What would you think if this happened to you?

[Paintedrockk]

Just curious.

Ten years ago when I was in secondary school I was seeing this guy and I was head over heels for him but he never committed. Was just young and naive at the time

Two years after we left school we started seeing each other again but just for sex and chilling together, again he wouldn’t commit, he felt a bit used at the time as I really did like him and my feelings never really went away

He then got into a relationship with somebody straight after ending things with us hooking up and I felt hurt about it as he never committed to me or made things official and I felt a bit used

Fast forward to now they split about 6 months ago and he is contacting me asking how I’ve been saying long time no speak stranger etc. what would you do?

Also saying we should catch up.

Block. He just wants sex.

Ignore it or politely decline. He won't have changed and is probably hoping for a hookup again.

That meant to say I felt used at the time not he

Block him

Ignore him and block. He's only after one thing and I think if you are honest with yourself you already know that.

Ignore. He wants sex and nothing else. He sees you as an easy hook up.

I would laugh and block him while thinking what a cheeky bastard he was for thinking he could pick me up and drop me for sex every time he's got nothing 'better' on offer. Hope that helps, you're worth more than that OP

He thinks you're an easy lay.

There is really no need to block him, it would make you look overly hurt and dramatic.

I agree with PP's, he's just looking for sex, block him and move on, otherwise he'll only hurt you again. Show him that you have more respect for yourself than to fall for his ploys a third time.

Well, how old are you both now? How long ago was your relationship? What has been going on in your life? Are you even single?

I had someone just like this in my life. Honestly, it’s an age old story that’s been done 1000 times before, don’t allow him to make you tell it again.

Block.

You are sex and an ego boost and you need to be no one's fool

He's a total waste of space, don't give him the time of day. He will be contacting other women as well, trying his luck. Don't sell yourself short. He's treating you as an option when he's got nothing better.

The words I needed 12 years ago. So right.

He just wants a fuck buddy
I wouldn't respond

What do you want from him and if it's more than casual hook ups why do you think he's going to change and suddenly commit to you when he has never done so before?

Sounds like he thinks you are both happy in a no strings, casual, FWB hook up relationship (which some people are) whereas you want a more commited relationship.

There are 2 options: Continue as you are but accept he wants no commitment or block him and tell him you're only interested if he will commit and then live with the consequence if he doesn't want that.

Why not catch up, go out together- make sure he pays- but don't have sex? Take his offer of catching up at face value if you want? If you're hurt and upset, say no and leave it at that

This

Ignore and block now.

I had similar scenario and 17yrs later I'm still with him (although it was me that didn't want to commit and got into another relationship). We have 2 kids, mortgage etc. Wouldn't swap hom for anyone.

Go for it.

@MissesMorkan we are both 25 now, 26 this year. I’m single. He was with his last girlfriend I think for like 6/7 years which was the last time I saw him and they split about 6 months ago

He’s just out of a LTR and contacting his previous fuck-buddy. If you felt a bit hurt and used last time, don’t give him the opportunity to do it again.

This. Value yourself more x