To ask what the rudest thing your child has said to you in a melt down?

[DrSeuss84]

Tonight my very hormonal, 12 year old, pre teen told me to “shove off” when I made a joke about her playing with Lego instead of tidying her room. Quickly followed up with “you ruin everything”. It took me back a bit to be honest. It was completely out of character. It got me wondering 2 things:

1. is this normal teenage behaviour? Or is my child suddenly going off the rails?

2. what’s the worst thing your child has said in a rage.

Brilliant 😂

Are you trolling us OP?

I wish "shove off" was the worst I'd heard!

Also, yeah as others have said that's not a meltdown. You have it SO EASY if that took you by suprise and that's what you consider a meltdown. Just FYI. This is why some of us are sensitive about the word meltdown.

My DS called another child a fucking idiot for hurting him the other day.

He's 7 😬

He's said a lot worse and more shocking tbh, but not necessarily rude - more distressing.

DC is mid teens, ASD/ADHD. Lots of meltdowns unfortunately. I'm frequently told to fuck off, kill myself, fat cunt, a failure etc. The worst was he called me a cancerous cunt once. Even I was shocked at that.

It's strangely relieving to see that other parents of kids with similar profiles are writing similar things. Making me think it can't just be me! Commiserations obviously.

On a funnier note, once when playing Scooby Doo with DC when they were much younger, I said I would be Daphne. I got a withering look and..."You are so much more Velma than Daphne".

I don't have anything useful to say but I just wanted to send you love and strength and wish you well x

Also parent of a child with PDA/ASD, he's 11. 'Fuck off and die' is his most common. Or 'get the fuck off me' when I'm nowhere near him 🤷🏽‍♀️

My 3 year old absolutely loves telling me to grow up whenever he's having a tantrum.

Thank my MIL for that one.

Oh my god😂sorry but that's proper funny

My twins are both ND (referrals in for Autism) and never had any insults off Twin 1, but Twin 2's 'best' insult has been telling me I have a "disgusting hairy vulva" (she walked in on me changing and 'private parts' freak her out).
The girls tend to be matter of fact, rather than insulting, thus far (they're 5.5). I remember Twin 2 loudly announcing in church last year, whilst I was speaking to the Deacon's wife, "You're fat", which I probably responded to with "Yes, dear" (I was fat at the time).
This year, having lost weight, Twin 2 likes to tell me I'm saggy or wonky, which is still met with "Yes, dear'.

Oh I’m so sorry to hear that. It’s a crashingly awful age to lose a parent/ your co-parent (mine were 5 and 7). Sending much love to your family 💐

DD did the same, although she would also occasionally refer to the "sweet mummy" & the "spicy mummy". She explained that we looked exactly the same but one was sweet mummy etc. I thought maybe spicy mummy was when I got cross with her or something but although I'd occasionally ask her which one I was today it seemed to be random I might be spicy mummy even if I'd just done something nice like bought her an ice cream. I've never figured it out!

16 year old told me the other day she can't wait to move out because she won't have to look at my ugly face unless she wants to.
I heard her telling one of her little brothers that's she hates him and she wishes he wasn't born.

None of these was said when she was having a meltdown, when she has a meltdown she can't get her words out.

Bless you thank you. I am making a meal of life at the moment but am still getting up in the morning (well of course I am, otherwise we know there would be a repeated teenage “Muuuuuuuum” wouldn’t there?!)

Shut up you ugly old cow.

From 6 year old DD

We‘ve been reading the Twits

My DS is generally not that rude but a couple of his choicest outbursts are

'you're fat, you need to eat more lettuce'

and of his mostly absent father 'daddy's pretty hopeless really isn't he.'

I think I prefer being told I'm fat 😂

I got told today that I’m not invited to my 3 year olds birthday party - the worst punishment she could muster 😂

So many on here with ASD getting told to fuck off etc. My DD is under assessment for ASD, I didn’t know this behaving was a thing, I feel strangely comforted to know I’m not alone. I came on here thinking my DD would be the worse and when I read the OP I thought oh god it’s nowhere near DD level but now I’ve read on I feel better that it isn’t my parenting that made her say such horrible things. My DD says she hates me, tells me to go and kill myself, tells me she wishes I’d died instead of my mum, tells me my mum hated me and I never made her proud, as well as a long list of swear words and recently started with sexualised language. Called me a slut and said I was only interested in sucking dicks.

Funny that this thread came up just now, because my dd(5) has just had the biggest tantrum I've ever known her to have. She didn't shout insults or anything though, but she was vehemently denying doing something that I knew she did. I wasn't even cross about the thing that she had done, but she was screaming at me and in floods of tears. I asked her who did it and she said a ghost did it. I said there are no ghosts here, and she pointed at the open window and screeched 'it flew out the window'. Oh well.

And to those who claim you can only use “meltdown” if you are talking about a ND person - stop. This isn’t a medical term specific to ND people. It’s been used for generations to mean tantrum.

Reading this has really got me wondering about ADHD and my fidgety, boisterous, occasionally furious DS. He regularly loses his shit so badly he screams insults at us-stuff he’s picked up from school and books I guess. But also he tests out rude language for a reaction even when he’s chilled out.

Anyway worst was trying to find out exactly how old he’d be when I die-I was trying to be sensitive, but it turned out he was trying to find out ‘when I can do what I want’

Totally on a different scale. My daughter was 11 when I was doing a counselling course and (as part of the course) I asked her what 3 words she would use to describe me.
'Understanding' (great) 'Autocratic' (good word but really?) and 'Unsympathetic' (hmmm).

I didn't really agree at the time but looking back????????? And I think I definitely hit that profile now.

My 3 year old DS's best insults to me are "You are NOT my best friend", "You are VERY naughty" and "why do you always say everything wrong?", the last one with a look of sheer disappointed on his little face.

My 4 year old said last night, "if I hear go to sleep one more time I'm going to get really angry!"
She is being proper nightmare at bedtime lately!

I’m so very sorry for your loss x

I disagree meltdowns and tantrums are really different, so when my autistic daughter is having a meltdown , it's not a tantrum and it isn't her fault. So I actually think it's really harmful using them interchangeable, as society looks down on autistic children meltdowns , when actually people do need to be educated on what the difference is. The main one? They are not choosing to do it.