours is DH need to make sure Im fed or else like a spider I may bite his head of instead. I honestly think he wouldn't dare eat my food for fear of WW3, I get as he says 'Hangry' lol.

Roxy69 · 15/08/2023 19:54

He can understand boundaries, he chooses to ignore them for his own selfish gain. Lovely behaviour from an adult.

ThistleTits · 15/08/2023 20:36

Yoloohno · 14/08/2023 00:13

I know tomorrow he’ll bring me a bunch of flowers ax an apology because he’ll feel guilty.

But I can’t eat flowers, doesn’t change my hunger and disappointment.

m He isn’t bad just greedy and can’t understand boundaries.

Although my dc would appreciate the cash box. They’d sometimes prefer the cash to what they’re bought.

Of course he can understand boundaries, he's an adult. He is choosing not to follow any boundaries and do exactly what he likes because he can.

PalominoUK · 15/08/2023 21:09

I went to make myself my favourite cucumber and peanut butter sandwich. I knew there was several jars of peanut butter, smooth and chunky, and was really looking forward to it.
Only 26 year old son has eaten all the peanut butter, but no sign of any of the jars, which would have told me we were getting low.
He does have dyspraxia, which can affect his self restraint, but all he had to do was tell me he'd eaten the last of it.😥

Bookloverjay · 15/08/2023 21:09

Yoloohno · 13/08/2023 23:18

Once again I’ve returned home to find hex eaten something that was bought for myself or by another member of the family as a treat and left me the communal food for me to eat. Think greggs filled doughnut V Tesco jam doughnut.

As a one off fair enough but it’s time and time again. He will eat what he wants regardless of who has bought it. Gifted chocolates from clients that I’ll save, kids Easter eggs it’s fair game.

Yet his treats never make it to the communal cupboard, they either get eaten straight away or get hidden in his car.

Once again it’s sorry. It’s Sunday night and I can’t even replace what’s been eaten. Am I being unfair.

Your DH sounds like a twat. A huge massive twat.

Crikeyalmighty · 15/08/2023 21:12

Back in the day (80s) my dad ate a whole layer of my wedding cake whilst I was on honeymoon- and was being saved to take into work when I got back

BFwoes · 15/08/2023 21:15

Pliudev · 15/08/2023 19:11

I understand your pain OP. I bought two sample pots because I was seeing the nurse for a check up and they also needed a sample from him for an unrelated issue. I put them on the windowsill in the loo and before I went to bed I told him to wee in one first thing. He weed in both. It's not quite up there with eating the Easter eggs but I think it shows quite a grabby nature no?

Why did he do this?! Did you ask? It’s considerably worse than eating Easter eggs and a bit nuts, tbh.

BFwoes · 15/08/2023 21:16

PalominoUK · 15/08/2023 21:09

I went to make myself my favourite cucumber and peanut butter sandwich. I knew there was several jars of peanut butter, smooth and chunky, and was really looking forward to it.
Only 26 year old son has eaten all the peanut butter, but no sign of any of the jars, which would have told me we were getting low.
He does have dyspraxia, which can affect his self restraint, but all he had to do was tell me he'd eaten the last of it.😥

So, why didn’t he?

PalominoUK · 15/08/2023 21:19

BFwoes · 15/08/2023 21:16

So, why didn’t he?

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Forgot? Dyspraxia affects all different parts of life in strange ways.

Toomuchtrouble4me · 15/08/2023 21:29

I don’t really have this - DH wouldn’t eat the kids Easter eggs but anything else in the cupboard or fridge is up for grabs. If there were something I wanted for me I’d probably pop a post-it note on.

Mummaoffour1234 · 15/08/2023 23:34

This is really unacceptable behaviour, eating special treats that you’ve saved for yourself or the children are saving is awful. No - sorry isn’t enough - controlling yourself and sorting your own treats out is better. It’s pretty obvious which treats are fair game (the biscuit tin) and which ones are individual (boxes of nice chocolates given as a gift and Easter eggs). You don’t live in a student house…

Chocolatehamper · 16/08/2023 00:26

Somewhereovertherainbowweighapie · 14/08/2023 02:58

Buy two treats. Drop one on the toilet floor take a photo then throw it out. The put an identical one in the fridge with a note saying please don’t eat. When he eats it print the picture and stick it on the fridge.

