The Mumsnet passive aggressive comment thread 😂

[RootbeerLolly]

I was driving through a small cotswold village yesterday and there were a number of roadsigns that really reminded me of mumsnet. 😂

First there were several 30mph signs. A few hundred feet along was another sign saying 'It's still 30'. Next was 'Remember?' and then my favourite....'Had you forgotten?'

I've no issue as the fact they stayed in my memory likely means they better achieved their purpose than if they just went unnoticed, but the 'Had you forgotten?' really reminded me of the mumsnet classic 'Did you mean to be so rude?' 😂😂😂

I thought it'd be funny to have a thread to capture these mumsnetisms. The other common one I always see is 'doesn't sound like you like her very much' which I just encountered five mins ago on the thread where the OP is concerned her obese friend may not cope with the physical aspects of the job she's putting her forward for.

Hit me up with your favourites or show me your passive aggressive anger at my daring to mock this established mumsnet institution!

Also just read that one and immediately thought of this thread 😂 the contempt for the poor OP for PARKING!!

Watch out, there are spies in the camp reporting back to the threads referenced 🤣

"OP - what did you want from your post. A hand hold??"

Maybe some sympathy? some empathy? God forbid some useful advice?

Ahh thank you so much 🤣🤣🤣 x

Cherchez la femme

Are you very young?

"Maybe you just don't understand how your heating works"

It's flipping zone controlled and on my phone as well as manual.

Maybe you don't understand how my heating works.

"Lighthearted" on a mean-spirited post that isn't even trying to be funny, as an attempt to deflect any criticism for it.

I didnt know that either.

I'm using that the next time my friend insists a jammy Dodger is a cake.

Yeah and then if you reply that it's not really lighthearted they get all huffy

"Just take in some ironing/get a second job/move house" when the OP has said she already has 3 jobs, can't move for her own reasons like it's that easy

Use your words.

Who the hell says that to anyone over the age of five?

I haven't been on Mumsnet that long but, for those that have, has there been a change in attitude post-Covid?

I generally find there is a different, less kind atmosphere everywhere since the odd Covid years so I just wondered.

This is head-bangingly awful!!

'Use your words' is unforgivably patronising.

Are you a man, OP?

I used to think like you when I was very young.

Not passive aggressive at all, sorry but anyway:
My husband has been a little distracted. Not sure why
Google death grip and porn addiction

And in 'other things that didn't happen'...

just saw this on another thread "stop it! or I'll report you to the passive aggressive thread" said in response to someone who commented "it's not a biggie. is it?"

this feels like mumsnet inception ... mumception?

@tt9 yes nothing worst than doing a AIBU and someone downplaying what you
Think is/isn't being unreasonable.

If a poster can't contribute to the thread other than gatekeeping, don't.

You mean you moved your new partner in after only knowing him for 3 years?! No wonder your children are having ishooos

As usual the first post after the OP nailed it. 🌹

From a current thread:
School holidays is it?

Just seen a good 'un:

"Oh - you're one of those mums"

It’s absolutely everywhere when you become alert to it. But for so many people on this site, whether it’s an issue with a family member, a neighbour, a colleague, passive aggression is the automatic response. It seems so hardwired that people probably don’t even know what they are doing. It’s simply how you interact with people.