DH said I’m in the worst shape I’ve ever been

[Amiinthewrongg]

I’ve started working out today and have been in my workout stuff. So obviously more skin on show. He looked at my belly and started giggling and I said what’s so funny. I had to beg him to get the truth out and he says your probably in the worst shape you’ve ever been in.

The thing is he is absolutely right so I can’t be mad at him but it hurts so bad.

I’ve had 3 kids 3 c-sections and I work an office job where I barely move all day. I’m not a big eater will only eat my dinner and a chocolate bar and a cup of tea throughout the day. But I get no exercise.

Feel like I can’t be mad at him but my heart feels broken as pathetic as it sounds.

I think you’re a bit confused.
Where did I say that if (IF) OP was obese, he should endorse it?
However, she does deserve respect, which does not include being ridiculed.
I understand the difference, do you?
You go in in another post to say absolutely not on to laugh at someone fully agree. It's not only hurtful and mean, but immature

So, what exactly are you on about? Or just on, really.

Vile wanker. He'd be giggling with my fist in his face 😡

Wow. Overreaction much.
I mean you decide if it's relevant or helpful though I just don't think yours is neither. A bit like telling an anorexic about your amazing diet. But you do you.
I must try a more sunny demeanor like yours, joyful swearing and all.
Agree we should stop derailing the thread though (my original point).

What size are you OP? Do you need to lose weight?

@user64827771 FFS

SHE WAS IN HER WORKOUT GEAR
SHE WAS IN HER WORKOUT GEAR
SHE WAS IN HER WORKOUT GEAR She wasnt wearing it for shits and giggles.

Which seems to have escaped the usual concern trollers who usually appear on weight threads.

So shes obviously already doing something about it. But OP do it for yourself not for those on here who pretend to be my body my choice OR your knob of a DH

Now im off to giggle at those on the sober threads. And when they ask what im laughing at i can blame them for asking amirite??????????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Why is that relevant?

He's clearly in the wrong isn't he.

However you put it pretty much everyone agrees it's hard to find agreement on mumsnet.

Definitely worth talking to him telling him how awful his comment is.

BTW though anyone can lose weight (or change anything) else for the reason they want to. If a man wants to go to the gym to impress his wife totally fine his business. If I get a boob job for my husband thats my business.

That's not the problem here is it!?! The OPs husband has behaved in an inconsiderate, unkind, twatish way . That's the problem!

I wouldn’t go so far as to say what he said was spousal abuse, but it absolutely bloody well was really unkind and hurtful.

He’s a grown man, not a child, why on Earth couldn’t he think of a more positive thing to say to you?!

He’s decided to pick the moment when you are dressed to take a proactive step towards getting fitter and smashed your self esteem. Nobody asked him to laugh at your body. Nobody needed him to point out ‘this is the worst shape you’ve ever been in.’ What was needed was some encouragement - you’re going to get in great shape - and positivity. I think he’s not only tactless and lacking in sensitivity but actually quite unpleasant. He physically pushes you away and insults you. This is not about you being over-sensitive. He should feel bloody ashamed and never ever speak about your body like that again.

@pinkyredrose to figure out whether she is actually overweight or not. Why else?

This is a discussion about appearance and weight - her size is entirely relevant.

It's not a discussion about her appearance.

It's about her husband being disrespectful and hurtful.

to figure out whether she is actually overweight or not. Why else?

@Amiinthewrongg It wouldn't justify his laughing at her and comments when she had just been doing a work out or was about to.

Laughing at her in her workout clothes is not going to help. If anything it'd potentially inhibit her working out, as she'd feel self-conscious when dressed for it, as she's been mocked and effectively bullied.

It is verbal/psychological abuse whether it's true or not. It's like a school bully.

I’m afraid I also don’t think it is. It doesn’t matter if she’s living her best 600 lbs life. You don’t laugh at people. Anyone, and make comments like that as you do.

You don't need a tummy tuck. The only surgery you need is to detach the dickhead unless he wakes up to himself pdq.

I hope Mr Perfect knows that there are other men out there who will appreciate what he doesn’t.

Self care and continue to do you 💐