Nope, eat the second one yourself - put the toilet floor one in the fridge with the note then give him the picture when he’s eaten it.

PyongyangKipperbang · 16/08/2023 00:38

Chocolatehamper · 16/08/2023 00:26

Nope, eat the second one yourself - put the toilet floor one in the fridge with the note then give him the picture when he’s eaten it.

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I would put it on the loo seat personally, bonus points if you smear a wee bit of melted chocolate on the loo seat near it first.

CelestiaNoctis · 16/08/2023 05:43

Quickest way would be to shove a bunch of laxatives into your treats. Don't think he'll ever do it again after that.

MikeRafone · 16/08/2023 06:55

CelestiaNoctis. And op is left to clear up the mess 🤢

MadMadaMim · 16/08/2023 12:38

His greed is the least of your problems. He sounds awful, controlling, selfish and generally not a nice person who want to control your life and when you can/can't treat yourself.

Get a lock for one of the cupboards that only you can open. Get a lockbox for the fridge. B see whatever friends you like - he doesn't need to like them, they they're not his friends.

Break the cycle.

Funhouse8 · 16/08/2023 13:24

My partner can be like this, but he wont eat special treats unless I say he can have some. However if he eats it he usually will replace it. So if he eats the kids chocolate buttons he will replace it, so I don't tend to mind too much and neither do they. Maybe I'm laid back but it doesn't bother me too much.

However if I got home and he'd eaten something I really had saved and wanted I would be sending him straight out to the shops to get me something. And I would bitch an whine so much about him doing it, he wouldn't do it again because it's not worth the ear ache 😅

PalominoUK · 16/08/2023 16:48

I bought a cash box for my treats, my greedy pig picked the lock

BadgerFacedCoo · 16/08/2023 17:00

MysteryBelle · 14/08/2023 06:37

You’re a weirdo if you don’t know the difference between stealing a coworker’s lunch and having the last of the cookies in your own house.

You all are bonkers. Do you put your name on rolls of toilet paper and pens to make sure your children and spouse don’t ‘steal’ them?

Deranged.

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'Yes' would have done.

Greedy guts.

pompomdaisy · 16/08/2023 17:07

Lace them with chilli a few times. It's like Pavlov- condition him to stop. The greedy !

Iwasafool · 16/08/2023 18:54

pompomdaisy · 16/08/2023 17:07

Lace them with chilli a few times. It's like Pavlov- condition him to stop. The greedy !

Beware revenge. I remember hearing Claire Rayner talking about her days as a student nurse in shared accommodation, someone kept pinching her butter so she put a note on it to say, "I spat on this" and when she got home someone had added "so have I." She didn't say if she chanced it or threw the butter out.

T1Dmama · 17/08/2023 13:33

My ex husband used to do this!! He got an easter egg from me, my daughter and one from my parents and Nan… I got one from my nan and parents….. He ate his 3 and then without me knowing ate mine from the fridge… when I fancied a piece I asked where it was and he argued it was his… I named each egg he got.. for example Mars from me, yorkie from mum etc…and he said ‘oh yeah!’ I was so cross because he hadn’t bought me one AND ate the one someone else had bought me! Then he’d say to our DD.. can I have some of your chocolate!
Last Christmas he visited our DD and ate majority of her stocking that I’d bought her!… after he’d left I had to replace it all because she was upset!
I literally started labelling food in the end.
like your husband he’d have his own stash for his work packed lunches that no one was allowed to touch without him moaning, but he seemed to think everyone else’s food was fair pickings. Did my head in..
Same with drinks, we’d go shopping and he’d never want any drinks bought but would think nothing of taking my last can of coke! In the end I used to hide my drinks in the saucepan cupboard. It’s awful you have to do that in your own house. I would never help myself to something I knew was his!

PalominoUK · 17/08/2023 17:46

I'm actually finding this discussion quite difficult because as a child my mum used to help herself to my sweets, when during the day she'd limit how many I could have. Now I have the same issue with my adult son. I am type 2 diabetic, so I have to limit my cards, so its doubly frustrating when I do fancy a little something (not a treat, too many implications with calling food a treat or reward) and its not there.