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Topless abroad . Yes or no

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HowmuchcanispendatChristmas · 03/08/2023 16:03

Just after everyone's opinions. I'm on an all inclusive holiday . Nothing flash . European destination. Hot sunny . 3*. Would you feel offended if a female sunbathes topless at the pool? Just for context I have done , but put bikini top on to go in pool and her drinks . It's literally just going topless when laying on sunbed . More context age range is babies up to 70+ . Lots of different shapes and weights of people . Lots of bellies make and female and lots of big boobs on men. Like I say this is just for context . Just interested in people's opinions. I'm with my husband on holiday .

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Inwiththenew · 04/08/2023 21:45

Depends where you are. Portugal for instance, it would be inappropriate except in designated areas on beach.

kituskatus · 04/08/2023 21:48

I’d say you’re imposing your nakedness on others: that’s old-hat these days and generally now considered discourteous. Simple as that.

Danielle8p · 04/08/2023 21:48

@HowmuchcanispendatChristmas I have a 13 and 15 year old son who would feel really awkward/uncomfortable

royalwatch · 04/08/2023 21:58

When i was a kid, my mum and her mates
all did it but its no longer a common thing

Matildahoney · 04/08/2023 22:04

@explainthistomeplease that's what she said! I wasn't sexualising anything.

GladAllOver · 04/08/2023 22:06

Danielle8p · 04/08/2023 21:48

@HowmuchcanispendatChristmas I have a 13 and 15 year old son who would feel really awkward/uncomfortable

Why have they grown up to get embarrassed about the human body?

browneyes77 · 04/08/2023 22:09

StarlightLady · 04/08/2023 20:01

@Overworkedandunderpaid22 "don’t be a tart". No need for misogynistic language because you are of a different opinion.

@browneyes77 - The sight of the female breast will not scar children for life.

Not saying it would.

But it feels a little inappropriate to have your knockers out in front of children.

Blossomtoes · 04/08/2023 22:10

GladAllOver · 04/08/2023 22:06

Why have they grown up to get embarrassed about the human body?

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They’re teenagers. Very easily embarrassed.

Planetegg · 04/08/2023 22:22

I wouldn’t, only because my boobs have been savaged by my greedy babies, and they are basically on my knees now with a bikini/bra.
wouldn’t bother me one bit if others go topless though. Good for you being comfortable in your own skin!

Danielle8p · 04/08/2023 22:32

@GladAllOver they definately haven't grown up to be embarrassed by the Human body, however they are young men and Im sure most people understand how they may feel awkward/embarrassed. They are very respectful young lads and as their mum I understand they respect their own privacy as well as others and most definately shouldn't have to have boobs on display in front of them.

Danielle8p · 04/08/2023 22:33

@Blossomtoes exactly. I wonder if she would feel the same about a man walking around with his dangleys on display infront of young girls at a family pool!

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HowmuchcanispendatChristmas · 04/08/2023 22:40

Wow lots of opinions on here since I last checked. Thank you to everyone . I spent about an hour topless yesterday and had my top on today . But that's because it's my body ,my choice . If anyone is offended that's their issue. Everyone is entitled to their opinion . Someone remarked yesterday would I take my bottoms off and show my anus . Erm no because I don't want to and I'm not bothered about tan lines on my butt . Again my body my choice .

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Tessabelle74 · 04/08/2023 22:44

browneyes77 · 04/08/2023 22:09

Not saying it would.

But it feels a little inappropriate to have your knockers out in front of children.

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Do you insist your husband keeps his t shirt on too? Or is it only female breast tissue that gives you the vapours?

Hopelesscynic · 04/08/2023 22:54

HowmuchcanispendatChristmas · 04/08/2023 22:40

Wow lots of opinions on here since I last checked. Thank you to everyone . I spent about an hour topless yesterday and had my top on today . But that's because it's my body ,my choice . If anyone is offended that's their issue. Everyone is entitled to their opinion . Someone remarked yesterday would I take my bottoms off and show my anus . Erm no because I don't want to and I'm not bothered about tan lines on my butt . Again my body my choice .

🤣🤣🤣 at the anus comment!

MsBIobby · 04/08/2023 22:55

Do you insist your husband keeps his t shirt on too? Or is it only female breast tissue that gives you the vapours?

Tess, would you honestly strip off in front of your dad? You can't pretend there's no difference

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HowmuchcanispendatChristmas · 04/08/2023 22:57

Hopelesscynic · 04/08/2023 22:54

🤣🤣🤣 at the anus comment!

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Exactly. Theres a vast difference in showing off your bum cheeks in a thong and spreading your butt and showing your starfish to the world 😂

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PurpleChrayne · 04/08/2023 23:31

I would massively judge. Why would you show your breasts to all and sundry? Have some dignity.

Tessabelle74 · 04/08/2023 23:47

MsBIobby · 04/08/2023 22:55

Do you insist your husband keeps his t shirt on too? Or is it only female breast tissue that gives you the vapours?

Tess, would you honestly strip off in front of your dad? You can't pretend there's no difference

Quite happily flopped them out to breastfeed in front of my Dad AND my FIL. If they had a problem they hid it well so yes I would actually.

Mamanyt · 05/08/2023 00:11

I wouIdn't, but I'm 70, and no one, incIuding myseIf, wants to see my droopy oId boobies. Does it bother me if others do? Not in the Ieast.

Gingernan · 05/08/2023 05:48

I don't sunbathe so wouldn't be aware of what was going on around the pool, personal ly not a part of my body I would risk getting singed!

SnozPoz · 05/08/2023 05:57

I would look at what the locals do. And probably wouldn't around the pool but would on a beach where a lot of other women are. And if it was making my husband or those I was with feel uncomfortable I wouldn't do it either.

Mothership4two · 05/08/2023 06:09

I never have but wouldn't bother me if someone did in a place where it is accepted.

BoneyEmmm · 05/08/2023 06:11

HowmuchcanispendatChristmas · 04/08/2023 22:57

Exactly. Theres a vast difference in showing off your bum cheeks in a thong and spreading your butt and showing your starfish to the world 😂

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What about your pubic area? Is it ok to expose that poolside, in your world?

MsBIobby · 05/08/2023 06:13

Quite happily flopped them out to breastfeed in front of my Dad AND my FIL. If they had a problem they hid it well so yes I would actually.

Wow, that's not what I said. I've also breastfed in front of my dad and FIL (discreetly). Never topless sunbathed in front of either though.

AussieMum135 · 05/08/2023 06:28

I would of thought it was very 80s....I don't care about your boobs.... but sunbathing....who does this now with everything we know about skin cancer and sun damage?? But I'm Australian and it's now drummed into us about covering up.