I have lived in partner’s property for 8 years now and we agreed when I moved in that I would pay for the groceries, the Sky TV, broadband and the vets bills for the dogs we own.
Partner pays the council tax ( he pays single occupancy and gets a discount ), water, gas and electricity.
Now living here for the last couple of years has been like living like I’m back at home with my parents.
I am not allowed to have a bath.
I can only wash my clothes once a month ( I have to ask him before hand as he says the water pipes are often turned off? )
We sometimes eat in the dark and the lights are turned off after a certain time.
I am not even allowed to use the oven unless he is also putting something in the oven.
I can just about manage a shower a day for 10 minutes.
We cant flush the toilet unless someone has been for a number 2.
Toilet will then be flushed at the end of the day causing a horrific smell of urine in the bathroom.
My partner pays a month:
Electricity £60
Water £25
Gas £30
Council Tax £90
I pay a month:
Groceries £400
Dog food £40
Broadband £20
Sky £100
And also covering the vet bills, annual vaccinations, flea and worm treatment.
I do a weekly food shop averaging around £100 a week split at Aldi and Asda.
The food will be gone within 3/4days, as partner is so greedy and then complains there is no food in the house.
I try to limit what I eat to save money.
Partner will just eat what he wants.
He will use all the veg within days and the fridge will empty.
I will buy two huge bags of baking potatoes and they will be gone within 4 days as he will use 3/4 for one meal of jacket potatoes and the rest he will make mash/ roast potatoes with.
Hardly any left for me.
I cannot afford to keep doing these big weekly shops, he moans that he pays all the bills, but my bills are massive compared to his.
I have just paid £200 for my dog’s antibiotics who was ill last week.
He me his bank card and promised to me pay half but gave me the wrong PIN, so I had to pay all the bill myself.
Partner is very wealthy, he owns several Buy to Let’s and his parents are very rich too.
We have been arguing a lot lately as partner was annoyed I never got his dad a Fathers’s Day card/ present.
Again these things cost money, something partner does not seem to grasp.
I dont see why I should as I dont particularly like his dad and defo do not see him in a fatherly role, and plus I have my own dad!
I have suggested that I move out and get my own place as I cannot keep living like this.
His parents live next door and are always sticking there nose in our business.
Partner has just started a new job and his mum text me asking why I was not cooking for him.
I work full time myself, have to do all the cleaning and look after the dogs!
Partner has suffered from depression in the past ( so have I ) but living like this is really making me feel down, I feel like a prisoner.
I do not love him, not attracted to him and I have only stayed for my beautiful dogs who I love so much.
I really dont know what to do as partner will always make me feel guilty every time I have tried to leave in the past.